Ever get that feeling you can't shake?

I kinda feel bad about this...

But there's this guy at work that I just don't like. I don't know why. He's never been nasty or anything. There's just something about him that doesn't set right with me? I can't put my finger on it. It's not like I think he's doing something against the company or anything that serious, but something...just doesn't feel right...

Do you guys ever get that? What's been the outcome of situations like that? I try very hard not to show it because it's really completely unfounded, but I've felt this way since he started here...

I'd go with my gut if I were you. Every person I've met that I've felt that way about and ignored wound up burning me. So I just avoid them now.

just keep your eyes and ears open. theres usually a reason behind such feelings....

Yes, Heidi, these intuitions are usually accurate. I agree that you would do well to trust your instincts.

Once several years ago I was driving home after a night out with the girls. I had a suspicion that I was being followed. I did the infamous 4 right turns. I WAS being followed and drove to the police station!!
Can you speak to someone at work about him!!

Oh yeah I used to get that feeling having to work with all varieties of co-workers and contractors in my past career. You may have to give him the benefit of the doubt for a while, but don't roll over for him that's for sure. Perhaps you have the gift of being a good judge of Character Heidi. When you've got that talent, you're still left with one part of your brain that keeps reminding you that there's no proof yet, while the other part is telling you this person is not quite right. The outcome for me has always been that I was right. Sometimes I cut too much slack before I knew for sure. Try not to feel bad though. You're not a bad person for felling wary. It's just instinct.

Yes Heidi - I go with the rest - trust your instincts. As Ryan says, keep a watchful eye and don't go out of your way for this person whilst you're still weighing things up.

I came across this feeling strongly once - this person proved to be unpopular with others too and was not interested in being part of the strong knit group at the place I worked - instead we were simply a stepping stone and he left us high and dry at the first opportunity.

Yep, I agree - go with your instincts.

Originally Posted by GailC

Once several years ago I was driving home after a night out with the girls. I had a suspicion that I was being followed. I did the infamous 4 right turns. I WAS being followed and drove to the police station!!
Can you speak to someone at work about him!!

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scary! what happened?

I am with everyone else. Trust your instincts and be careful around him. If you are wrong no harm but if you are right protect your backside. I have many stories of "I knew there was something not right."

Tricia

ABSOLUTELY listen to your inner ear. I have this book called "Intuition" and if I hadn't read it years ago I'd probably have a very different life. I can't live without my sixth sense, I have to have it in peak operation every day. It guides me through even the smallest things.....

.....we have a guy like that here at work. He's been here about 2 years and he's just odd. By sheer coincidence, he met online and dated a good girlfriend of mine. We had a conversation one day and I asked her how her date xx night was and she said "He was just weird. He has so many issues, so deep, I don't even want to go there. I'm not going to see him again." I told her I sensed something was off....like he could blow at any minute or there was this rage seething beneath his skin. I did not like him, and I don't like him any more now. He hasn't done anything to get fired and apparently his work is good, but trust me, I wouldn't want him in the elevator with me after hours, not one bit.

The book, "The Gift of Fear" is an amazing book by Gavin DeBecker, a well-known PI in L.A. who teaches street defense and intuition classes.

I agree, always trust your instincts. I mean, if others can't see it then don't make a fuss... just be low key, keep your eye out and on him.

Thanks for the input. I'm going to keep on the low-key approach.

Beth, maybe that's what I'm feeling - like this is just a stepping stone? This guy, he's got 4 kids, is working on his 4th degree blackbelt, teaches martial arts, has a catering business on the side with his wife (they did our company Christmas party, and I'll admit...it was fabulous food!), also builds websites, and this on top of a full time job as an engineer. I mean...how many hours does this guy have in a day - like 50?? I just can't fathom doing all of that! OK, so he and his wife did the Christmas party, but he started pushing to do all of the company luncheons. We usually have 2-3 per month where lunch is provided in one way or another. (That idea was nixed, but my thought was...ok, if you are preparing and setting up lunch, then you can't possibly work that morning...) He approached one of the owners about building a website for the company like maybe a month after he started. Granted, I'm sure he didn't know that I am working on the website for the company...but I'm also sure he wasn't going to do it on company time like I am, but rather wanted a contract job for it. He's quiet, doesn't seem to chit chat with the other guys in the back.

I mean, I don't think he's going to go postal or anything like that. I don't think he's like embezzeling money. I highly doubt he's even so much as expanding his time sheet. But there's something...like he's too ambitious?

Sometimes people can have a very high I.Q., but an awfully low E.Q. Social/business graces and nuances are important. It's obvious when it's really lacking.

what will happen when he has a nervous breakdown from juggling all those jobs?

it will all come crashing down i guess!

Originally Posted by valanhb

I kinda feel bad about this...

But there's this guy at work that I just don't like. I don't know why. He's never been nasty or anything. There's just something about him that doesn't set right with me? I can't put my finger on it. It's not like I think he's doing something against the company or anything that serious, but something...just doesn't feel right...

Do you guys ever get that? What's been the outcome of situations like that? I try very hard not to show it because it's really completely unfounded, but I've felt this way since he started here...

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Heidi, it's always best to go with your gut instinct. Call me crazy but when I get that feeling, I consider it my "sixth sense".

Originally Posted by mrsd

Trust your instincts.

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DITTO!!!!!!!!!!!!

Heidi when i'm not sure about someone i'm the sort of person who stands in the background and watches and listens?!.

He certainly sounds like he's wanting to go far!!. I've seen it here over the years where at least 3 of our sales team become really ambitious and don't get me wrong they do bring the work in!, but a couple of years down the line they get above themselves and think "I can run my own company!" then try just that and fall flat on their face!, infact we have another one upstairs who is going the same way!, so i'm ready for another one to bite the dust!!.