I am so angry.......

My sister is having marriage problems and my mother is telling her she should stay with her partner even though it is obvious they are over.
She told me my sister wouldn't be able to make it without her guy essentially. BULL, if he's that horrible to you, then leave, kids or none. OH I am so angry I want to scream!!!!!!!!!

I'm sorry your sister's having a rough time. It's hard to contemplate a break-up, particularly when parents think about what their child will go through. But sometimes, it's the only route left open.

Maybe it was different when you mum was younger and it was harder for women to make it on their own; happily that's not the case today and if your sister needs to strike out on her own I'm sure there's nothing to stop her making a go of it.

Positive vibes coming your way

Thanks, see the problem is, my sister listens to my mom and doesn't want to disappoint her. So she will do whatever mom says. My sister is also kind of different, if you know what I mean. So she has a hard time with some things. not many just some...

It's all too easy to stay in a relationship for the security of it, but not only is it unfair on your sister to stay but it's unfair on her husband also.

She'd regret it later on in life.

Originally Posted by rosiemac

It's all too easy to stay in a relationship for the security of it, but not only is it unfair on your sister to stay but it's unfair on her husband also.

She'd regret it later on in life.

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Thank you!!!!! that's what I've been saying all this time but everyone is saying I'm wrong!!!!!
Sorry, I'm so angry right now, I could scream!!! mothers, why can they be so smart and yet so stupid sometimes!?

you aren't wrong, there is two sides to every story. I don't know ANYTHING about the situation you speak of but I find people TOO easily leave relationships these days and don't try to remedy anything. Obviously if there is abuse or cheating then one should leave.

I had the same thought about it being a different time than many of our mothers, and it was harder for women of their generation to make it on their own. Maybe you could explain that to your sister without making it sound like your mother just wants her to stay in a bad relationship. Your mother may not even realize that things are so much different now. My parents did not allow me college prep courses in school because they were convinced that I was going to marry and start having kids right after high school. They even had a guy picked out and my wedding planned.
I am sorry that your sister is going through a rough time, and wish her the best. It is often hard to leave a relationship, even a bad one, for fear of the unknown. I hope it works out how she wants it to, stay or leave. Please keep us posted on her progress, and let her know she has thoughts and prayers from people she does not even know.

It's not your mother's marriage (or anyone else's for that matter!), so no matter what your sister decides, it's her choice to make.
I work in a business where I help men and women leave abusive relationships, and I know how difficult it is. The best thing I can advise as a sister is for you to be there for her and support her, no matter what.
Now, not knowing anything about the relationship, if there ARE issues with abuse, feel free to PM me and maybe I can help you more!

I am the first person to file for a divorce in the history of my family. I was afraid that everyone would be very upset by the decision, but then I realized that I didn't care. When your sister is really ready and has lost all hope for the relationship she will leave regardless of your Mom's opinion. It took me a long time to have the courage. I'll be thinking of your sis!!!

Thank you everyone. I feel better now. It took me awhile now to realize that my mom is living in a different time then we are and thinks that my sister won't make it if she doesn't have a man to help her. it just upsets me. I wish she'd stop telling my sister that she'd never make alone.