Surely it is not just me!

I haven't actually looked in that part yet but if I did I probably would be in floods of tears as I am little miss sensitive!

*hugs*

I go to the forum regularly, but not frequently and offer what support I can. I find it too sad to go there often - but want to offer help when one of our TCS friends it going through such a sad time. I face a dilemma between finding it hard, but not wanting to abandon people *sigh*.

I used to go in there every day and made sure I responded to every thread.... I just had to prepare myself for the tears that were about to come.

I havent been in there for a couple of months however and that upsets me. I want to go in there, I want to help share some of the pain that people are going through, to know that we are all there to help - but lately my raging pregnant hormones have held me back - gosh I cry at commercials on tv right now - some that arent even sad

But ironically today, before I even saw this post I went back in there - I just decided it was something that "I" needed to do - so who cares if I sit here bawling - hormones or no hormones - the tears are still the same.

the blue room is a beautiful yet heartbreaking room, so many emotions, so much love, and oh so much pain is present in that room - yet I find it an amazing place where we can all come together to support each other in that desperate time of need.
And I think that no matter how hard it is for "me" to read those new posts - there is someone out there that needs my love & understanding as they are going through the most awful pain

I wonder if we can make this thread an active sticky that members can add onto, like an autograph book? I know there are members out there who lose a kitty and wonder if anyone really knows what they are feeling and if they'll get support. This thread is extremely supportive....even though the voices might be silent on a given day.

What a great idea!
What is a sticky??? I have seen them but do not know what they are exactly.

Originally Posted by sashacat421

I wonder if we can make this thread an active sticky that members can add onto, like an autograph book? I know there are members out there who lose a kitty and wonder if anyone really knows what they are feeling and if they'll get support. This thread is extremely supportive....even though the voices might be silent on a given day.

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I feel as you do, huggles. Even tho it hurts, I want to offer comfort.
Iknow if I lost either of my babies, I would CLING to any response I got as a support and a show of love and caring. It doesn't matter what anyone says, just that they care enough to reply.

I like Sasha's idea!

I don't go there often either, I never know what to say when anyone dies (furred or human) Sometime I just won't say anything, and I know that isn't right either... I just don't know what to say to comfort... and never sure if I should. I am always afraid that someone is just holding on by a thread, and if I mentioned the loved ones passing that they will break down.

Sometimes I feel so selfish that I can't bring myself to go there very often, or respond to many of the posts. As much as I would love to offer some comfort, it just seems like I can't find the right words, and end up sounding cliche' and trite. I think a sticky, sort of like a guest book at a funeral, is a wonderful idea. It would be a way for those of us that just don't know what to say could at least let those that have lost a loved one know that we are thinking of them, and they are not being ignored.

I have lost all the human people in my immediate family, and I know that just saying, "I am sorry," and offering hugs helps. I feel like I say trite stuff, too, but it is not! ANY show of love and caring is good. It just makes me so upset.
I have grown to love everyone here so much. I LOVE YOU ALL.

Bobbie

I don't go into the Bridge forum that often, but when I do I always end up crying. I feel so sad for those who have lost a beloved pet, and I wish there was something I could say or do that would help them through their pain. Most times I can't bring myself to post in there, and I feel bad for that because I know if I lost one of my furkids, I'd need all the comfort and support I could get.

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You're stronger than I am. I NEVER go there. Well, I did ONCE and I couldn't stop crying. It's too sad a place to be.

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That's exactly how I feel.

I unfortunately had to post in that forum twice last year. Its a good place but a sad place also. Sometime's I'll read but not post as it is to difficult. What I've always been curious though is how everyone remember's their cats and kittens that have crossed. For instance I buried Sheba in a plant border by my potting shed. I plan on doing some type of memorial planting. Tommy and Sierra are nearby buried under some trees. But what does everyone else do??? I don't know if that is an appropriate question to post on that forum???

Mt friend had her cat cremated, then put in an urn in the shape of a curled up kitty which she has in her home.

I've never had to cross that bridge yet, but i think i would do something like what you did.

Now i'm filling up just thinking about it

Originally Posted by GailC

I unfortunately had to post in that forum twice last year. Its a good place but a sad place also. Sometime's I'll read but not post as it is to difficult. What I've always been curious though is how everyone remember's their cats and kittens that have crossed. For instance I buried Sheba in a plant border by my potting shed. I plan on doing some type of memorial planting. Tommy and Sierra are nearby buried under some trees. But what does everyone else do??? I don't know if that is an appropriate question to post on that forum???

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Gail, I had buried the two kits that we have lost since moving down here under a big old oak tree that stood in our front yard, 'cause they both loved it..I had a lot of flowers under it, and a couple of kitty statues that I had placed there in memory of them......then in Nov. 2002, a tornado came and took that tree......I still don't have the words to express how much that hurt me!

But speaking again of the Crossing the Bridge, my only wish is that God would always grant me the words to say that would help each and every one who has posted there, to let them know that I feel their pain, and am praying for them.....'cause I do fail at that on my own.

(Ok, now I'm sitting here crying, and I'm running the register at the store...NOT a good combo!)

Gryphon was the first to go, and he loved the forsythia in the corner of the back yard. So he's buried under there. Shasta was next. She didn't have a particular favourite spot, but did Watch from there, and there was lots of room, so she's there, too. Nibs was cremated. We wondered about where to scatter his ashes, but then realized that while he did go out, he was really more of a house cat, so his urn is on the end table that was his regular route to Rob's lap.

Some day, perhaps in the not too distant future, we will need to move from here, because we know the landlord has plans for this property, we just don't know when -- neither do they at this point. When that time comes, we will get urns like Nibs's and take some of the earth from where Gryph and Shasta are buried, so we can take "them" with us.

I really think any positive attention towards reverie for our kitties is welcome in the Blue Room. I, too, have lost 2 since joining...

SiSi we never had answer for....except that Sasha was mauled to the exact day one year later that she disappeared. I took this as a huge message from the natural world to finally give me the answer I looked for. I have never cut the yellow riboon that is still tied around the largest tree in our yard. I can't bear to cut it, and I never will. Freddie, our kitten and who was given to me as a gift after SiSi and for Sasha's depression, is buried in a huge spot of sunlight, in the backyard right where he and Sasha would jump for bugs at sunset. Eric put down a heavy rock with a smiling kitten engraved on it, and we have a large wodden stake that's tied with the Indian leather band I made for him to drag up and down the stairs. Sasha sometimes will sit there and talk to something none of us can see. I smile when that happens.

You aren't alone, believe me. I know how devastating it is to lose a furchild - hell, we all do or we wouldn't be here at thecatsite. I would really wish that I could stand to go to the rainbow bridge more often and offer what little help and support I can, but since I do the bulk of my visiting here while I am at work, I just can't do it as much as I should or would like. I do need to get into the habit of going there when I am at home and it's safe to cry when the bridge upsets me. I feel a bit guilty that I don't go often enough, because I know very well that one day it'll be me posting in there, grieving for one of my little ones and I'll be sorely in need of the support and friendship myself.
I guess that should be a resolution of mine - to try to offer more help when I can.

Originally Posted by GailC

What I've always been curious though is how everyone remember's their cats and kittens that have crossed. For instance I buried Sheba in a plant border by my potting shed. I plan on doing some type of memorial planting. Tommy and Sierra are nearby buried under some trees. But what does everyone else do??? I don't know if that is an appropriate question to post on that forum???

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Gail, I generally have tried to bury mine on our property and mark the site with some sort of plant. I make a point of tending to the burial myself. I think that is part of the keeping of animals, the responsibility to attend to all of their needs. I try to wrap them well and include an item or two that the animal was fond of. I comfort myself with the thought that, should the grave be dug up in a hundred years, there will be some item other than remains that will make it clear to whoever disturbs the site that the creature buried here was valued and that effort was taken to deal with its death with dignity and respect. I know that sounds trivial, but sometimes that is enough to get you through the burial itself. And I always think of them when I walk the yard and see their memorial plants. The thing that I always hate to think about are the ones buried on property that I no longer live at and it makes me sad to think that I have abandoned their graves to the mercies of strangers who don't care what that animal meant to me.

Oh, geez, Bobbie! Yes, I have trouble going to "Crossing The Bridge", too. If was tough enough posting about little Alexander twice (due to the crash). It's never easy to come up with the right things to say and has become a favorite of mine.

Loks like I'm going to need a new box of tissues by the computer soon.