Let me start by saying how truly sorry I am that you are going through this. I am an optimist, but I am realistic. My now husband, then fiance, and I had a period where all we did was fight, he wasnt happy at his job at the time, and he took out on our relationship. We almost broke up. But, we decided that it was worth trying to figure out what was causing it. Sometimes, it takes just one aspect of your life to make the rest of it miserable. Maybe theres something stressing the realtionship??? We went back to the beginning...doing the things we used to like and didnt have time for. Sometimes, you need the time apart to realize what it is thats causing problems or making you guys unhappy. Maybe the bickering is a sign that you need time apart. Its better to figure it all out BEFORE you get married, then trying to work through it AFTER you are married. Only you know if hes right for you. And the same goes for him. I know you said you talked about it...but maybe the issues still arent resolved. Maybe trying to come to a resolution together, and just take it 1 day at a time. Work through one issue at a time until you guys get it figured out. Obviously, theres something worth fighting for, if you have been together as long as you have. The relationship needs to grow as the two of you grow. Yeah, the past was great. But your a different person now. YOur relationship has to reflect those changes, or you won't be happy.
I hope that everything works out for you. I hope you both can come to an agreement, and put your hurt aside. Love goes on...even when you're gone and apart.
Keep us posted, and you have my prayers and thoughts.
I hope that everything works out for you. I hope you both can come to an agreement, and put your hurt aside. Love goes on...even when you're gone and apart.
Keep us posted, and you have my prayers and thoughts.