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kev

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Last night I went to see our son - quite unexpectedly. Anyway, whilst there - she told me that I have been hassling her - I have been sending her sms messages, a note through the post etc - as I said - when you are holding onto a straw whilst floating in the sea - its all you can hold on to is a hope, thats what I was doing - anyway, last night she told me that due to this hassling - well - would you not chase something if you wanted it bad enough, she has now began proceedings to file for a divorce on the grounds of irreconcileable differences... I thought reconcile - the word meant that you tried to work things out - well she has no intention of doing this and has filed for divorce. I will get the initial letter next week advising of this.
Well - things went from bad to worse and have done - and there is me spending each day on my own away from everyone and in tears and struggling to survive.
Another knock down for me......
Kev
 

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Oh no! Kev I'm so sorry!
I'm sorry that I don't have any words that can make you feel better, I'm not sure if anything can, but we're all here for you... and you're in my thoughts and prayers.
 

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Oh Kev...I am so so so sorry that you are going through this. I know that I dont have words to make you feel better, but I will offer up my thoughts and prayers to you and your family.

 

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why is she acting like this, you have to go to your lawyer and tell them that she hasnt even tried to resolve this problem
to me it sounds very weird that all of a sudden she comes up and says thats it get out leave me alone :S
 

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God Kev, I don't know anything to tell you. I can only imagine the pain that you're in right now, so all I can tell you is that I'm praying for you my friend, and if you need to talk, just let me know, ok? {{{HUGS}}}
 

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I'm sorry to hear this Kevin, but as you know from her later statements I suspected the Carol's mind was already made up on this one.

I'm really happy that you got to see your son. It's a shame that this was the outcome. Enjoy the times you have with him - as I'm sure you will.

Make sure you get some advice now to sort out what is going to be in the best interests of you and your son and so that you get your property sorted out. You have rights here too and you need to find out what they are as soon as possible.

Keep your chin up Kevin and make sure that now you start to take action to move yourself forward on this one. I'm thinking of you in this really tough time for you
 

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This is an awful time for you, and I hope you get through it OK. Just stay calm, don't make rush decisions, and don't sign away any rights in the interests of a quiet life. At the same time, show yourself ready to talk and try to stay rational. It is hard I know, I've been there, but think now mostly of your son and his needs. I am so sorry it has come to this.
 

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i am sorry things have gone this way, and i know its hard, but you need to start moving on, i know it seems silly because it so soon afterwards, but you need to start looking forward for you and your son.
Try to keep ya chin up
 

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i'm so sorry kev, this is so hard but your going to get through this. we are all here to help and support you as much as we can.
 

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Oh, Kev,
Divorce is so sad. I know it feels like a death. I'm not going to go on about when it happened to me, but I do want you to know that it is not the end of your world even though it feels like it. Kev, BE a survivor for your child and YOURSELF. I know that the joys you felt with Carol don't make you happy anymore...sunshine, birds sing, all that. It's still there and you WILL enjoy it again.
I thought I would never be happy again, but I am. My prayers are with you.
 

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Oh dear! I'm sorry that you are going through such tough times, Kev. Be strong and if you need support, you know you can get it over here in TCS. Do keep us updated and dun be a stranger... will keep you in my prayers...
 

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Oh, no, Kev. This all seems to be happening so quickly, and I can imagine that you feel rather overwhelmed. My sympathies, and a reminder that you'll always find an open ear here. Hang in there.
 

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My heart goes out to you Kev. You have always spoken so highly of your family, and how much you love them. I wish things could be different for you now. I pray you will stay strong throughout this sad ordeal.
 

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Originally Posted by fwan

why is she acting like this, you have to go to your lawyer and tell them that she hasnt even tried to resolve this problem
to me it sounds very weird that all of a sudden she comes up and says thats it get out leave me alone :S
Why the sudden change? Sounds too weird.
 

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Kev, I'm so sorry to hear this. Irreconcilable differences? Hard to imagine how whatever "differences" Carol is referring to are "irreconcilable", when there's barely been time, nevermind effort, to reconcile, and she seems disinclined to even try.

Be that as it may, you need to look out for yourself and your son. Make sure you get legal representation, so that you don't overlook anything you should be tending. This needn't be adversarial, but if it turns that way, you don't want any nasty surprises.

And practicalities aside, Kev, please be gentle with yourself. It's a rotten time for you, and you've had the most appalling run of tough stuff going on, but things have just got to get better! I'll be thinking of you.
 

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Kev, each day will be a little better than the one before but not as good as the one coming up tomorrow. In other words, time DOES have a way of passing and it takes with it the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune. Don't try to hang on to something that was once valuable but is now worthless. Your mourning is not so much for what was, but for what should have been. Your freedom to build a better life is ahead of you, so don't make the same mistakes again, and look for someone who is TRULY compatible to help you. I know what you are feeling, for I have been there. I tried for 23 years and finally gave it up, and am looking forward to my next anniversary, the 27th, and it seems like such a short time ago that I found my TRUE mate. It will happen for you, but you have to work at it. It is not going to happen by itself. Best of luck,
Leonard
 

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Kev, you are a good hearted and kind man. I've read your posts and it was so easy to see how much you adored Carol. This is a hard time for you and please do NOT, try as hard as yu can, to NOT beat yourself up. People's drums don't always beat in time....in fact sometimes they get pretty far off beat after being in sync for quite awhile. I'm hoping that whatever it was to make her take such extreme action can be resolved. I am sending so many good prayers and faith to you.
Elizabeth
 

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Please be gentle with yourself, it's been such a tough time for you over the past year or so. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers and hope that you will get good representation for yourself, if this is going to procede, protect your relationship and rights with your son.
 
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