The project girl.

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Okay, so I am listening on St. Valentine's day to the gossip brought to me by my friend Loren. Estefania had made a whole lie of making believe she'd been asked by someone to be his girlfriend, and she had refused. Relatively few people at that instant knew it was all a charade. And I was one of them.

But the whole scandalous part is that she did it with only one reason: To make another boy jealous. His name is Guillermo. Another friend of mine. I had known a bit of how there had been something around Estefania and Guillermo, so I inquire to Loren about the specifics. What I get is something worthy of seeing a therapist about:

Estefania has been for over a year now, madly in love with this kid. She's declared herself to him TWICE. And twice she's gotten rejected. She's nuts about him. Let's just say, she dreams about him, she has got pictures of him in her room, she has even written poetry alluding to him... and she has tried to seek a boyfriend with the sole intentions of getting Guillermo jealous. She's on the edge of compulsive obsession, and I ain't exagerating.


When I tried to tease her about Guillermo, she denied point blank having any interest about him, and then the next thing she tells me is "do you think he's still interested in me?"
I tell her I don't think so. She's trying to make believe its the contrary, but the truth its a secret at voices.

After a while, I keep getting interested in her... when I notice the look she puts in her eyes when having Guillermo cross nearby her, its almost like those pathetic romance movies they air on HBO in St. Valentines day. And when I told Vicky about that she said "If you can tell if she's in love by the look in her eyes, don't let that talent go to waste and study psychology!".

I have gotten close to Estefania.... we are talking now virtually every day on MSN and on the phone.... what I do is tease her constantly, but with funniness. You know, be arrogant, just mildly, but with humor. And it has worked to get her nearer to me.

Here's the take on her: she is the daughter of two Venezuelan expats who live in Puerto Rico. she is also considered the "nut" of the Tae Kwon Do class, and of the school group. She's crazy. She can make anyone laugh - at her. And I am among the few people whom she doesn't drive nuts with her antics, and thats mostly because I know how to find my way around people. (In case anyone was wondering why she gets rejected so easily). And she is slightly over two years my younger at just having turned 14.

Since I got interested in the gossip about her from the start, I decided to check her out, to see... she's rather interesting... fun... and provided you don't take her too seriously, she can be a very good friend. Still haven't decided myself wether she's "my type", but I don't look forward to deciding. If she is, I will sooner or later "wake up" to find out that guess what? she's my girlfriend. If it isn't, then I won't.

However, I am being forced to keep any interest on her quiet, for the moment because I would be made fun of a bit. Let's just say, she's weird.... and I find that interesting, and attractice, to say the least. Let's just hope her obsession with Guillermo doesn't hamper things too much.
 

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oooooooohhhhhh a weird girl

when i think about it now, i went out with alot of guys...
Because they found me interesting i was very different form the girls they knew from school or the neighbourhood. (i went to an all girls school in hisghschool) So the boys i usually went out with were from a unisex school.
When i open up i am crazy! My very close friends cant stop laughing and their tummies hurt so much when im around them. Now im opening up to people around here and they cant stop laughing either.
Id say give it time.. soon enough she will wear off this guy and who knows! you might be it!!!
 

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All I can say is, be her friend and don't be ashamed of it. She may or may not get over Guillermo but now she loves him and because he's rejecting her, she may be hurting inside. It could be why she acts weird sometimes.
 

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I think she'll keep longing for the other guy, just because she can't have him. That's the way human nature works. Good luck!
 

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Ooo you know that's soemthing I went through..... Once I was the stupid 14 year old girl with an obsession for a particular guy. Trust me, it's why she's acting all wierd. It does hurt, and I know that if she's as like me as she seems to be, then she'll keep on persisting with this guy until she gets him and is severely hurt. Sooner or later she'll either wake up and realise that it's not going to happen, or she's going to just keep on going and be incredibly hurt and disappointed when she finds that he's nothing like the imaginary "God" that she has emblazoned in her mind. If I had the chance to talk to her, I'd be the first one to tell her to forget him. Been there, done it, and I live with the consequences every day of my life... that's an awful lot of life to lose at only 14.

My story? I was fascinated with one man from the time I hit 12. 13 and 14 I just got really wierd, obsessive, compulsive and tetchy. When I finally did get with the guy I wanted, I was 16. I was used, abused and left as an emotional write-off. It's not a nice stroy, and every day I wish it were different, but it's the wya it happened and ther'es nothing I can do now to re-write it, so I have to live with it and move on and see if I can't give the story a happy ending. Which I will, don't anyone worry about that!

I really hope she can see past this infatuation because she's got someone really sweet and caring and genuinely interested in her, in you. All you can do is hold your head high and stick by her as a friend and be proud of it. She'll come around, I'm sure. Women appreciate that kind of sentiment more than you know
 
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Originally Posted by LilleKat

Ooo you know that's soemthing I went through..... Once I was the stupid 14 year old girl with an obsession for a particular guy. Trust me, it's why she's acting all wierd. It does hurt, and I know that if she's as like me as she seems to be, then she'll keep on persisting with this guy until she gets him and is severely hurt. Sooner or later she'll either wake up and realise that it's not going to happen, or she's going to just keep on going and be incredibly hurt and disappointed when she finds that he's nothing like the imaginary "God" that she has emblazoned in her mind. If I had the chance to talk to her, I'd be the first one to tell her to forget him. Been there, done it, and I live with the consequences every day of my life... that's an awful lot of life to lose at only 14.

My story? I was fascinated with one man from the time I hit 12. 13 and 14 I just got really wierd, obsessive, compulsive and tetchy. When I finally did get with the guy I wanted, I was 16. I was used, abused and left as an emotional write-off. It's not a nice stroy, and every day I wish it were different, but it's the wya it happened and ther'es nothing I can do now to re-write it, so I have to live with it and move on and see if I can't give the story a happy ending. Which I will, don't anyone worry about that!

I really hope she can see past this infatuation because she's got someone really sweet and caring and genuinely interested in her, in you. All you can do is hold your head high and stick by her as a friend and be proud of it. She'll come around, I'm sure. Women appreciate that kind of sentiment more than you know
Don't worry. Everyone is already telling her to forget him... I feel she really needs to heed that old piece of advice I once heard "pretty girls/boys can be heartbreakers".
 
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