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post #91 of 106
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She is just like that - I think I even wrote that in my opening post! Just like the secretary in Ferris Buehler's Day Off.
post #92 of 106
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Originally Posted by valanhb
Victor, you've got a lot to learn about the professional world... Talking about sexual anything may be funny at a party, in a bar, in school, at the movies...basically in a social situation. But it is at best embarassing, and at worst civilly liable in a workplace.

That is unprofession to the EXTREME! It could well cost Elizabeth's company contracts/business if he was offended enough. Any sexual conversations/topics like that should not be discussed in the workplace. Period. For some, something little like that could constitute sexual harassment. Regardless, for a client of any sort, let alone someone in the position of a Senator, to hear that over the phone while conducting business...it leaves a very bad impression. Milly should, honestly, lose her job over that, or at least be severely reprimanded!
Hell, I know that very well, and how liable it is, and all that stuff. Its the embarrasing part that tickles my funny bone. I know it isn't the type of stuff that should be left unattended, let alone be something desirable, but you also gotta learn to laugh about the things other people do. Should it have happened in the first place? No. Is it something that is good? No. Is it something that should be left unatended? No. Is it something that can have bad repercussions? Of course. But, if you can't find the funny side to it all, and giggle a bit you are gonna die prematurely of stress.
post #93 of 106
Maybe if doesn't want her to be lonely he should move her in his office with him?
post #94 of 106
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Originally Posted by Talon
Maybe if doesn't want her to be lonely he should move her in his office with him?

Just perfect.
post #95 of 106
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Originally Posted by rapunzel47
Eddie, I wish I had some constructive advice for you. It's not a situation that I've ever had to deal with, but if I did, I know I'd be beyond bananas by now! What a piece of work!

Just reading back over the thread again, I'm wondering if your boss is a person you could have a face-to-face heart-to-heart with on the subject. Perhaps an email at this point, to say "I have an issue that I need to discuss with you in person -- can we find a half hour next time you're in the office?"

And then, tell it like it is: You've tried to convey to this person that her office habits/demeanor are distracting (be as specific with her as with us), but it's not penetrating (unlike her voice!), and you're concerned about the effect it's having on your performance. With your track record, I would hope that your boss would receive this as concern for performance/productivity, etc, and not as just being b****y. Perhaps, if Mildred can't be tamed or terminated, it would be possible to find an enclosed space for her, where she will be less distracting for everyone.

Whatever you decide to do, good luck with this -- it's a lousy situation!

I think this is constructive advice. Mildred isn't going to change; she doesn't have enough work to do because her boss is semi-retired; she is creating a morale problem at a demanding work locale. . . as much as your boss enjoys a hands-off environment there are times when you need the boss to take action. I had a boss who also left it to the staff to handle, but when it got beyond our ability to resolve, we brought things to his attention and he addressed them. He had enough respect for our abilities and trust in our judgment to know we didn't bring things to his attention unless they needed his attention. I suspect your boss, if she is a good boss, is the same. Why not be forthright and lay it on the line. I am sure she would much rather not have to find your replacement because you felt compelled to leave; I am sure she would rather find an alternative - a win/win solution to this situation. It is your boss' brother who is Mildred's boss? Your boss needs to talk to Mildred's boss and find Mildred a different place to do whatever work she does.

Good luck!

Kathryn
post #96 of 106
And from the been there done that crowd...

Sometimes clients are better than employees. I'm not sure what circles your CEO wanders in but if Senators are calling, I'm assuming that they are above the average level. If you have a good associate whom you contact frequently who would be in position to both hear the background AND would write a letter to your CEO....

Or, rub small portions of pink fiberglass insulation on her chair, wrist pad for the PC, back of her chair... The rash is amazing and it only goes away when you stop.
post #97 of 106
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Originally Posted by Mark Kumpf
Or, rub small portions of pink fiberglass insulation on her chair, wrist pad for the PC, back of her chair... The rash is amazing and it only goes away when you stop.
Oh no! now there's a wicked !
post #98 of 106
Eddie, I can only say that you must be such a kind lady(which I know you are on the internet but IRL you must be as well!) because I would have dobbed her in loooooong before now. *Fingers crossed we get some action*
post #99 of 106
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Originally Posted by WellingtonCats
Eddie, I can only say that you must be such a kind lady(which I know you are on the internet but IRL you must be as well!) because I would have dobbed her in loooooong before now. *Fingers crossed we get some action*

Thanks Miss Sam....but what the heck is "dobbed her in"? Is that like rubbing her out??
post #100 of 106
Eddie - dobbing someone in this case is telling your boss what's been going on.

Rubbing her out if that's the first thing that came to mind is today not a good day?!
post #101 of 106
Sorry about that Eddie! Yes dobbing her in means "narking on her" "telling the boss"
post #102 of 106
Too bad you couldn't put up some of that cool glass block as a partition- it goes good with modern furnishings. It's thick, but also lets light come into your area instead of a dreary wall. if you gat alot of light, you could step it down & put small plants on it, another type of screen. Have you thought about BIG plants? Do you get enough light to support them? Can you think of a creative way to combine maybe a bookcase & some plants? it wouldn't really matter too much what the books were, as long as they are big & block her out. Find out how far you can take this-it would be so cool if you were allowed to get creative & add some personal beauty to your work area as well. what about one of those big pretty folding screens? It could be like a kind of truce...she could tack on whatever she wanted on one side, & you would have your side.
Also, have you thought of taking a tape recorder to work? Make some tapes of her doing what she does best, just in case.
post #103 of 106
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Originally Posted by WellingtonCats
Sorry about that Eddie! Yes dobbing her in means "narking on her" "telling the boss"

HA Sam thank you! Knowing me, I would've used it, feeling oh-so-cool and started a riot someplace.
post #104 of 106
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Originally Posted by Me-n-my guys
Too bad you couldn't put up some of that cool glass block as a partition- it goes good with modern furnishings. It's thick, but also lets light come into your area instead of a dreary wall. if you gat alot of light, you could step it down & put small plants on it, another type of screen. Have you thought about BIG plants? Do you get enough light to support them? Can you think of a creative way to combine maybe a bookcase & some plants? it wouldn't really matter too much what the books were, as long as they are big & block her out. Find out how far you can take this-it would be so cool if you were allowed to get creative & add some personal beauty to your work area as well. what about one of those big pretty folding screens? It could be like a kind of truce...she could tack on whatever she wanted on one side, & you would have your side.
Also, have you thought of taking a tape recorder to work? Make some tapes of her doing what she does best, just in case.

A bookcase - wehave that and we love our huge palms. That's a great idea as the partition in storage looks nauseating. The office manager and I are going to work on it tomorrow, the issue is it's just such a huge open area and our desks are built in to where they are and cannot be moved. I would've just moved mine about a year ago. But more plants....hmmm. we can do that...I guess I'll have to post photos!
post #105 of 106
I wonder if her boss didnt want her around HIM?? Maybe she stunk to much for even himself to take, but didnt have the heart to let her go....

I think the bookcase is a great idea. If you cant manage to swing that one... how about picking up the phone and 'dialing' someone everytime she starts quacking at you?
post #106 of 106
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Originally Posted by sashacat421
HA Sam thank you! Knowing me, I would've used it, feeling oh-so-cool and started a riot someplace.
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