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We're here for you Kev - whenever you need us

Kevin, I can only imagine how devastated you must be. I only wish there was something we could do for you from this distance.

How can she lock you out of your own house? That is so unfair. Speaking for myself, I would never do this to my husband even if we were having difficulties. It is his home as much as mine and what a poor example she is setting for your son. You surely deserve more than this.

My advice - stop crying and take action. I know you love her, but don't lie down and be her doormat! Women don't have respect for men who let themselves be taken advantage of. You don't have to be mean or nasty, just let her know that it is your house too and that she has no right to lock you out. Take some control of the situation.

i know its hard, but try to stay strong, were all here for you

Originally Posted by Yosemite

My advice - stop crying and take action. I know you love her, but don't lie down and be her doormat! Women don't have respect for men who let themselves be taken advantage of. You don't have to be mean or nasty, just let her know that it is your house too and that she has no right to lock you out. Take some control of the situation.

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I agree... please don't give up and resign yourself to this yet!

Good luck with everything... will be praying for you and your family.

Take care Kev!

oh kev, i am so sorry to hear about everything going on. lots of hugs, prayers and good vibes coming your way...

I dropped my wedding ring through the door last night. Unsure how many more tears I can cry, I have cried so much in the last few days that I have not got much left. Cried myself so much that its killing me minute by minute, second by second.
Please pray that we will get back to gether - heck even I have.
K

Oh Kev I am so sorry...But the others are right..Please get a hold of yourself.... I think it is "a thousand mile journey begins with a single step"...you have to take a step Kev..It is not healthy what you are doing..ecspecially with all your other medical problems........
Please Kev for the sake of yourself, and your son..Get it together, clear your mind, and work from there....All of our prayers are with you........

My friend, I am so sad to read this thread. I cannot even imagine how you must feel. Please try to take care of yourself. You can't believe that you have nothing to live for--there is still your son, and you will get to see him again, and he needs to know that whatever happens between you and his mother, you are still his dad. I am praying hard for you Kev, and thinking about you lots. A big hug from me to you.

Kev, words fail me, but you are very much in my thoughts. Please stay strong, and don't give up. I also think Yosemite has given you some sound advice.

cant tell any of you anything you dont already know now. Nothing has changed over the weekend. Its lonely out here it really is. Wish she felt the same way. I just keep praying, thats all I can do.
Later
K

Kev, you are in my thoughts! There's nothing I can really do but give you support through this hard time!

Kev, I've just now seen this thread. I am truely sorry you are going through such a hard time right now. I can only imagiine how devastated you are feeling right now. I agree with the others, don't give up. Sending many good vibes and your way.

Originally Posted by stormy

Kev, I've just now seen this thread. I am truely sorry you are going through such a hard time right now. I can only imagiine how devastated you are feeling right now. I agree with the others, don't give up. Sending many good vibes and

your way.

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dont send em to me - send em to Carol - shes the one that I need to get them all, realise that I love her, miss her terribly and so badly want to be back with her and our son.

Thanks anyway

Kev
praying harder and harder

Originally Posted by kev

dont send em to me - send em to Carol - shes the one that I need to get them all, realise that I love her, miss her terribly and so badly want to be back with her and our son.

Thanks anyway

Kev
praying harder and harder

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Ok, will do.

Oh Kev, I can see this is a terrible strain on you. Please be careful and take care of yourself. I know you want the vibes to go to your wife, but I'm sending most of mine to you, I want you to be at peace. This is a horrible thing your dealing with and your health is compromised because of it. I know I was there also. Please, be careful and stay healthy. If not for you, do it for your wife and son.

OK I will be blunt here. There are two sides to every story, we are only hearing one. If you want this woman in your life, then perhaps you should walk away from the computer and concentrate on the people who matter more to you in your life. Perhaps she is tired of being ignored, perhaps she found an unsettling email you sent to someone? Who knows, but if she matters then tell her so. If you have done something wrong, make it right.

I know one member who actually tossed her computer in the trash last year in order to save her marriage. I did hear from her a few weeks ago, and she and her husband are communicating now, going to counseling and although she told me it was the hardest thing to do to throw her computer in the garbage bin, she is now glad she did so.

There is a book called Love Must Be Tough, by Dr. James Dobson it might benefit you to read it if you decide to go dark off the computer for awhile and try and get your real life back together again.

Being in cyberspace can have its rewards, but when it starts to affect the people who we say we love in real life, than some decisions need to be made. Otherwise in the end, you will have nothing left to show for all this devotion you say you have for this woman but empty arms and a broken heart.

I'm sorry but i have to agree! If theres one person who the talking shoud be aimed at it's not here!.

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I dropped my wedding ring through the door last night. K

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dramatic gestures like this will only serve to p her off even more. i know you must be hurting but try to see things from her point of view, she wouldnt end her marriage on a whim.

i hope things work out for you two, really i do but you have to pull yourself together a little and begin to think clearly.

find out what she wants from you and think of ways you can give it to her or at least compromise.

Dont beg, dont put pressure on her, just stand up for yourself and say your not prepared to let this go without a fight even if she has served you with divorce papers.

if she wont go with you to relate go on your own, it'll help you keep a clear head. goodluck. x