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Would you go on vacation alone??

post #1 of 25
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I'm really frustrated right now and I'm wondering if I'm wrong in this situation... I spoke to my uncle yesterday and I mentioned to him that I wanted to go on vacation with Adrian for a few days just to get away because we're both really stressed and my father was gonna give me $300 to clean the house so I might take that money and bounce for a weekend... So, he mentioned that he was going to Florida next week and if we wanted to come with him, he's be more than happy to let us take his truck for the week while he was in Daytona for Bike Week... Basically, we'd all drive down together, he'd go do his thing while we were in Daytona and we could take the truck and do whatever we wanted then we'd all go to Miami and do our own thing for a few days... It would be cool... we'd share a room but Adrian and I could chill together for the week... So, I called Adrian and was like "Pack your stufff!!"... He's goes "why, what's up?" and I told him about the trip... Details and all... He's like "well, I'll let you know because I might have work and that's the priority right now"... I totally understand that and I told him if he wanted to go, fine.. if not, I wasnt gonna go... I wasnt saying it to guilt him into going but he was like "why not??!" and I explained to him that I really didnt want to go to Florida and spend most of the week alone... it didnt appeal to me... so, he was arguing with me about it for like an hour and I was getting really frustrated because he didnt understand why I wouldnt want to go to Florida alone... I told him that it wasnt just the fact that he couldnt go because I would go with someone else if they could come but I just didnt want to go alone.... He still doesnt get it... that the idea of going to Florida doesnt appeal to me if I'm gonna be there alone... the fun of going on vacation is to have someone with you... but, that's where we differ... He feels that if it was the other way around and I couldnt go with him, he would just go anyway... and I told him "well, that's fine for you but I wont" and he doesnt get it... so I'm wondering if I'm wrong here... Do you guys understand why I wouldnt want to go away alone?? Would you go to away by yourself for a week??
post #2 of 25
I might would go for a few days, but I'm a toddler mother! So I don't even go to the bathroom by myself...

But honestly, people do help make vacations more exciting--it's the shared experiences and the memories.

Peace,
mrsd
post #3 of 25
There is no "wrong or right" here, its opinion and what you want and don't want. Not wanting to be alone on something as "special" as a vacation is not out of the ordinary and perfectly justified as far as I am concerned. Some people like to be alone, some don't.. its all natural. Do what YOU want to do. Do you have a non threatening "safe" friend your bf wont get jealous of that you could take with you maybe if hes unwilling to go?
post #4 of 25
I wouldn't personally. Being alone on vacation sounds boring and lonely.
post #5 of 25
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I did tell Adrian that I wasnt choosing not to go just because HE didnt want to go... If I could go with my best friend, Nikki, I would but she has a job and cant take a week off... He just doesnt mind being alone because he looks at it as tho "I have to be happy with myself and where I'm at whether I'm with a group of people or alone"... I agree in one sense but in another mrsd was right... It's the shared experiences and memories that make vacation fun... and to be perfectly honest, if going to Florida was so important to me I might consider going alone.. but it's not just the idea of going away that appeals to me it's the idea of going away with Adrian that makes it exciting and fun...
post #6 of 25
i wouldnt go alone either, just wouldnt appeal to me
post #7 of 25
Well I go to cat shows and sometimes travel by myself. Thats a little different than vacation though because you just go to the cat show, plus, you meet up with friends and go to dinner with them, ect. For a real vacation I would always want to go with someone, though my vacations we usually go places, and I don't like to be alone, I don't like eating dinner alone. If my vacation were more of a get away and I was going to just relax and take it easy I could see how going alone would be better.
post #8 of 25
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Originally Posted by Malakai711
...it's the idea of going away with Adrian that makes it exciting and fun...
In this case, spending a week on your own probably wouldn't be much fun.

Would I go by myself? Sure, why not? I've gone to dinner, movies, shopping, etc. by myself. Then I get to do exactly what I want to do
post #9 of 25
It depends on how much you would enjoy being in Daytona for Bike Week. Were you wanting to go because you like the festivities that take place during that time or because you wanted some one-on-one time with Adrian? Before I lived at the beach, I used to come all the time without anyone else. Some of my friends would actually act rather dissappointed that I didn't invite them along, but the time without anyone else around really did me good. If someone asked me why I would want to vacation by myself as they thought that would be boring and lonely, I told them, I'm not going by myself, I'm going with myself, and I think I make pretty good company! Perhaps you could use the time away also!
post #10 of 25
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Originally Posted by dawnofsierra
It depends on how much you would enjoy being in Daytona for Bike Week. Were you wanting to go because you like the festivities that take place during that time or because you wanted some one-on-one time with Adrian? Before I lived at the beach, I used to come all the time without anyone else. Some of my friends would actually act rather dissappointed that I didn't invite them along, but the time without anyone else around really did me good. If someone asked me why I would want to vacation by myself as they thought that would be boring and lonely, I told them, I'm not going by myself, I'm going with myself, and I think I make pretty good company! Perhaps you could use the time away also!
The only reason I want to go is to be able to spend time with Adrian... I have no interest in Bike Week at all... That's my uncle's reason for going and the reason that we probably wont see much of him during the week... I really don't enjoy being alone to begin with but there are some things that just don't occur to me to do alone... Like going to the movies, going to dinner, going on vacation.... It never occurred to me to do those things alone... I enjoy those activities because I can share the experience with someone else... Otherwise, I dont see the fun in it... Like I said before "If it was that important for me to go to Florida, I would go regardless of whether or not Adrian wanted to or could go...".. it's just not that important to me... and I'm glad that I'm not the only one that wouldn't go on vacation alone because he was making me feel like I was crazy not to go alone just because he couldnt go... Not to mention that I had something special in mind to do for him while we were there and it wouldnt be any fun with out him... LoL (No, not that!! LoL) I promised him a long time ago that we would go to Medieval Times when I had the money so, I wanna take him while we're down there...
post #11 of 25
It sounds as if you will be happier, then, Liza, to not go unless Adrian can be with you!
post #12 of 25
I wouldn't go on a holiday alone unless i was meeting someone at the other end, if that makes sense?!
post #13 of 25
i go on vacations all the time by myself. i dont mind going with other people and think thats fun too but i guess i just have one of those personalities where it doesnt bother me to do stuff like that on my own. i like just getting out there and meeting new people. plus i usually want to do things that my friends arent interested in so i can just get out there and do whatever i want and not have to worry about them.

my mother on the other hand HATES to travel alone. it bothers her that i go by myself. its just a personal choice. i wouldnt feel one bit bad in the decision i made if i were you. dont let him make you feel crazy.
post #14 of 25
If you are into partying, you will probably have a good time. It can be a total sleaze-fest, though, so if you did (hypothetically) bring Adrian, I hope you are not a jealous girl! But it could be a good time, depending on what your interests are, & who you are with. if you want to go somewhere to get crazy & let down your hair...Bike Week is the place.
post #15 of 25
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Originally Posted by Me-n-my guys
If you are into partying, you will probably have a good time. It can be a total sleaze-fest, though, so if you did (hypothetically) bring Adrian, I hope you are not a jealous girl! But it could be a good time, depending on what your interests are, & who you are with. if you want to go somewhere to get crazy & let down your hair...Bike Week is the place.
P.S If you can take a crazy girlfriend, you'll have a BLAST.
post #16 of 25
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Originally Posted by Me-n-my guys
If you are into partying, you will probably have a good time. It can be a total sleaze-fest, though, so if you did (hypothetically) bring Adrian, I hope you are not a jealous girl! But it could be a good time, depending on what your interests are, & who you are with. if you want to go somewhere to get crazy & let down your hair...Bike Week is the place.
Adrian's not the type of guy to go there and drool over the girls... So, I wouldnt have to worry... He's more the type to be like "hey lyz.. look at the skank with no clothes on... she's mad ugly!" LoL That's why girls either love him or hate him... the girls that have no confidence and throw themselves at him, hate him because he doesnt pay them any mind.. The girls that dont want a guy rubbing all up on them, love him because he doesnt do that.... That's my booger...
post #17 of 25
I love going on vacation by myself, whether to chill out somewhere or enjoy activities/sightseeing that none of my friends are interested in. But I have had some great vacations with family and friends too. My husband and I enjoyed some vacations together, others we hated because one of us was indulging interests that the other didn't have (guess why we're divorced!).

But my mother and my daughter would never go on vacation alone, unless it was to stay with family, and that is not alone. It all comes down to personal taste, and many people find that they change on this at different periods of hteir lives. So don't feel that you HAVE to do anything - if you feel you would enjoy it for yourself, go, if not, don't.
post #18 of 25
me personally, i can travel on a plane to country to country by my self but only if i were meeting someone on the other end..
it took me 23 hrs to get to australia and i had lovely seaty neighbours.
But i wouldnt go on a holiday alone, id be too lonely and im a freak. im really self conceous and i wouldnt feel safe.
post #19 of 25
Solitude is sometimes a beautiful thing to have.

Leonard.
post #20 of 25
I'd go by myself, no problem. I agree it can be easier when someone else is along with you, but I wouldn't let that stop me from getting away. I usually take all of my vacations alone, although I also usually have someone meeting me at the other end.
post #21 of 25
I went to Europe on a tour but not with anyone I knew. I had a great time! The problem with going totally by yourself is that you would have to figure out what to do. That's why I liked the tour.

If I was in your situation, I'd take a look on the internet and find out where you will be and what there is to do. If there's a beach nearby, I'd go for sure!
post #22 of 25
I went on a vacation on my own once, it was great. Went to Mount Isa, saw a heap of cats there. Good place that.
post #23 of 25
It depends, sometimes I feel I need to be by myself...

I have a friend who *only* does trips alone but is a really closed off person in general.
post #24 of 25
I've been on vacation alone-I treated myself to a long weekend at Gettysburg as a graduation present. I'm interested in the Civil War, especially the battle at Gettysburg, and it was something I'd wanted to do for a while (I'm hoping to go back this fall). However, if part of the fun of your vacation would be spending time with Adrian, it probably wouldn't be the same without him.
post #25 of 25
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Originally Posted by okeefecl
However, if part of the fun of your vacation would be spending time with Adrian, it probably wouldn't be the same without him.
That's my point, really... The exciting thing about going to Florida is to spend the week with him... we havent spent that much time together recently and I miss him... Not to mention that we've both been saying that we need to get away and relax... I guess I would go away by myself if I felt like I really needed to be alone but right now, that's not how I feel and he doesn't understand that... Oh well... I'm just hoping that he can go, even if he decides on it last minute...
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