I have a friend who used to describe that unforeseen jab or verbal attack by a "friend" as like getting a "Whack the side of the head", that you didn't see it coming, and thus what the hell do you do about it?
Ok, excuse my rant but I had a recent whack and I am not sure if I should just walk away or tell this friend off etc.
I have a group of friends with whom I have a reunion once a year (some of us see each other more than that but as a group its a once a year reunion) We change locations of this all the time, since three live a bit farther a way it can get unfair(there are 12 of us total). But this year it's closer to the minority three. Well my best friends out of the group can't go this year due to either money or job (we all float in and out, not a problem..) and so I asked one of the ones who lives farther away if she was going to go, because that would give me incentive. She wasn't sure, then I casually mentioned how it's too bad she couldn't come up our way instead (she really likes one of the members who can't attend) and she went off on me, true via email but I was shocked. The thing is I noted she hasn't been responding to my emails for awhile now, so I suspect she is angry at me for something prior (have no idea what but she is really high strung) She was so angry saying "why are we the ones who always have to travel?" and how "sick ofthis she was" I felt attacked and I was really just trying to be nice, hoping to get to see her. She kept saying I had some ulterior motive, and was "nagging" her and not anyone else. I didn't really stand up for myself after but instead decided to just not attend the event. But now I feel bullied out of it.
What would you do? My sense is that she doesn't care and if I say something she will just yell back. I think it's just doomed...
Ok, excuse my rant but I had a recent whack and I am not sure if I should just walk away or tell this friend off etc.
I have a group of friends with whom I have a reunion once a year (some of us see each other more than that but as a group its a once a year reunion) We change locations of this all the time, since three live a bit farther a way it can get unfair(there are 12 of us total). But this year it's closer to the minority three. Well my best friends out of the group can't go this year due to either money or job (we all float in and out, not a problem..) and so I asked one of the ones who lives farther away if she was going to go, because that would give me incentive. She wasn't sure, then I casually mentioned how it's too bad she couldn't come up our way instead (she really likes one of the members who can't attend) and she went off on me, true via email but I was shocked. The thing is I noted she hasn't been responding to my emails for awhile now, so I suspect she is angry at me for something prior (have no idea what but she is really high strung) She was so angry saying "why are we the ones who always have to travel?" and how "sick ofthis she was" I felt attacked and I was really just trying to be nice, hoping to get to see her. She kept saying I had some ulterior motive, and was "nagging" her and not anyone else. I didn't really stand up for myself after but instead decided to just not attend the event. But now I feel bullied out of it.
What would you do? My sense is that she doesn't care and if I say something she will just yell back. I think it's just doomed...