I dated a guy for 13 months who was like that with me. He would do stuff to upset me, then laugh about it. One time I got so upset, I broke, and lost my cool. He then became abusive. I'm not saying your hubby will, afterall, you two have been together way longer then me and that guy were.
My hubby and I have been together for 7 years, married almost 6. He lost his wedding ring at work (I always made him take it off before work, and he wanted to take it to show it to a coworker). I lost mine a few months later. I have since gotten mine back. Neither one of us wear our rings.
My hubby now does not intentionaly irritate me. There is this one thing that he does to his mouth and nose, they twitch kinda like a bunny face, and it drives me up the wall. I can't look at him while he is doing it. Kinda like Shazbot (Merri n Pip's pappy), he wiggles his ears at me, and that drives me up the wall. Then there is this guy I work with, he can flex his pecks, so he's got his 'boob's' bouncing up and down at me, and saying 'What??? I'm not doing anything' Each of them will stop when someone else looks at them (while we are working) and say I am insain. But they've each been caught doing it. They do it because I look away, and fuss about it. They think it's funny. It doesn't make me mad though. I just can't handle when things on a persons body moves when it's doesn't normally move...
Please forgive me, some people are right, it can be a slight form of abuse. Its not right for someone to get joy out of making someone angry. It's a way that they can control you. Not dissing your hubby, even the greatest man can have his downfalls. I hope he will take your emotional well being more seriously in the future. If he gets angry when you ignore it, that is a little bit of a warning sign. I would (if I were in the situation) do my absolute best to ignore it (to the point of bottling my frusterations), then let it out when he isn't around.
As long as he can get you riled up over it, he is in control. As soon as you take the control away from him... it's no fun.
There was this chic (who is the sis of my 13month relationship looser) who got so mad everytime she saw me. One day I was simply at the park with my ferrets, and she and her daughter were there. She saw me, and immediately her dimeanor(SP?) changed. She went from having fun with her girl, to the world being horrible. They always left shortly after seeing me. I laughed every time. I was at a party once, and she was having a great time, until she saw me, then her whole night was ruined, and she left. Another time she was laughing and joking with some friends at a resturant (I worked at). As soon as she saw me (In mid laugh) Her laughter stopped short. Suddenly all 4 girls (Her and her three friends) were no longer smiling. They were all upset, only 3 of them didn't know why. I had complete control over her for a few years, without trying. I always thought it was funny that just seeing me would ruin her day. One day, she smiled at me, and tipped me pretty good. She had finally grown up! (after her 3rd kid, I think she was about 21 or so by then. Her oldest daughter was 6, or 7 and her middle daughter I think was 5). Took her a long time to grow up.