If we only had the money

My mom just told us that a guy was selling a trailer house, 2 bedrooms, for only $3,000 cash. The thing is we can't do that. I doubt we could come up with that type of money to buy it. I was thinking of a loan but dont know where to get one. I cant get one thats for sure and Robert might not be old enough or have enough credit. If we could get this place then we could have extra money to save back. The guy want is up front not payment plans. The one good chance to have our own place, even though it a weird thought to live there.

Robert didn't get the manager position on account the asst. manager kept changing the work times so Robert couldnt get the proper training in. THe General manager made the time and the asst. changed it with out him knowing. NOt right. Not fair. Hope she gets fired soon Or the police training place opens up soon. He is going to do that when it opens. Something good needs to happen for us.



Ashley

Ashley, I´ll prayer for you tonight, maybe you won the lotery and you can buy that trailer!!!
Good luck!

Keep your chin up Ashley and remember, where there's a will, there's a way!!

Sounds like you've had some disappointing times. I'm kinda in the same boat, too, lots of things going wrong these days. But all the kitties & hens are doing well, so am I, but I certainly can relate...My friend likes to remind me of the Irish? saying, "When a door closes, a window opens", so I hope that some windows open for you!! Yes, the lottery win would be fantastic!! But the police training sounds like a winner, too! Then maybe he could work for the police force, or maybe even Border Patrol! His current job, although it IS a job, sounds like it will never be that great - if the manager doesn't clue in to what the asst. manager did, I doubt that business will ever see its full potential, and everyone suffers as a result. I had a job like that; I was working in shipping, and we had to sign our names on the packing slips of orders that we packed. That allowed the front office to track which shippers made mistakes. Well, 2 girls would forge my name. I couldn't understand why I was doing such a lousy job, until complaints came for orders filled on the day I went home sick (I got a violent migraine & a co-worker drove me to the doctor then home). I asked the front office to have the customers fax the packing slips and voila!the writing wasn't mine and the plot was revealed!! I just keep my mouth shut, and acted cordial, and boy, those 2 girls were so nervous, waiting for me to blow my stack, and they were so kissy-kissy nice, but it was good to have things on a positive note in the shipping dept. So, hang in there, it can work out! Just be Robert's "soft place to land"(Dr. Phil's expression)and remind him that petting cats relieves stress & is proven to lower blood pressure.

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My mom just told us that a guy was selling a trailer house, 2 bedrooms, for only $3,000 cash. The thing is we can't do that. I doubt we could come up with that type of money to buy it. I was thinking of a loan but dont know where to get one. I cant get one thats for sure and Robert might not be old enough or have enough credit. If we could get this place then we could have extra money to save back. The guy want is up front not payment plans. The one good chance to have our own place, even though it a weird thought to live there.

Robert didn't get the manager position on account the asst. manager kept changing the work times so Robert couldnt get the proper training in. THe General manager made the time and the asst. changed it with out him knowing. NOt right. Not fair. Hope she gets fired soon Or the police training place opens up soon. He is going to do that when it opens. Something good needs to happen for us.



Ashley

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Ashley,

I am not trying to be mean, but keep living the way you are. Not doing anything to improve your situation, such as study for GED, get that out of the way, maybe look into a trade college? Grants are possible for people who are low income. Not get a job period, keep collecting more animals (more responsibility, more mouths to feed) and the type of disappointment you are feeling right now will be amplified. How much are you paying for online connection? We pay $50.00 a month for ours. If I were in your shoes, I would be disconnecting my internet and putting that money away, or buying food, or looking into ways it can help me. And I know, you left home early, you had a bad life- sweetie, join a BIG club and it is only another reason why you should want to improve your situation and not wallow in it.

I have a dear friend, I have known over 20 years. Lost her parents at the age of 13 ran away from foster homes, struck out on her own at 16 landed in Alaska, had a couple major scares, finally swallowed her pride and asked for help from an elderly man. He helped her. He taught her how to build things, how to sculpt, how to draw, how to live. She is married today happily to a greek man and is the most self-sufficient woman literally on the planet. She could have played the cry me a river song, but decided to get pro-active with her life or freeze to death. Life is tough, that is a fact. You deal with it as it comes, or it will destroy you.

hm..
ash, I know im going to be rude now but im going to be nice as possible.
I know youre at your mums with the internet so that isnt a problem since your mum pays for it... But Isnt it time to start a budget?
If my bf didnt have to pay off all of his debts we would be so rich right now and we are going to be fine in april or so. Not rich but you know really well off.
In some ways i feel sorry for you, but i do get angry each time you complain at the board about jobs and money.
EVERY JOB SUCKS THATS WHAT YOU BOTH HAVE TO GET INTO YOUR HEAD!

why live in a crappy trailer? where are you going to put all of your pets?
Dont you think its time for some animals to be adopted somewhere else?
I would love to get 2 or 3 more kitties, but do you think my bf would ever allow me? Im sure he would but only if money permitted it. and im supposed to be the money financer in this house!

you are both so young and it sounds like both of your parents arent supporting either of you in any way.
You always say that everything is not fair.
Do you think life is fair for anybody??
I'm sorry if im sounding rude, but since we are the same age, to me you prove that you arent thinking enough and through it properly

Ashley,
I am sorry but I have to agree with the others as well... I see your posts and sometimes I wonder how much you are really thinking through things. Your so young and I think that you have got to realize that the decisions you make right now affect your entire life. I know your life hasn't been easy, mine wasn't either. You can not continue to use that as an excuse or keep waiting for someone to feel sorry for you and help you out. There comes a point when you have to make things happen on your own. No one is going to improve your life but you. You need to concentrate right now on your GED and drivers license. Also your job situation.... You have got to work and right now you are going to have to work hard to make something of yourself. You need to have goals set and stick to them. If that means working in a fast food place and cleaning toilets 5 times a day, then so be it. As far as your pets go, I know you love them, but I just read through all the threads you have started and there are a ton of them mentioning getting new pets, and breeding and so on. I don't see how you can possibly continue to support all of these animals, when so many of your posts describe how you can barely take care of yourself. Why not wait until you are in a situation where you can take care of yourself and then responsibly decide whether or not you can afford a pet
I think your intentions are good but sweetie you are not 12 years old anymore. Unfortunately, situations have forced you to grow up faster than you should have. You do not want to spend your entire life struggling to make ends meet.
You probably are not going to like this... but that boyfriend of yours.... You have made mention of abuse to you and your animals, you mention the fact that he walked out of his job because he had to do things he didn't like. Ashley, in a relationship you both need to have the same goals. Neither should be holding the other down.... You need to decide whether you are going to be able to have what you want out of life with this guy, if not, leave him. Concentrate on yourself, become an independant woman and I promise you the right person will come along.
I can say all of this because I have been there. I can honestly say that I am not going to end up like my parents and I have made a better life for myself. I finally got it in my head that I didn't want to struggle. I finished school, worked hard, found a wonderful guy who proposed to me last night and we are closing on our first house on the 28th. It's not a trailer, it's a great house in a great neighborhood, even has a pool. You can do it, it's just up to you to decide what you want and it's up to YOU to make it happen.

Life is only as fair as you make it for yourself.

In other words, if you work hard you will have great rewards in life. If you sit around and complain and wait for people to hand things to you.........you get handed the "crap" that the people who work hard don't have to take.

Get you GED and stand on your own 2 feet. To me, it sounds like you're waiting for your boyfriend to get a wonderfull job and support you. (This isn't going to happen.) The best reward in life is INDEPENDENCE!!!!!


I can not say this enough.....get your GED!!!! Didn't you say the test was approaching in March? We're almost there. What have you done to prepare for it?

Right, why aren't you studying for it? My guess is you have already told yourself it won't matter, you are a failure.

Ok this is going to surprise some people, but here it is- I used to be a major druggie, lived in a trailer, got high. I was married too. My hubby introduced to drugs (nice man huh?) I came from good background, and married was on food stamps! It was a hard lesson to learn and an even harder one to live. But I walked away finally after ten years of an emotional roller coaster abuse of all sorts and I found myself. I got a job a new place NOT a trailer. I divorced and moved on. I didn't wait for someone to give me what I thought I was owed, I went out and found it for myself. My friend who is a published writer when we share stories of our past she says I lived the kind of life some writers would die for, because of the hardships, because of the experiences. I turned it all around. Because of my early choice of running away from home to GASP move in with this man, I lost my family. Not that I really had them in the first place, we were not the family of the year, but the small things I did have, I lost. Do I miss them? Sometimes, usually at Christmas when I know they are getting together totally ignoring me- but you know what? Life sometimes isn't fair. And having money isn't the answer to all your problems. It's what you believe about yourself, your values, what you settle for and what your learn along the way.

I feel like a lot of Ashley's posts turn into this... a lot of us giving great advice and sharing personal experiences to try and help her. It makes me remember all of the people who gave me such good advice during those times and how I was convinced my situation would end up differently. It never got better though, not until I realized I was the one who had to make the difference. I had to learn it for myself I guess.
Ashley, we aren't trying to gang up on you. We are just trying to get you to realize how things look from our point of view. You can't always see things clearly when your on the inside.

Right, I had friends that would tell me that Don was a deadhead, I supported our family for a very long time and just kept thinking I love him, this will get better. But it never did and progressively it got worse. I guess that is what scares me when I read posts from young kids struggling and complaining instead of acting to change things. Because I was them ONCE, I was the loser, the complainer, the woe is me, life gave me dirt, I will eat mud pie. You are what you make of yourself. My hope is that Ashley can see herself in one of us trying to help her. She may even get mad, and say "I'll show them all!" And if she does, I will be the first one to applaud her, but for now, all her posts tell me is she is feeling sorry for herself and she is losing what quality of life she could have. I was 17 when I left home. I snuck out in the middle of the night after a huge fight with my mom. It's not something I am proud of- but it is something I learned hard lessons about in doing.

Also sometimes it takes hard lessons to really help one, nothing is easy and no one said life is fair it isn't, you get outta life what you put in it. If you work hard and try hard things will get better

I have to agree with the others. The time you spend on the internet and on this site would be better spent in school or at a job. I have no idea how or why you have a fiance at age 17, but that should be the last of your priorities right now. You identify your town as boring, but if you do not take control of your life and your future, you will be singing the same song forever.

Life is not fair. That is the one truth. You get out of life what you put into it, and even then some of us work a lot harder than others to get the things we have. You are 17. You have your whole life to be a grown up and have all of the things you seem to so desperately want now. Invest in your future today by going to school and giving yourself a chance to have that future.

I don't know if it's the parent or educator in me...perhaps both....and you may hate all of us for saying these things, but if somewhere along the way it sinks in, we have all done you a huge favor.

"AMEN"

I mean listen im a loser my self
Im 18, My bf wasnt the best person to come accross to but he has changed so much in the time we known each other and he has supported me.
I KNOW THAT ITS UNFAIR!! Do you think that i deserved to have the parents i have and what they put me through? You know i dont even have a family anymore, My mother prefers the alcohol, my dad is just in his own world, my relatives dont even give a flying **** about me or even know that i exist.
But i am still on my own legs, Even with anxiety and depression.
I have seen you online since you started this thread and you still havent replied to any of us.
Infact when we talk to you about this matter you never reply back.
IM not attacking you. I may sound like a total bitch, but thats okay.
Ive lost 2 years of school which i am making up for now, Since im at home i enjoy studying, cleaning and pampering my kitty.
and as i read from your other post you do it from home too right??

SO how about Changing your self
1. Making your self a nice home made make over.
Im sure you have hand cream and nail polish and shampoo.
SO take a shower, Only 5 mins though to refresh your self, Wash hair.
Blow dry your hair if you have a dryer,
Put cream on your face and body.
Wear your best clothes
Start doing your nails.
Clean a table or desk
Lay our all your books
Get a paper and pens start your goals
Stick it on the wall infront of you
Read through your books,
when you are finished. Do you know how much better you will feel???
2. get your books out and start studying
3. Get a piece of paper stick it on the wall and decorate it, THEN WRITE DOWN YOUR GOALS! its never too late!
This is what i did and do you know what?
I FEEL LIKE IM THE BeST PERSON ON THIS PLANETTTTT

Ashley, I know I have been hard on you in the past but you have to realize that what everyone here is saying is TRUE, and sadly the truth hurts a lot of the time.

Fran made a great point that you never reply to us about this, I hope that is because you are thinking about everything said.

I'm not going to repeat anything, you get the point.

Read this thread over very carefully, you are not the only one who has dealt with the UNFAIR reality of life.

Don't let your life waste away, you know what you need to do~

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I have seen you online since you started this thread and you still havent replied to any of us.
Infact when we talk to you about this matter you never reply back.

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fwan's right, Ashley. Whenever people post in a way to truly help you and not just sympathize or give you shoulder to cry on, you avoid the thread from that point forward. I hope that perhaps you seriously consider some of the solid advice you have been given before your life takes you to a place where you have no other options.

Ashley, I have to agree with the others. I remember a couple of weeks ago when you had a nasty cat bite or scratch and needed to go to the emergency room....you complained about not having any money to go. Yet, just a few days ago, you were posting about wanting to buy a new computer and just recently about getting a couple of new pets in addition to all the ones you already have.

Sweetie....your priorities are all messed up right now. You shouldn't be thinking about a new computer or getting more pets. Your number one priority right now should be getting your diploma and trying to get a better job. I'll tell you, just like I tell my own daughter (who is 21 now and doing nothing with her life).....until you realize that YOU are responsible for your life....nothing is going to change. YOU are the captain of your own ship and YOU decide where you want to take it. Until you gain the skills and experience that you need, you will have to work at some pretty crappy jobs. But you know what? Each job experience.....no matter how crappy it is.....is a stepping stone to another job. No matter what job you have, you need to do the BEST job you can and look for opportunities to learn new skills and experience new things. Then....you move onto another job and do the same thing.....keep learning and climbing the stairs....until you get to the point where you're happy and finally doing the job that you want to do. Most of us spend our entire lives striving for that "dream job" and few of us ever make it. It's a journey that takes years to accomplish. You can't expect to have your dream job now. If you look at each new job or experience as a stepping stone to something better......it makes it a lot more tolerable. And along the way, you will have to make numerous sacrifices in order to achieve what you want out of life.

I'm sure that every single person here has a story of sacrifice that they can tell you and I'm sure that everyone will tell you that they didn't start out having everything they wanted or working the perfect job. It's hard work and it's a process that you have to go through in order to become a successful adult. There aren't any shortcuts.

Ashley...only YOU can make the necessary changes in your life that are going to improve things for you. I'm not telling you anything that I haven't told my own daughter.....so I hope that none of this hurts your feelings.

You don't want to go to that place girl. I have been there. It is a deep dark hole and I only made it out because of the grace of God. Ok I have actually said all I can say. Gave you a brief moment of my past life which to this day still causes me shame. I just hope you aren't mad and fuming, but instead you are thinking, processing what has been said and will be adult enough to respond soon on a level manner.