Rejection is not easy...

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Michele - don't worry about this. They were just not right for you. Although I was only 19 when I met my husband, I'd already decided a couple of years before that I would wait until I was 30 to get married (yeah right, like that worked
). I couldn't stand boys my own age, none of them seem right to me; so I thought I'd wait until they'd grown up a bit. I'd decided it was better to be alone than with someone I didn't like all that much. It was especially hard to meet people as I'm not a great one for going out drinking etc, nor did I have a big circle of friends. As it turned out, hubby arrived when I least expected him. So what the others have said is quite true - expect the unexpected. We met at work.

It will happen for you.
 
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I'm not giving up...and I do think it's likely that it's "them" and not me (although...there's a part of me that says: Hey, 4 guys flopped on you at once...it's YOU, dingbat, YOU!). It just hurt that 4 on the same day made the same decision which was a negative thing. It may be Vday, or it may be that we'd come to a point in the conversation where, had it been face to face, they'd've gone off to check out the other ladies in the bar (or social club, or wherever). It still stung. And not because I had developed strong feelings (I hadn't, although there was definitely one who I wanted to get to know much better...), but because there was no explanation nor "warning." Sigh....and yes, I checked my outgoing emails; it was NOT Simon. LOL.

The problem in expanding my circles is simply that I haven't time to do that, not really. I wish I did...but I work so much. And I'm starting to wonder if I work so much because I don't want to know what I'm missing in the rest of my life.

Argh....but I'm not giving up. I'm just a bit frustrated and pretty down about it. I guess I just need to keep kissing frogs and seeing which one will become a prince.

I got a really strong sensation that they're just unable or incapable of keeping up with you. If they closed communications.....sounds like you were on a more in-depth kind of site?
Yes, it's a far more indepth site than just "here're some singles looking in your area; good luck!" It's a great site, and again, nothing I say here is said to denegrate them in any way.

you are a brilliant writer, and no matter how you string your words together, you shine very bright and your intelligence just bursts right through.
Thanks for that...and it's not something I've never heard before. And yes, I've heard it's sometimes hard to keep up with me. But I don't think changing/hiding who I am deep down inside will make for a successful relationship, irrespective of it's genesis (on-line or face to face). I've tried that before, and it simply doesn't work. I know you weren't suggesting that at all, either.

I know the right guy will come along, someday. But if I don't put the hook in the water, how will I know he's there, swimming around? I'm not taking my hook out of the water...just sitting here on the bank cursing the fish, and wondering if I have the right bait. LOL...it's still early, and that's an awkward metaphor, but you get the idea.

Sigh....I still feel rejection, but it helps having all of you cheer me up and send me hugs. Thanks much....it really is appreciated.

And I *do* have 5 Valentines sitting here at my house, and that's a good thing...kitty love is amazing.

Best-
Michele
 

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Aww Michelle don't worry!, i'm not with anyone either.

It's been 2 years since my boyfriend and i split and although i have been asked out several times i'm just not ready yet.

It'll happen when your not looking for it because thats what happend with my last one


In the meantime heres Rosie to cheer you up!
 

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Originally Posted by rosiemac

Aww Michelle don't worry!, i'm not with anyone either.

It's been 2 years since my boyfriend and i split and although i have been asked out several times i'm just not ready yet.

It'll happen when your not looking for it because thats what happend with my last one


In the meantime heres Rosie to cheer you up!
Rosie is irresistable!
 

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Oh, Michele! I have tried that route, too. It is so discouraging,and I have about decided if the Lord has someone for me, He's gonna have to throw him at me.
It hurts too much, the rejection.
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Three of my friends did the Eharmony and had good luck with it. Two are now married and seem happy. I don't know which service you used, but you might want to look elsewhere if your heart is up to it-

I met Mike through the personals over 25 years ago. We wrote for 4 years and will soon celebrate our 18th wedding anniversary, so it can work-
 
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Know what? Rosie said it all. And she said "hang in there, cat lady. It's gonna be all right."

It was just all at once. LOLOL, I can be such a baby at times....I'm in the game, so not to worry...

Best-
Michele
 

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(((((((Noni)))))))

I spent many a valentine's day alone - even when I was in a 9 year relationship :-( - and I had a boyfriend who used to 'break up' just before Christmas - and once even on my birthday. It took a long time for me to get to the point where I could break up with him since I was so afraid of not having someone in my life, or being alone for the rest of my life. It got to the point where I realized that even if no one else came along -ever- that I was better off on my own than with him, and I was able to leave and make it stick. I really had resigned myself to the fact that in my late 40s it was unlikely I would ever find another partner in life. I knew that I could be happy totallly on my own and for the first time really felt alive and happy just enjoying being me.

The last thing on my mind was meeting someone on line, but that is what happened. I had some computer problems and asked an acquaintance who worked in the computer field who I knew through one of my on line interests groups for advice. He helped me out and we started to talk. Well, one thing led to another - and despite the fact that he lived 900 miles away and in a totally different country - we were married last June, the day before my 49th birthday. So, if there is no one to bring you flowers right now, buy your self a bouquet, celebrate the wonder of 'you', and when you least expect it, the 'right' person will surprise you by being there:-).

Enjoy all of those valentine kitty kisses:-)

Kathryn
 
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HIssy:
Three of my friends did the Eharmony and had good luck with it. Two are now married and seem happy. I don't know which service you used, but you might want to look elsewhere if your heart is up to it-

I met Mike through the personals over 25 years ago. We wrote for 4 years and will soon celebrate our 18th wedding anniversary, so it can work-
See, that's what I know can happen. Happily ever after....which is why I went this direction in the first place.

My heart's up to it...my ego may not be, but my heart is. And who needs an ego??? Hugs, MA...and thanks.

So, if there is no one to bring you flowers right now, buy your self a bouquet, celebrate the wonder of 'you', and when you least expect it, the 'right' person will surprise you by being there:-).
I bought myself a huge boquet of flowers today, and brought them home. The cats want to eat them, so now they're up on top of the china hutch. LOLOLOL! And, I bought myself some chocolate, too. Why not? I am enjoying me.

Enjoy all of those valentine kitty kisses:-)
I've got Simon in my lap, Pie at my right side, Esse on the left, Charlotte on the table, and Pengy in her room. I'm lovin' my feline family very much....and I know that I am dearly loved (and tolerated, in Pengy's case) by my babies. All I need to do is watch my guys follow me from room to room, and I understand I am loved. And that warms my heart ever-so-much.

Best-
Michele
 
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