Originally Posted by Ilovecats
Aw, you all care about me so.
Know I care for you all too. It really isn't too bad. I know its no excuse, but I can act pretty bad...
I agree. Come here...
When you love someone and they do something that hurts you the first instinct is to find a reason (read: excuse). There is the concern that if the person can hurt you like this, then maybe they don't love you as much as you thought, and so coming up with a rational reason for the behavior feels better. However, his hitting you isn't an expression of his lack of love for you, it is quite simply that your father has self-control issues. Everyone gets mad (sometimes furious), but most of us are able to hold firm and express our anger more constructively (like this forum!!). Now here is another truth: you could break every breakable object in the house and scream the most foul things at him that you can imagine . . . and he still should not hit you. While you say you understand that your "acting up" is not an excuse, it doesn't sound like you actually believe that, darling. The fact that your father gets violent (even if "mild") has everything to do with what is going on INSIDE him, and what triggers it is really irrelevant. Family counseling would probably be a GREAT idea. It would give you a forum for your family to talk about issues in a more neutral setting in the presence of a moderator. Anyway, I bet I sound all preachy (blah, blah, blah . . .). I just want to be sure youâ€™re really OK and not just putting up a brave front (no big deal . . .). So, I suppose I should actually get on to venting . . . .
Work. I love my coworkers, but I hate the mess that some of them leave in the break room. How can you spill coffee all over the counter, and leave a swath of spilled sugar and NOT CLEAN IT UP!!!!!!! Argggggg!!! Plus, I hate to say it, but it really irritates me when I get official letters from agencies, and the letters contain glaring grammatical errors. Although it can be good for a laugh!