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I am a bad TCS member

post #1 of 29
Thread Starter 
With all of the "make a member feel good" post I realise that there aren't very many people here I know very well. And I've been here for over a year now! Don't worry I'm not putting the blame on anyone but me It just never really occured to me until recently about using PM's...I mean I knew it was there but... and it's usually not easy for me to put my thoughts into words (OK, I admit I might be a bit slow! )

Anyway, I just want to tell everyone how very much I enjoy my time here and reading all of your post and seeing all of your pictures and sharing my kitties with all of you!

You guys are the best!
post #2 of 29
We all love seeing your kitties, too!!!
post #3 of 29
Awww Diane, heck, I have relatives that I don't know very well, do don't feel bad. Feel free to PM me anytime!
post #4 of 29
That doesn't make you a bad TCS member - shy maybe, but not bad. To be honest, I've never thought about PMs, I know I've answered a few, but I thought I had to have something super-important to say, I didn't think of them as a "getting to know you" tool. I guess I'm a bit slow too!

But whether you feel you know people well or not, it's great to share kitties with you and "talk" on the boards.
post #5 of 29
You´re a Bad Girl, Bad Girl !!!

Just kidding! you know me!!!! Awwww Diane, I love your post too!!!
post #6 of 29
Quote:
Originally Posted by flisssweetpea
That doesn't make you a bad TCS member - shy maybe, but not bad. To be honest, I've never thought about PMs, I know I've answered a few, but I thought I had to have something super-important to say, I didn't think of them as a "getting to know you" tool. I guess I'm a bit slow too!

But whether you feel you know people well or not, it's great to share kitties with you and "talk" on the boards.
Chalk another one up on the "didnt think about using PM's as a get-to-know-you tool" HMMM.. I feel a bit sheepish.
post #7 of 29
You, Chuckie, Spyder, Stormy, Winnie, Milo, Crystal, Roo & Francine are such a vital part of our family, Diane! Your babies are so wonderful! I sure look forward to getting to know you better with each passing day! Wow, I sure have been enjoying your daily kitty quotes, thank you so much for being here with us!
post #8 of 29
Diane -- Well I feel very grateful that you decided to trying PMs with me! I am glad that I have gotten to know you better this past week, and I am glad I have found another SB buddy out there.
post #9 of 29
It definitely doesn't make you a bad TCS member!

I look forward to getting to know you better!
post #10 of 29
I'm a bad TCS member too, I've been here since late September and I have yet to have a buddy. I'll admit it, I'm a shy person, but I love everyone here. I enjoy reading everyone post and seeing everyone kitties. I have never use the PM's either....only to respond to people who PM me, but I would love to send someone a PM for once.

BTW I'm just beginning to know some people on the Vacation Thread.
post #11 of 29
Stormy, I love your icon! You always have cute photos of your furbabies. Here's to getting to know everyone...*cheers*
post #12 of 29
Thread Starter 
Awww, thanks eveyone! You all make me feel so much better! One of my lifelong problems has been (and still is but to a little lesser extent) extreme shyness. I guess that's why it's hard for me to express myself well. I'll just have to keep at it and sooner or later I'll get better with it!
post #13 of 29
Awww Diane yor not bad at all!

We enjoy seeing your posts as well
post #14 of 29
Quote:
Originally Posted by flisssweetpea
That doesn't make you a bad TCS member - shy maybe, but not bad. To be honest, I've never thought about PMs, I know I've answered a few, but I thought I had to have something super-important to say, I didn't think of them as a "getting to know you" tool. I guess I'm a bit slow too!

But whether you feel you know people well or not, it's great to share kitties with you and "talk" on the boards.
Im just slow too
post #15 of 29
Quote:
Originally Posted by babygirl
I'm a bad TCS member too, I've been here since late September and I have yet to have a buddy. I'll admit it, I'm a shy person, but I love everyone here. I enjoy reading everyone post and seeing everyone kitties. I have never use the PM's either....only to respond to people who PM me, but I would love to send someone a PM for once.

BTW I'm just beginning to know some people on the Vacation Thread.

I love what Tina has shared. And Diane! You are NOT a bad member, heavens, Diane - where did you get that into your head? There are no social rules (well, except some simple etiquette) but gosh, that must make me a super bad member. I've been here for 20 months and to tell you honestly, I love everyone here, but people come and go. This is but one facet in our lives -- albeit an important one for many -- but we all have other things going on, small or large. We're here for the love of kitties and that is evident in everything we do. They come first, we are simply second in command. This is a 24/7 international site and there are different people on in different time zones and when you pop in and out you get to know who everyone is like a snapshot in time. PM's are wonderful but like Tina, I am not flooded with them and when I get them I always respond and it's quite nice. Many threads aren't as long as the vacation thread and the Boards are different in scope and tone. And have you ever really looked at a kaleidescope? Your turn it one way and different patterns appear. You turn it again and the confetti attaches to other confetti in defferent ways. We're just a kaleidescope, constantly shaken. :bump: We have shy squares and we have extroverted squares, but in the end we're all in the same container, and it just rocks. So Tina, Diane, and everyone else ~ I feel no apologies are necessary! There's enough love and room for whoever and however you choose to be.
We gotta whole lotta angel goin' on!



Love, Elizabeth
post #16 of 29
awwww, very well said elizabeth!
post #17 of 29

awwwwwww Diane - your such an important part of TCS and we are so very glad you are apart of it.
I look forward to getting to know you better!!!

edit - well said Elizabether!!!! I so agree with everything you said....

come here Tina & Diane - hugs all round
post #18 of 29
I'm one of those people who hates answering the phone - I often let it ring, but do respond to emails and PMs at some point. Let me put it this way - I have a life and responsibilities quite apart from TCS - does that make me, or you, a "bad member"? I think not!
post #19 of 29
Thread Starter 
Thanks so much for all of your wonderful replys. They really mean alot! I see quite a few are the same as me, but you all put it in a much better perspective. Thanks!!
post #20 of 29
Thank you Eizabeth and Danielle.
post #21 of 29
Quote:
Originally Posted by jcat
I'm one of those people who hates answering the phone - I often let it ring, but do respond to emails and PMs at some point. Let me put it this way - I have a life and responsibilities quite apart from TCS - does that make me, or you, a "bad member"? I think not!
Me too! I often do not answer the phone. Actually, I find it easier a lot of the time to communicate with people through the computer, and do a lot more emailling than phoning. Of course, that is also in part because most of my friends live a long ways away, because I just moved to my current abode last summer and do not know many people yet. But I have lived 'way out in the country and been a hermit, too, and loved it. Groups like this are a fun way to communicate with others on our own time schedule, and I don't think that it matters how well we know each other. How well can we know each other, anyway, never having met in person, after all? But the good thing is it doesn't matter.
post #22 of 29
Well Diane you have another quiet one here I do more reading than answering. So basically I am a shy person too. It is fun to get to know someone new and get brave enough to put in my opinion without feeling like I have to hide. So No we don't think you are a bad person just quiet. Maybe just need a little bump :bump: to get you going.
post #23 of 29
Diane, join us on the vacation thread if you have some free time, it's alot of fun and we all get to know each other well.

Your not a bad member! I enjoy reading your posts and seeing pics of your kitties antics!
post #24 of 29
I rarely use PMs. I have made a few to members, but only to speak specifically about a cat related topic or comment a person made in their post. I have received a few from members, but not many.
post #25 of 29
I would feel shy too about PMing someone unless it was really important or private and relevant to something posted. But I am getting to feel I know some people at least a bit through their posts, and I am so grateful and amazed at the support I had throughout Persil's traumatic time, when I really thought I would lose her. And I like the vacation thread too, though I don't have time to be there all through.
post #26 of 29
Just wanted to add to what everyone has said... that does NOT make you a bad TCS member, I know when I first joined I was pretty nervous writing just to begin with. I just hope that this thread will help you talk to more people who would love to get to know you and your kitties better (like me) and maybe get rid of a bit of that nervousness and start being a bit more outgoing.

But even if that doesn't happen... we'll still love you!
post #27 of 29
I feel the same way. I am ashamed of myself and want to get to know all of you better.

Quote:
Originally Posted by stormy
With all of the "make a member feel good" post I realise that there aren't very many people here I know very well. And I've been here for over a year now! Don't worry I'm not putting the blame on anyone but me It just never really occured to me until recently about using PM's...I mean I knew it was there but... and it's usually not easy for me to put my thoughts into words (OK, I admit I might be a bit slow! )

Anyway, I just want to tell everyone how very much I enjoy my time here and reading all of your post and seeing all of your pictures and sharing my kitties with all of you!

You guys are the best!
post #28 of 29
Don't feel bad... I'm that way too. I always feel like I'm intruding when I PM someone. I know its silly... but, eh.
post #29 of 29
Wow, I feel the same way that Diane and Tina do... I was wondering if everyone thought I was a horrible person because I really dont know everyone all too well... with the exception of stevie and fwan, who I have shared PM's with... and Ari, who broke Malakai's heart when she promised Baylee to Juicy... but that's okay, you're still wonderful, Ari!! LoL It's kinda funny considering everyone knows all about me from my threads about Adrian, My mom, the job hunt, etc...

I really never thought of using the PM feature and I only answer them when I get them.... I guess I feel like I'd be intruding to just send one randomly... I guess that's another confession - I always feel like I'd be intruding if I called someone out of the blue...
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