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Oscar, KitKatMom's baby found dead

post #1 of 26
Thread Starter 
My cat Oscar, 12, has been allowed to go out here in the semi-wilds of Florida (still rural mostly), mainly because if I don't allow him out he incessantly scratches at the door and has ripped up plenty enough of it for me to have just given into him after three weeks here (moved in 1 year ago).

I initially walked Oscar on his long leash several times around our community before he just intuited, "Mom, I got it- let me bloody go!" I had to. ANd he always, without fail, came back home within 10 hours.

WHen I let him out more than a day ago, he turned to look back at me, and it was such a unique glance that I walked back inside thinking about it. I know now it was the sign of "so long" It was a look of "adios and goodbye" I had never seen before- I knew it then and am bawling over it now,

I'm between tears now, and after 37 hours I realize what he's done- he was sick with cancer, I sensed it for sure, and he went to find his resting place in the jungle. He'd be back by now. No neighbor's seen him, the shelters and police and animal control folks haven't seen him, and that look he left me with convinces me I really have to let go....

Of course, I have put up posters and placed ads and spent the day out canvassing for him, hoping he'll meow from under a bush, hurt but still with us. No joyful reunion this time like in the past..

I'm sadder than all get go, but I always told him, you do what's right by you, buddy. He wanted to do this, I just know it, and Francis is sympathetic and almost seemingly trying to comfort me, to tell me that he knew Oscar was going "home", and to be brave and grateful Oscar was so cool... He's so seemingly aware of the situation and not whimpering, but acting uncharacteristically strong.

I'm sorry you all, as a newbie and everything to go off like this, but I just know my old man Oscar left on the ultimate journey. Please pray for him.
post #2 of 26
I pray Oscar comes back. Don't lose hope!
post #3 of 26
oh sweetheart what a frantic heartbreaking time this must be for you - I myself am sitting here with tears streaming down my face

I hope that Oscar comes home real soon - there are some great articles out there about finding lost pets - here is a good one - http://www.catsinthebag.org/ I hope this was not his final goodbye to you my friend - and dont ever be sorry about coming her to discuss your thoughts or fears with us - thats what we are here for !!

my thoughts are with you & Oscar tonight
COME HOME OSCAR!!! YOUR MUMMY IS WORRIED SICK ABOUT YOU!!!
post #4 of 26
cats will when they know the time is drawing to an end, they will go off and just lie down and go to sleep. But that being said, don't give up on him coming home, he could have been scared off by something, or he could just be lying low-

www.lost-pets.org was put together to help people whose pet has been lost or stolen-
post #5 of 26
I really hope this is not the case for Oscar and that he just wanted a bit roam about but i have also heard that as well ((((((come home Oscar)))))))
post #6 of 26
You must be in so much pain.I am praying for your sweet Oscar.
post #7 of 26
I am so sorry!! I can't imagine the hurt.
post #8 of 26
You poor thing, you do have my sympathy & prayers. Yes, cats do go off when they're poorly, but it doesn't mean you'll never find him. My neighbour's lovely big cat lost his brother last year, over the next few months he just pined away until one day he could not be found. Three of us searched all round the fields etc. nearby, and we found him, he looked just like he'd fallen asleep, so peaceful. It's the worry of not knowing that's hardest to cope with, so I hope you find him soon, one way or another.
E-hugs to you!

Sue
post #9 of 26
Thread Starter 
Many of you know my baby Oscar went missing Tuesday, and that he had given me a look of farewell as he left unlike anything I had ever seen before.

Oscar was found dead by a not-too-nearby neighbor last night, heard about it from him today. The f*cking management here didn't call me, though, and wrapped him up in a garbage bag and put him in the dumpster, which has already been emptied. I didn't get a chance to give him a proper burial or cremation or anything.

I knew he was going away for good somehow, when he gave me that last farewell look on Tuesday. I just knew it. And I'm somewhat cried out now. Please pray for little Francis' comfort in his grief (my other kitty). I'm ok, I guess, but so very sad I couldn't be with him and that he died in the cold, alone, and that I couldn't give him a proper resting ceremony.

Gotta stop now, I'm am crying again...... I'm devastated, completely crushed.
post #10 of 26
Thread Starter 
Thank you all for your prayers, but Oscar didn't make it. Please see the Bridge section.
post #11 of 26
I merged your threads and I am sorry for your loss. The people that found him did what people normally do in that situation. I wouldn't be to hard on them, finding a deceased cat is not an easy thing to witness.
post #12 of 26
KitKatMom... I'm very, very sorry for your loss and also that you weren't able to give sweet Oscar a proper burial. I hope you'll find comfort in knowing that he knew love and kindness because of you and that where he is now he feels no pain.

I'm sure my little guy Marshmallow gave Oscar a warm welcome when he made it to the bridge.

My thoughts and prayers are with you.
post #13 of 26
Thread Starter 
Many of you know my baby Oscar went missing Tuesday, and that he had given me a look of farewell as he left unlike anything I had ever seen before. Moderators stuck the whole deal here, I guess. I resubmit this thread cus it should be at the top, not buried below (thanks for understanding, mods).

Oscar was found dead by a not-too-nearby neighbor last night, heard about it from him today. The f*cking management here didn't call me, though, and wrapped him up in a garbage bag and put him in the dumpster, which has already been emptied. I didn't get a chance to give him a proper burial or cremation or anything.

I knew he was going away for good somehow, when he gave me that last farewell look on Tuesday. I just knew it. And I'm somewhat cried out now. Please pray for little Francis' comfort in his grief (my other kitty). I'm ok, I guess, but so very sad I couldn't be with him and that he died in the cold, alone, and that I couldn't give him a proper resting ceremony.

Gotta stop now, I'm am crying again...... I'm devastated, completely crushed.
post #14 of 26
I am praying, too. Sending you hugs and warm thoughts and empathy.






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Originally Posted by yayi
I pray Oscar comes back. Don't lose hope!
post #15 of 26
Oh, I am crying for you. I cannot help it. I know how hard this is for you, and I am praying for you. Oscar must have been a wonderful kitty. I know you will always love him and remember that last look he gave to you.
Bobbie
post #16 of 26
Oh how sad, I'm in tears....I'm so sorry for your loss, my thoughts and prayers are with you.
RIP Oscar.
post #17 of 26
I had hopes when I read the first post that he would come back, then reading the rest of the thread I found out that was not the case. I am sure, like me you also had hopes and felt them slip away when you found out the news and I feel for your pain and sorrow. It is never easy to loose a loved one, but as you implied, it seems he just knew, was at peace with the cycle of life and ready to accept his time.

It is hard not to have the closure of the burial, but what really mattered lives on in your heart and your head and in everyone who reads these threads. The memories you charish of him during his happy times and his journy though life with you at his side keep him alive forever and I hope sustain you until the day you are reunited.

We have lost BooBoo and Elmer and I am sure both of them are there welcoming him and showing him around. The way I understand it, all cats are friendly and without fear and forever playful as they were on their happiest day, so have no sorrow and be glad he is at peace without pain. I wish you all the best until you are back with your friend,
post #18 of 26
oh how sorry I am to hear this news, I was so hoping that he would come home again how heartbreaking this must be for you. I am so sorry you did not get to give him a proper burial, I can only imagine how hard that must of been for you

he is now watching over you from above - he knows how much he was loved and how much he loves you and that will never change - he will watch over you until that day when your eyes meet again
please know that he is no longer in any pain whatsoever

we are hear for you at any time if you need a shoulder to lean on

RIP sweet Oscar
post #19 of 26
I'm sorry about your boy. They do know when it's time. I'll be thinking of both of you, as you both heal from your loss.
post #20 of 26
I am so sorry to hear about Oscar! May he RIP!
post #21 of 26
I am so very sorry to hear that Oscar went to the bridge, I am sitting here crying for you as I write this. All I can offer in comfort is that he said goodbye to you before he left even though you didn't know it at the time. I am sorry that you didn't get to bury him as you wished, but only his body died, his spirit lives on. He will be waiting at the bridge for you, someday you will see him again. Try to comfort your other cat as much as you are able. Hugs and a prayer for you that you can find peace.
post #22 of 26
I too hoped that Oscar would make it home. This was not to be but Oscar knew it was his time and he died on his own terms. It must be hard not to have found him but you at least knew that he was found. His spirit lives on, remember the good times with love
take care <hugs>
post #23 of 26
Oh, how sad I can only imagine your pain, I am so sorry you lost your kitty this way. You will be in my thoughts. RIP Oscar
post #24 of 26
Oh no...sooo sad RIP Oscar....
post #25 of 26
I'm so sorry you lost your sweet Oscar in such a sad way. It must be some comfort that he seemed to know it was time and accepted it bravely.

As time goes on, you'll start to remember more all the happy times you had with him and not the last poignant look he gave you.

I wish I could offer more comfort. I know what it is to lose a long-time beloved cat, but not in this way.

I am sending my prayers and good wishes to you, Oscar and your cat at home.
post #26 of 26
I'm very sorry that you have lost Oscar. Why some cats prefer to go away and why some come to us, during kittening & final journeys, is something I often ponder. I feel for you about not being able to have the final closure of a proper funeral. And maybe an angel was there next to him, to show him the way over the bridge....Yes, I will pray for little Francis, they do know grief. My cat Icy lost her playmate Ronnie this past summer, and she became very clingy with my grandson (until his dad moved with him to San Diego), and then became very lonely and slept alot when not quarreling with the other cat, Cinders. We brought home 2 kittens, JC & Joey, in Oct., but not until around Christmas did she really get back to her old self, confident, playful & outgoing. I pray that Francis and you find healing soon! Peace to you all, Susan (& Icy,JC,Joey&Cinders)
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