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A Story of Betrayal (LONG)
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Amen!! AND That is the problem with teens who "hook-up" (A.K.A "having sex") It sounds to me like the guy is really a jerk and is playing ALL of the girls in his life. My friend went through a similiar situation with her boyfriend when she was in her twenties. Her boyfriend was seeing a married woman behind her back AND dating a third person too!!. It was a mess!!
I am SO, SO, SO, glad I never let myself get sucked into that kind of drama, all because of lack of self-control over raging hormones. How sad!!
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Actually, that's NOT the case at all! He wasnt 'hooking up with' or 'having sex with' either one of them... The reason that we're not friends with them anymore is because they lied about their relationship with him to begin with... When Cat realized that Adrian was more interested in me than her, she thought that she could sway me away from him by telling me that they were 'hooking up'... Not thinking that I would actually have the nerve to ask him... The funny thing is I never asked him... I found out from his sister that the night Cat claimed they 'hooked up' she wasnt even there... She told me that it was at a party that she was never even at... Amanda did the same thing for the same reason... I found out from someone else that she was telling people they hooked up and like I said before, that was IMPOSSIBLE because that was at a point when Adrian and I were, literally, together 24/7 because I was living in NJ and he was with me the whole time... So, he's not playin anyone...
Originally Posted by valanhb
I completely agree with Stefanie.
Karma is a b!tch when she's crossed, and these girls will get theirs in the end. They are not good people and it will come back to them without any help from you. While they usually say this in the course of a divorce, it fits here too: Living well is the best revenge.
Negativity is contageous. Be the bigger person and cleanse yourself of these people totally. You and Adrian will be much better off. It is hard to do, revenge sounds so sweet...but it's never as satisfying as it seems when you're planning it.
Sorry only one thing to add and that is vengence has never served a good master be better than them hold your head high and pretend they do not exist by thinking about it makeing plans to get even you are giveing them just what they want and in the end you may just lose the guy to some times we just have to let things go no matter how much they drive us nuts.
don't have any advice to add - but good luck!
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I just thought that I would share this with you guys because my best friend, Nikki and I found it really amusing... This is Cat's AOL profile as of last night when she changed it...
Okay... We have to find her neck! J&A
This girl actually took this picture of me that I have on my AOL profile, printed it and showed it to a bunch of people asking them who was prettier, me or her? LoL The only thing that she could think to say about me was that I had no neck... That's amusing to me considering the position I was sitting in the picture... Not to mention that Adrian didnt seem to have a problem finding my neck
Maybe they should ask him where it is... LoLoL!
Manda, go have your fun w/ Ito!
I have my Rabbie!
This is their way of making sure we know they both have 'boyfriends' or '**** buddies' or whatever they are... which I couldnt care less... Good for them... I feel sorry for the guys because they dont know what they've gotten themselves into, if they even exist! Which, knowing Cat and her penchant for lying, I wouldnt be surprised if they made these guys up! Oh yeah, she's done THAT before, too!! LoL
F*ck them all and their words.
They have nothing better to do than talk.
This is what I find particularly amusing and the reason that I posted this in the first place... She's referring to mine, Nikki's, Lyndon, and Adrian's away messages... Keep in mind that we've ALWAYS done this... When we were friends with them, they used to do it, too... We always write specific things to each person... Adrian also knows to check my away messages from his friends computer when he's there because I always leave a message for him and he doesnt have a cell phone... Right now, Adrian is at his friends house so this is my away message...
This just goes to show everyone how childish these girls really are, as if you didnt already know! It's stuff like this that makes me laugh so hard that it's worth the aggravation
Okay... We have to find her neck! J&A
This girl actually took this picture of me that I have on my AOL profile, printed it and showed it to a bunch of people asking them who was prettier, me or her? LoL The only thing that she could think to say about me was that I had no neck... That's amusing to me considering the position I was sitting in the picture... Not to mention that Adrian didnt seem to have a problem finding my neck
Manda, go have your fun w/ Ito!
I have my Rabbie!
This is their way of making sure we know they both have 'boyfriends' or '**** buddies' or whatever they are... which I couldnt care less... Good for them... I feel sorry for the guys because they dont know what they've gotten themselves into, if they even exist! Which, knowing Cat and her penchant for lying, I wouldnt be surprised if they made these guys up! Oh yeah, she's done THAT before, too!! LoL
F*ck them all and their words.
They have nothing better to do than talk.
This is what I find particularly amusing and the reason that I posted this in the first place... She's referring to mine, Nikki's, Lyndon, and Adrian's away messages... Keep in mind that we've ALWAYS done this... When we were friends with them, they used to do it, too... We always write specific things to each person... Adrian also knows to check my away messages from his friends computer when he's there because I always leave a message for him and he doesnt have a cell phone... Right now, Adrian is at his friends house so this is my away message...
Lyndon's Away message:
Anyway... as usual... they check ALL of our away messages and she has the nerve to write that! Nothing is written to them or about them... No hidden meanings LoL.. nothing... Amanda's the one that sends me IM's like the one that started this thread but WE have 'nothing better to do than talk'???? LoL That's hilarious to me! We pretend like they dont even exist in our world and they sweat our every move!! It amazes me how stupid some people are!! LoL This gave me an early morning giggle and I thought I would share it with you all!
Thank goodness i'm no longer a teenager!!!
Now i'm confused with the whole situation????????
Now i'm confused with the whole situation????????
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LoL... Why?
Dear God Liza,
Sorry I have just caught up with this thread,,sounds like catty useless drama to me. Sorry that you have the misfortune to be in this mess. You have Adrian and Kai, who needs girlfriends like that?! I understand that these kinds of things happen by no decision or prompting of your own sometimes, it is just other's need to give them self validation. Excuse all the psychobabble but in the world of psychological defense mechanisms, these kind of actions fall under 'justification' and 'reaction formation'. They justify their childish actions with whatever means necessary, how uncredible they may be. Reaction formation is like what you see in kindergarten-ers. Like when a child has a crush on another, so they beat them up or call them names, and act in the opposite of how they feel. These girls are hurt and jealous so they are acting out. They need attention, but theyre searching in the wrong places,,this kind of attention is the kind that ruins reputations and gives females bad names. Just let them go until they are blue in the face. It may take a REALLY long time, but sooner or later,(and like I said it will prob. be later) They will get bored with you and realize it isnt fun or cool. Ofcourse what they will prob. say when that time comes is that they are going to be the adult in the situation and just leave it alone cuz your not worth it or Adrian's a loser anyway or whatever. This ofcourse will p*** you off so be prepared!LOL! Sometimes it is much harder to walk away than to get drawn in to these things,, but I am glad to see that you are not going to give them the satisfaction of playing this game with them. Stick with that plan, I like it. ( And by "that plan" I do not mean the one up your sleeve-lol)
-With condolences-
---stevie
Sorry I have just caught up with this thread,,sounds like catty useless drama to me. Sorry that you have the misfortune to be in this mess. You have Adrian and Kai, who needs girlfriends like that?! I understand that these kinds of things happen by no decision or prompting of your own sometimes, it is just other's need to give them self validation. Excuse all the psychobabble but in the world of psychological defense mechanisms, these kind of actions fall under 'justification' and 'reaction formation'. They justify their childish actions with whatever means necessary, how uncredible they may be. Reaction formation is like what you see in kindergarten-ers. Like when a child has a crush on another, so they beat them up or call them names, and act in the opposite of how they feel. These girls are hurt and jealous so they are acting out. They need attention, but theyre searching in the wrong places,,this kind of attention is the kind that ruins reputations and gives females bad names. Just let them go until they are blue in the face. It may take a REALLY long time, but sooner or later,(and like I said it will prob. be later) They will get bored with you and realize it isnt fun or cool. Ofcourse what they will prob. say when that time comes is that they are going to be the adult in the situation and just leave it alone cuz your not worth it or Adrian's a loser anyway or whatever. This ofcourse will p*** you off so be prepared!LOL! Sometimes it is much harder to walk away than to get drawn in to these things,, but I am glad to see that you are not going to give them the satisfaction of playing this game with them. Stick with that plan, I like it. ( And by "that plan" I do not mean the one up your sleeve-lol)
-With condolences-
---stevie
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Hey Stevie...
I was waiting for your opinion on this cuz I know that you usually know what to say to make things clearer for me...
