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post #1 of 26
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I feel SO guilty, but I have to say I love Orei a bit more then Princess. I don't know why. Maybe because the second cat is more bonded to cats, while the first is more bonded to people. Orei is also rescued. *sigh* I can't help but say that I am more bonded to Orei. Princess only comes to me for attention every once in a while, while Orei is almost always around me. Do you happen to love one of you cats a tad more then another? *sigh* I feel so bad. Am I a bad person? Am I alone in this?
post #2 of 26
I guess Mothers feel the same when they have more than one child, although I'm not a mother.

I realy can't say since I only have one cat. Although I often compare my previous cat, that has since passed, to my current cat, and I know I have more love for one than the other. So I do know what you are feeling, if that's any consolation.
post #3 of 26
I only have one little spoiled brat,,,so I cant say,, but this is one of the very reasons that I do not have another,,,,I just love Conner so much that I am not sure the second would be the same,,not that I want another(well, actually I want 10 more,LOL),,,,But my Conner is the only man for me,,,(although I do not know how my boyfriend would feel about that comment!!)
_stevie
post #4 of 26
I'm with Stevie, I only have one little brat so, I dont know how I would feel having another one.. I do tend to compare Malakai to Poocha who passed away a while ago... She was a lot calmer but then again she was older... So, it's tough to truly compare... Though I remember when Pootz was still alive, my mother had gotten another cat and it wasnt the same... I totally ignored the other cat cuz Pootz was my baby girl and she wouldnt have it any other way In fact, up until Malakai I never really thought I would love another kitten the way I loved Poocha... but Kai's my little boy...
post #5 of 26
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No fair, you guys only have one baby! It is like being a mother, Cheryl, you're right about that. Well, enjoy you're one on one love statis, guys.
post #6 of 26
Okay how's this... I now have two cats! Lol... it's weird, I love Bay and Max in different ways. I guess I can say that since I've had Baylee for... 5 months now and Max for a day and a half!

Anyway, I love that Max is so affectionate, that he immediately seeks out your hand and nudges you to pet him, that he crawls into your lap and just purrs and purrs...

But Baylee is so great in her own way! She gives you kisses (nose to nose), sometimes without even asking. She curls up with me when I'm sleeping (not anyone else) and likes to sleep in late whenever we have the chance. She's happy to see me when I get home and looks sad when I leave. And she's so playful... she could play for hours!

I don't think you're a bad person... maybe you just haven't realized how much you love your other cats, even if it's a small thing that they do. Does that make sense?
post #7 of 26
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Originally Posted by Ilovecats
No fair, you guys only have one baby! It is like bing a mother, Cheryl, you're right about that. Well, enjoy you're one on one love statis, guys.
Sorry, but I've always been a one man woman! He's tall, dark, and handsome! And best of all, look at his hairy chest!!!!
post #8 of 26
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Pinkdaisy-I see what you mean. I wouldn't be able to compare if my cats were new guys like your two. Lets see- Princess always meow for attention and love in the cutist way. She's beautiful, and playful, and loves to rub her head against my hand. I love that about her.
post #9 of 26
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Originally Posted by ccoccocats
Sorry, but I've always been a one man woman! He's tall, dark, and handsome! And best of all, look at his hairy chest!!!!


post #10 of 26
Cheryl---Right on sister!!!!!LOL!!!
post #11 of 26
Well, I love them all equally, there's not one that I love more than the others... but I do find myself playing favourites a bit with Meeko and Phineas over Esmeralda and Henry - it's not because I love Meeko and Phineas more, just that they're much more cuddly and attached to me, where as Essie and Henry are much more independent. I do feel very guilty about it though, and try my best not to do it.
post #12 of 26
Aw, I don't think you should feel bad if you love one more than another. That is just how it is sometimes. I only have one cat, my Beau, but I also have a dog, a Border Collie named Jes. I adore Jes and would do anything for him, and he is an excellent dog, but Beau is my soul mate and not only does he have seniority (15 years to Jes's year and a half being with me) but I love Beau more than I have ever loved any animal in my life. No matter what animal companions I have in the future, I cannot imagine loving one as much as I do Beau ever again. Sometimes there is just a special bond. Nothing wrong with that, in fact it is beautiful.
post #13 of 26
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Originally Posted by Juniper
Well, I love them all equally, there's not one that I love more than the others... but I do find myself playing favourites a bit with Meeko and Phineas over Esmeralda and Henry - it's not because I love Meeko and Phineas more, just that they're much more cuddly and attached to me, where as Essie and Henry are much more independent. I do feel very guilty about it though, and try my best not to do it.

Aww, same here.
post #14 of 26
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Thanks so much Elle. Your words were beautiful. Thanks means alot to me, and I know how you feel.
post #15 of 26
I know what you mean. I love all my babies dearly, but there is a special bond between me and Cindy. She's the one who comes to me for cuddles and scolds me when I won't stop what I'm doing to mush with her. She's the one who likes being picked up (sometimes ). She's the one who sleeps on ME rather than merely on the bed. Etc Etc. Fawn and Suzy are happy to take a scritch, and come to say hello when they've been outside, and sometimes when I come home. But it's Cindy that I really have a bond with. I try to be fair with everyone -- for instance, there's no favouritism around food or treats -- but I sometimes feel a little guilty about the amount of attention Cindy gets, and then I remember that she's the one who asks for it, and who laps it up. I don't think you need to feel bad if you have a special bond with one baby.
post #16 of 26
Sierra is the love of my life. I can't even imagine how it would be to bring another baby into my heart.
post #17 of 26
I love and adore my boys, but I'm ashamed to admit that Miko is and will always be my favorite. Being my first pet (I had him since I was 16 yrs old), he is incredibly spoiled. He knows he's the King and flaunts it excessively. He's also my "boyfriend tester". If my a guy can't get along with Miko, well then...there's the door buddy and don't let it hit you on the way out!
post #18 of 26
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Originally Posted by rapunzel47
I know what you mean. I love all my babies dearly, but there is a special bond between me and Cindy. She's the one who comes to me for cuddles and scolds me when I won't stop what I'm doing to mush with her. She's the one who likes being picked up (sometimes ). She's the one who sleeps on ME rather than merely on the bed. Etc Etc. Fawn and Suzy are happy to take a scritch, and come to say hello when they've been outside, and sometimes when I come home. But it's Cindy that I really have a bond with. I try to be fair with everyone -- for instance, there's no favouritism around food or treats -- but I sometimes feel a little guilty about the amount of attention Cindy gets, and then I remember that she's the one who asks for it, and who laps it up. I don't think you need to feel bad if you have a special bond with one baby.

Thanks. Glad to know you understand. Its just like that!
post #19 of 26
Well... you all know that I only have Dinah. Which is fine with me.

As for mothers of children.. I can speak on that. I have 2 boys. And it's different. I have different bonds with both boys. Both boys (just like cats, I guess) are incredibly different and have their own completely separate personalities...so, I bond with both on different levels, but I love them equally. Does that make sense? My boys are the absolute loves of my life!!
post #20 of 26
Hi Jenny!

14 here, and while I love all of them to death, I do have my favorites. You can't help but singling out 1 (or more) to be your favorites.

I'm asked all the time how I manage sharing the love with 14 cats. Since all of mine were strays or ferals, many are unadoptable to a "normal" person. I open up my house and life to them and give them what they need. They come to me when they want attention and I never turn them away, even if it means sitting quietly with 8 cats piled on my body. But some of them just do it in a way that tugs my heartstrings more so than others.

My favorites? Muddy, Scarlett, and Stumpy. If anyone ever wants to understand which are your own favorites, think in terms of "if I was forced to get ride of my cats tomorrow and if I could only keep a few, which ones would it be?". Someone asked us that question a few weeks ago and my husband and I agonized over it. He added Koko to the list. I hope I never have to face that decision.

Don't feel guilty!
post #21 of 26
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Originally Posted by Ilovecats
I feel SO guilty, but I have to say I love Orei a bit more then Princess. I don't know why. Maybe because the second cat is more bonded to cats, while the first is more bonded to people. Orei is also rescued. *sigh* I can't help but say that I am more bonded to Orei. Princess only comes to me for attention every once in a while, while Orei is almost always around me. Do you happen to love one of you cats a tad more then another? *sigh* I feel so bad. Am I a bad person? Am I alone in this?
no, you're not alone. Mouse was always a 'people' cat, while Pixel was a 'cat' cat - preferred cats to people. that's why i miss Mouse so much, & also why i'm glad Cable is a 'people' cat - she's doing a great job loving all over me!
post #22 of 26
It really works out well in our house. Trent is Mommy's Boy, Ophelia is Daddy's Girl. We both have our "favorites" but I think it's more that the cats chose their favorites to bond with and we went along with it.
post #23 of 26
Well I have 5 cats.....and yes I love them all.....but I do have my favorites. Shelby will always be mommy's girl......no matter how many cats we have. But it's not because I planned it that way.....it's more that it just happened because of the level of attention and affection. She was only 3 weeks old when I got her and she bonded to me so strongly....maybe because she was taken from her mom so young.

And I've noticed that Thomas is now beginning to build that strong with me also......since I've had him since birth. Yes....I've also had Cooper since birth too......but it's a difference in the cat's personalities too....and the level of affection THEY show. All of my kitties are very different....each have their own little quirks....and I love them all.
post #24 of 26
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Originally Posted by Ilovecats
I feel SO guilty, but I have to say I love Orei a bit more then Princess. I don't know why. Maybe because the second cat is more bonded to cats, while the first is more bonded to people. Orei is also rescued. *sigh* I can't help but say that I am more bonded to Orei. Princess only comes to me for attention every once in a while, while Orei is almost always around me. Do you happen to love one of you cats a tad more then another? *sigh* I feel so bad. Am I a bad person? Am I alone in this?

awww... honey.. nooo!!! You're not a bad person.. sometimes we do play favorites even if we don't realize it. I have to say Leo is my favorite out of all the kitties we own in the family. Maybe it's because he came to me.. and maybe it's because I've paid for all his Vet visits and i've taken all the responsibilites on myself with Leo... He's like my child.. and even though I give love and attention to the other cats in our family, Leo is by far the one who gets the most..
You're not a bad person.
post #25 of 26
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Thanks everyone. Your words have made me feel much better. You are all very understanding.
post #26 of 26
I have to admit I do have a few favourites out of my bunch too!
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