This is a bit of a long shot but I am willing to try and I hope you who have experience here will be able to help.
According to the animal communicator, I am still letting my 'heart' get too much in the way of my 'head' while trying to be the alpha cat in the household. My own cats still don't feel I am alpha enough for them to relax totally and go back to just being cats. Part of the problem is I am also adapting to living with someone for the first time in my life and we are both working out our relationship still (7 months of marriage) and there are other stresses related to that. I know there was never a question of who was in charge when I lived on my own. Now, being in charge is shared for almost everything except for with the cats although my husband thinks they should act one way and is annoyed that they act another. The attitude I have is focused on compromise and sharing and not on trying to taking charge and it is a challenge to separate the two functions. So, to assist me :-), I would appreciate knowing any tricks and techniques and/or thought processes people have noticed or used with their own alpha cats or by being the alpha cat themselves. Hissy has given me some good advice already which I have put to good use but I know there must be some other ideas as well. I know that I was much less 'on alert' yesterday when everything was going so well and the cats probably felt my attention drift and once again were unsure of who was alpha. Suggestions, anyone?
Kathryn
According to the animal communicator, I am still letting my 'heart' get too much in the way of my 'head' while trying to be the alpha cat in the household. My own cats still don't feel I am alpha enough for them to relax totally and go back to just being cats. Part of the problem is I am also adapting to living with someone for the first time in my life and we are both working out our relationship still (7 months of marriage) and there are other stresses related to that. I know there was never a question of who was in charge when I lived on my own. Now, being in charge is shared for almost everything except for with the cats although my husband thinks they should act one way and is annoyed that they act another. The attitude I have is focused on compromise and sharing and not on trying to taking charge and it is a challenge to separate the two functions. So, to assist me :-), I would appreciate knowing any tricks and techniques and/or thought processes people have noticed or used with their own alpha cats or by being the alpha cat themselves. Hissy has given me some good advice already which I have put to good use but I know there must be some other ideas as well. I know that I was much less 'on alert' yesterday when everything was going so well and the cats probably felt my attention drift and once again were unsure of who was alpha. Suggestions, anyone?
Kathryn
