I know how you feel, the same thing happens to me. My mum passed away in January of 2002, and anything sappy about mothers and daughters (movies, books, commercials) always gets to me. It can just come out of the blue and be overwhelming. She passed away of breast cancer, and we always do the Komen walk in the spring. I'm on the verge of tears almost the whole time, but I know mum would be proud of us doing it and it feels good to remember her that way. I always try to turn it around and realize how lucky I was to have a mother that I loved so much. That usually helps make me feel better.
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How do/did you all handle it?
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I can not even begin to imagine what the loss of my parents would bring. I'm very close to both mom and dad. There's a song, i think by Dire Straits, that has a line that goes,"...I wasn't there that morning when my father passed away........I didn't get to tell him all the things i wanted to say..." I can't even listen to that, I have to either switch the station or turn it down at that point. He lives down in So. California and I'm up here in Portland. But, I'm moving back down that way to continue school, so I'll be closer to him. He has told me in the past that he has lived a long and happy life and if something was to happen, he was ok with it. That was said when he started traveling more after mom and dad divorced. If I got "THE" phone call, I'd be a wreck for quite some time. Someone would have to come and get me. I just hope I don't lose it!!!
My prayers to all that have lost a loved one recently....
My prayers to all that have lost a loved one recently....
Yes sweety, I do know, and so does anyone who has truly loved a parent or another being skin or furred. Hugs
I know exactly how you feel. My Mom passed away February of last year, and as the one year approaches I feel the gloom hang over my head. I'm finding it hard to listen to certain songs as they always remind me of her. Kathy Matea's "Where have you been" was her favorite.
After Mom passed away, I made a Mix CD of her favorite songs and songs that denoted how I felt (i.e.: The Calling "Can it be any harder") and sometimes listening to music can open up that blockage and allow you to cry.
Its very hard, especially when parents die young and you can't comprehend why. Mom was 43, I 23. I know the pain, and while it is still very fresh in my mind, know that your Dad is there, looking out for you! Always, they will be with us, never forget that.
*Hugs to you*
~Rayne
After Mom passed away, I made a Mix CD of her favorite songs and songs that denoted how I felt (i.e.: The Calling "Can it be any harder") and sometimes listening to music can open up that blockage and allow you to cry.
Its very hard, especially when parents die young and you can't comprehend why. Mom was 43, I 23. I know the pain, and while it is still very fresh in my mind, know that your Dad is there, looking out for you! Always, they will be with us, never forget that.
*Hugs to you*
~Rayne
I'm sorry you were imbaresed
you shouldn't be it's a very natral thing to cry when something tugs at the heart strings I would sugest that if you are worried about it you should just have a quick word with the person who interupted you and explain why you were upset some days hurt worse than others and memory trips can be very ruff so don't feel bad
I lost my Mother In Law nearly 3 years ago we were very close and there is and always will be a huge hole in my heart some days I feel like I have lost the other half of me I don't listen to much music now we used to listen and sing together but I'm lucky as to have had such a wounderful person touch my life and in my dark hours witch as everyone has said are getting fewer I try and rember that not all are as lucky as me as to have had someone so special that she could open up her heart and love me the way she did
now I've done it I can't see the key's
so I supose what I want to say is it will be ok
and you should never be embarased because you cryed over a lost love one
and anyone that has loved someone will understand I hope this has all made sence
I lost my Mother In Law nearly 3 years ago we were very close and there is and always will be a huge hole in my heart some days I feel like I have lost the other half of me I don't listen to much music now we used to listen and sing together but I'm lucky as to have had such a wounderful person touch my life and in my dark hours witch as everyone has said are getting fewer I try and rember that not all are as lucky as me as to have had someone so special that she could open up her heart and love me the way she did
I'm so sorry for your loss, I know how it feels to cry after hearing a song that is attached to you emotionally, I cry also whenever I hear that song. I lost my baby brother and although I was very young and cannot remember him we were very close and sometimes I miss him too much, I hope you feel better soon
*hugs*
*hugs*
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Once again, thank you all for the wonderful words and hugs..........you are all so dear to me..
Just wanted to pop in and see how you were feeling
If there's anything on this one planet that makes me cry, it has to be Aerosmith... don't wanna miss a thing. And I'm sure that there are plenty of little westlife ditties that do it to me too. The Westlife memories are happy ones though; tears don't necessarily have to be for sadness. I'm sure there are thousands of memories that will be conjured up from all sorts of sources... some things that make you cry, but an equal number that make you laugh... say "remember that time we all went fishing and dad fell in the lake?" or "Can you remember the look on dad's face when we got him xyz for his birthday?" Silly stuff... I don't think I'll ever forget the look on my dad's face after I had my first tattoo done - and then when my mother came home with one too!!! OH my, that really was worth it! If only I'd had a camera....
That analogy about the hole is a really good one.. but the way I see it... greif IS like a hole in the floor... but sometimes we don't need to walk around it. Sometimes we just need to learn to fill that void with happy memories.. then is ceases to be a hole in the floor. Then it becomes a bridge to help us get to the other side
That analogy about the hole is a really good one.. but the way I see it... greif IS like a hole in the floor... but sometimes we don't need to walk around it. Sometimes we just need to learn to fill that void with happy memories.. then is ceases to be a hole in the floor. Then it becomes a bridge to help us get to the other side
My goodness, you have me in tears here too...I know what it's like, I can't listen to 'perfect day' any more as it holds too many sad memories. The trouble with sadness is that it never picks a time to strike you when you are alone, there's usually a witness, and you feel embarrassed. But really, we shouldn't worry about it, I bet everyone gets like this at some point in their lives and we do understand. No-one's going to think you're losing it at all.
Sue
Sue
Susie, I haven't lost my parents yet. But, that is the song my father and I danced to at my wedding reception. It was perfect!Originally Posted by kittylover4ever
Well, I just made a complete fool of myself..........
I was sitting here doing my work and this song came on the radio that Dad and I danced to at my wedding in 2000. Butterfly kisses. Well, at the end, it said, You have to let her go, and to my surprise, tears started rolling like buckets out of my eyes. I was sitting here trying to regain my composure before anyone noticed. Of course, Neil, my boss, walks up and asks me a question, see's I'm a mess, and asks me if I'm ok. That just makes it worse. All I could do is wave my hand and head on out to the bathroom.
I don't know about you, but it's hard to let our parents "go" like the song suggested. I guess that's what really got me. It's been almost 2 years since he passed......I know the love never goes away, and the pain does lessen, but everyone now and then....it just gets to you, ya know?
Ok, enough downers here.......thanks for listening.
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Oh Candie, how awful. I'm so glad your dad is ok.Originally Posted by caprice
Susie, I haven't lost my parents yet. But, that is the song my father and I danced to at my wedding reception. It was perfect!My father had 3 heartattacks that weekend though, and it was hard seeing him in the hospital when we got back from our honeymoon. I am very grateful to God that he is still around and hope to have him see my children some day.
He has congestive heart failure, diabetes and many other things. He takes one day at a time and is on disability right now. But, he does stay home and watches over my sisters when they get home from school while my stepmother works 50-60 hours a week. The girls are 17 and 8, so it's a big job for him to have with his heart condition. I wish I was closer to him, but with him being on so much medication he says things out of the ordinary and is very mean at times, I try to keep my distance. I love my father, don't get me wrong. I just have to talk to him every couple of days for short periods of time for him not to blow a fuse. It's been a long road, but hopefully he'll get his heart transplant...but he has to lose another 75 pounds. Sorry this is long, but it's been rough and I know you listen!Originally Posted by kittylover4ever
Oh Candie, how awful. I'm so glad your dad is ok.
Here is me and Daddy during the song...
I thought you would like this!
I thought you would like this!
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Oh Candie, thanks for sharing that beautiful picture with us.Originally Posted by caprice
Here is me and Daddy during the song...
I thought you would like this!
