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I Just Told My Sister Off!!!!
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I feel bad that he treated you that way, and I feel bad that she said those things to you...
That being said, and I am in no way defending her so don't get me wrong... if I were in her shoes I would feel a bit sad that you didn't buy the boyfriend a present, especially if he got you one - maybe she felt that you didn't approve of him and that hurt her. Maybe she has no idea that he was treating you that badly? Please don't think I agree with what she did or with the boyfriend, I don't... it's just sad when family members don't get along - I know, my brother and I aren't very close and I wish we were closer.
Obviously I don't know half the situation, nor how it feels to be you and suffering from PTSD... but, like I got told a few weeks ago, there are always two sides to every story.
I am proud of you for sticking up for yourself though, I don't do that enough so way to go you!
That being said, and I am in no way defending her so don't get me wrong... if I were in her shoes I would feel a bit sad that you didn't buy the boyfriend a present, especially if he got you one - maybe she felt that you didn't approve of him and that hurt her. Maybe she has no idea that he was treating you that badly? Please don't think I agree with what she did or with the boyfriend, I don't... it's just sad when family members don't get along - I know, my brother and I aren't very close and I wish we were closer.
Obviously I don't know half the situation, nor how it feels to be you and suffering from PTSD... but, like I got told a few weeks ago, there are always two sides to every story.
I am proud of you for sticking up for yourself though, I don't do that enough so way to go you!
two things....
1. i would have said a bit more...he boyfriend is obviously an A$$........and your sister is a bratt........he treats you like your a leper because of a disorder you can not help...and i commend you for getting past the whole problem with confrontation part of this.....goood for you
2. Simon gift cards reduce in value after a period of time....Simon starts taking his money back..........so i will bet you 10$ that it was an old card that he got, that he gave to you....but by the time it got to you the money was gone........also they have an experation date...check that out too
1. i would have said a bit more...he boyfriend is obviously an A$$........and your sister is a bratt........he treats you like your a leper because of a disorder you can not help...and i commend you for getting past the whole problem with confrontation part of this.....goood for you
2. Simon gift cards reduce in value after a period of time....Simon starts taking his money back..........so i will bet you 10$ that it was an old card that he got, that he gave to you....but by the time it got to you the money was gone........also they have an experation date...check that out too
In no way was it better to stay the way it was, you are not alone, you have us, and while I know it isn't the same as having a physical person sitting in front of you, you still have us. I'll talk to you so much you'll wish you had no one to talk to youOriginally Posted by ccoccocats
I'm so sad and feel so alone, maybe it's better to stay the way I was. At least people talked to me, or told me off, but it was better than being all alone.[/b]
Cheryl... believe me, you're better off saying what you need to say... and you were definately a lot nicer than I would have been... I used to hold back and people would walk all over me... now, when someone says or does something that hurts me in any way, I tell them off... Although I have my lapses... Like a week before xmas my best friend, her 'boyfriend' and I went xmas shopping.. we stopped off for something to eat but because I didnt have any money I just sat and watched them eat... at one point I reached over and took a french fry and my best friend's bf yelled at me for putting my fingers in his food... when I told him that if he didnt shut up he'd be wearing the fry, he told me to go 'f' myself... I looked at my best friend and she was dumbfounded... we got up and left him sitting there... in the car I told her that if it wasnt outta respect for her, I would have flipped the whole tray into his lap (man I wish I did!)... Then a week later, on her bday, a bunch of us went out to dinner and one her friends spazed on me early in the night, yelling at me for something that I didnt do, but I kept my mouth shut in the interest of not ruining my best friends birthday... we didnt talk to him or his girlfriend for the rest of the night... then at the end of the night he started screaming at the table about how she's not loyal and that she chose a 'low-life' over him... all his attacks meant for me... but I still kept my mouth shut... the night ended in my best friend getting into a fist fight with his girlfriend which I had to break up... we havent talked to him since... until the other night, we were drinking and decided to call him and tell him what an @$$hole he was that night.. and it felt great...
If I were you I would have told her boyfriend what a jerk he was and that he didnt deserve anything from you and should keep his mouth shut... Then I woulda taken all the gifts he got from everyone else and said "You dont deserve $hit from me or anyone else so, I'll take these!!"
If I were you I would have told her boyfriend what a jerk he was and that he didnt deserve anything from you and should keep his mouth shut... Then I woulda taken all the gifts he got from everyone else and said "You dont deserve $hit from me or anyone else so, I'll take these!!"
Cheryl, I'm glad you stood up for yourself. I know what it's like--I have always let people walk all over me and have even apologized for things that weren't even my fault because I was afraid that I would lose people if I told them how I really felt. Believe me, that is no way to live and in the end will just make you feel bad about yourself. You did the right thing.
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Actually, there are three! One side, the other side, and then finally....the truth!
I stand corrected! Or rather... sit...
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Hmmmm......never knew all that. It was the first time I'd ever received one of those type cards. Thanks for the info. Now, I believe that's what he probably did, what a jerk.
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God I love you New Yorkers! I came from Jersey City. We're so much alike in our upbringing. Where did I lose my spunk I wonder? Maybe I should come visit you and get some of it back!Originally Posted by Malakai711
...I would have flipped the whole tray into his lap ... the night ended in my best friend getting into a fist fight with his girlfriend which I had to break up... If I were you I would have told her boyfriend what a jerk he was and that he didnt deserve anything from you and should keep his mouth shut... Then I woulda taken all the gifts he got from everyone else and said "You dont deserve $hit from me or anyone else so, I'll take these!!"
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You make a lot of sense in what you said. She probably does feel bad that she has a boyfriend that many didn't buy for (probably for the same reason I didn't). It's ok if you DID agree with her, I need to here an objective point of view. I hate that all my siblings and I don't get along too, but, I think there's too many of us with different personalities to get along. I have 3 sisters, and 3 brothers, totalling 7. They all have their clicks, but I've been removed since my mental illness. I guess I don't fit into their way of thinking, so to speak!
Thanks for looking at my situation from every angle, it helped.
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I haven't heard from her yet, nor have I heard from my other sister (the one who's having brain surgery on the 15th, she and her are best sister-friends). It's sad to say but I still don't feel any remorse on what I said to her.Originally Posted by fwan
i loved what you said to her!!
has she given you a reply?
once i open my mouth to give them a piece of my mind i actually dont stop
i hope youre okaydepression sucks!
I'm sure when we're all in the hospital on the 15th, there's gonna be lots and lots of tension and gossiping and clicks with my brothers and sisters against me, and I am having anxiety over it, but I guess I'll wait to see what happens.
I'm not so sure about this one. I have a Simon Card and I had to sign the back before I could use it. If he allready signed the back then she most likely wouldn't have been able to use it right?
Prayers to you and your family, especially your sister during her surgery.
Try not to worry too much about how everyone will react. If they do start something at the hospital, remind them that you're there for your sister not to fight with everyone else.
Try not to worry too much about how everyone will react. If they do start something at the hospital, remind them that you're there for your sister not to fight with everyone else.
I got a Simon card for Christmas and I already spent it - I believe I used it at 3 different places and I never signed it and it was never a problem.Originally Posted by Roundy604
I'm not so sure about this one. I have a Simon Card and I had to sign the back before I could use it. If he allready signed the back then she most likely wouldn't have been able to use it right?
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I think I understand what happened with that Simon Gift Card. Let's see if I can explain.
The card was for $20.00. I spent approximately $7.00. Leaving a balance of $13.00. So when I went to purchase something for $15.00 it declined it. Because you have to have sufficient amount of money left on the card.
One would think you could use the remaining balance and pay the rest in cash, but, I think that's whats been happening.
See! I've got a sense of humor AND brains!
The card was for $20.00. I spent approximately $7.00. Leaving a balance of $13.00. So when I went to purchase something for $15.00 it declined it. Because you have to have sufficient amount of money left on the card.
One would think you could use the remaining balance and pay the rest in cash, but, I think that's whats been happening.
See! I've got a sense of humor AND brains!
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The thing is, in my "special" family, they'll say things OUT LOUD but behind my back as if I'm not to hear them. So my choice will have to be to act like I don't hear them, even if I do, or respond to what they may be saying and have a fight, which I don't want to do - there anyway!
I don't know if your card came with instructions but mine did... if you ever want to pay for something that is MORE than the amount left on your card, you have to tell the cashier exactly how much is left on the card and that you will be paying with the card and cash (or whatever other form of payment you're using). Apparently they can't figure out how much is on the card, you have to figure it out yourself.
Hope that helps a bit!
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Thanks for that input. I don't understand why he just didn't give me the money instead, I hate gift cards. But it was the thought that counted, I guess, right?
As far as telling the cashier, when they swiped the card it came up that it was not accepting it, it said it declined it. So I couldn't suggest your thoght, good one, but it wouldn't have helped. Thanks anyway.
