In Love.. AGAIN!!!!

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As a few of you know, before the server problem last year, I posted on here as Dinah'sMommy. Some might even remember that I separated from my husband back on the 1st of September.

Noo....I am not here to tell you that I have gotten back together with him.


In fact, I have fallen in love
again with my first love. He is the father of my oldest son, Cameron, who will be 6 next month. We met 9 1/2 years ago, when I was 17, and I fell HARD for him then. Even though we went our separate ways, I still had, well, a weakness for him.

I went to see him for New Years. I live in Oregon, He in Las Vegas.
I walked away feeling like I had back in high school. I am exstatic (spelling?) about this, and feel better/happier than I have in many years. We are even discussing me moving down there after our Son finishes the school year. He has been a 'long distance' dad for a while, and now wants to be a full-time dad.

Ah.. to be in Love again!!!
 

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Ah DC I really hope it all works out for you
Promise us you'll be extra careful though ok? We know you're ecstatic and we're all so happy for you, but I for one don't want to see you hurting again! Call me a worry-guts if you will, but somebody should look out for you eh?
Congrats girlie, I hope he makes you as happy as you deserve to be
 
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Originally Posted by LilleKat

Ah DC I really hope it all works out for you
Promise us you'll be extra careful though ok? We know you're ecstatic and we're all so happy for you, but I for one don't want to see you hurting again! Call me a worry-guts if you will, but somebody should look out for you eh?
Congrats girlie, I hope he makes you as happy as you deserve to be
I thank you for your concern. I am putting ALOT of thought into moving there, and all the in's & out's of it. What is best for my boys, me, him, and just the situation in general. I do agree... it would be horrible if it didnt work out the way I would like, however.. this man is going to be in my life for the rest of my life either way, because of our son. I love
him with all of my being, and even when I was married, I never did have those same feelings for my husband. God only knows why I married the man I did, and not the love of my life.

As far as hurting again, he was more hurt by my actions than anything, because I never could figure out what I wanted, even though I knew that I loved him.

My mind is completely made up though. I truely feel that it is time for us to be together as parents, friends and lovers. It's been 9 1/2 years that I have known and been in love with this man, and we could never get it right. I just dont want any more time to pass with us being apart. Does that make sense? Am I being rash about this?
 

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Yay!! How great is that!! I hope it all works out in your favor!
 

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Awww thats actually made my day reading this! You go for it girl, it's better to have tried and failed than not to have tried at all...that's not me saying it won't work, it's just a saying...that you will never know unless you give it a try...and now you are both more mature, and to still love each other after all these years is awesome! All the best to you I really hope it works out xxx
 

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It sure sounds good that after you both matured you feel the same way.

Best wishes to both of you and your children.

BTW are you the lady whose husband went to live with his ex when you split? How will your ex react to the news that you may be moving away?

If you are the lady I remember, you are one gutsy gal and you deserve all the good things life can bring to you.
 

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Heya DC - as to my concern for you, it's only coz I luv ya! We all do
I reckon that you've got a good thing here and you're obviously taking everything into careful consideration - if it feels right, trust your instinct and go with it! I know that feeling of utter devotion and complete soul-crushing love - I only express those concerns because when I followed my instincts, it all backfired. I'm pretty biased in my advice in these situations, so just ignore me as and when it feels best to! Most other people do! Fortunatley I've found someone who loves me back in just the same way and I'm going to go with it, but it doesn't make the move any less scary. So I have all my fingers and toes and eyes crossed for you (it does give me a very skewed view of the world, but hey) I wish you all the very best
 
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Originally Posted by Yosemite

It sure sounds good that after you both matured you feel the same way.

Best wishes to both of you and your children.

BTW are you the lady whose husband went to live with his ex when you split? How will your ex react to the news that you may be moving away?

If you are the lady I remember, you are one gutsy gal and you deserve all the good things life can bring to you.
You are correct, I AM the same lady. In fact, the ex is FURIOUS that I went to see him. He hates my first love... but whatever, it's none of his business. There is something quite comical about this... The ex.. after he found out about me and first love, he actually got all upset and said, "I thought this new year was going to be a new start for us, I really did. I thought we were going to work it out. Boy do I feel like a JackA**!! I even went out and bought us a new set of (Get this, it's a riot!!) wedding rings, just to symbolize that even though we are apart, I am committed to working things out with you. AND (your gonna love this, it's even better) I even got a life insurance policy, just incase something were to happen to me, you would be taken care of.

My response?? I said, "Well, that was rediculous. Why on earth did you do that?" (if he even did) "As for the life insurance policy.. make your kids the beneficiaries, not me. Why dont you look at it this way. Look at it as your personal freedom. You dont have to deal with that woman who you cant stand. Because, werent you, JUST LAST WEEK telling me that I will never change, and I will never grow up?? You and I are OVER!"


As for me moving, I havent discussed it with him.
Daren (the love) and I are still talking about things, so nothing is for certain about moving yet. The ex DID say though that if I move, I better expect a fight for our son that we have together. Whatever, fine. Bring it on. I've already taken 6 1/2 years of his crap, I can handle this!!


ALso.. Yosemite.. thank you for the kind compliments. I appreciate it.
 

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good 4 u,,and be extra careful please!!!!!!
---stevie
 
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