Please Offer Advice! Nightmares!

I am having these nightmares again about mama being alive. Do y'all have any idea how I can stop this?

My mama loved me, I know, but she was very controlling. Nothing suited her. She would berate me if I did or said anything with which she disagreed.
I was called stupid, an idiot, etc.
She yelled if my hair did not suit her, my clothes, if I was gone from home too long, etc. (I lived at home even as an adult; so did my twin. Little Tommie paid no attention to her, but I was petrified and did my best to make everything just the way mama wanted it. That made her be even worse towards me.
I had anorexia, and although I got over the not eating at all, I still used what I ate or did not eat as the ONLY thing I could control in my life.
she screamed at me for being too thin.

A friend says to confront her in my dreams. (when I wake up, if I do, try to go back to sleep and get into the dream again).

four words, find a good counselor

Second that. Batgirl, my mama did a horrible, terrible, awful thing to me when I was 3. By the time I got counseling for it, I was 31 and had made a mess of my life. But not anymore. I do sense very strongly that something in your immediate, daylight life --your real life-- is triggering this. It means nothing to confront your mama in your dreams. She's not there and you need GOOD sleep to make good, rational decisions during the day. Every single situation is different, but I do empathize. And do see if you can get a good counselor to ease your pain and find the truths.
Love,
Elizabeth

Thank you, Elizabeth and Hissy.

Hissy, how is toyr husband? He has been in my prayers, as have you.

Originally Posted by sashacat421

Second that. Batgirl, my mama did a horrible, terrible, awful thing to me when I was 3. By the time I got counseling for it, I was 31 and had made a mess of my life. But not anymore. I do sense very strongly that something in your immediate, daylight life --your real life-- is triggering this. It means nothing to confront your mama in your dreams. She's not there and you need GOOD sleep to make good, rational decisions during the day. Every single situation is different, but I do empathize. And do see if you can get a good counselor to ease your pain and find the truths.
Love,
Elizabeth

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