A friend is dating a guy she doesn't really like but he has money keeps asking me what i think of him. Should I be honest and tell her what I think of HER???
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What do you all think?
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Women like that really bug me. I know one who puts up with a real a****** just for the money. I have no respect for her. I don't have an answer for you though.
Oy, tricky one there. I think you should be honest but not nasty about it. I mean she is your friend, right? Just tell her that what is important is not what you think of him, but what she thinks of him. If she's told you she doesn't like him, which it seems like she has, ask her point blank why she is with him if she doesn't like him. If she says the money, you can say something like, "Look, if it was me, money wouldn't be enough to make me sacrifice my time and energy to be with someone I didn't like. I mean, that doesn't strike you as a little shallow?" But I wouldn't, like, start calling her a golddigger or anything, that'd be kind of mean. You can also lay it on a little thick, and be like, you're a wonderful person, blah blah blah, so why would you let someone buy you off like that?
How good of a friend is she? If she is a good friend, be open and honest with her about how you feel - she will respect you for that. If she is more of an aquaintance, then just tell her it isn't important what you think, she is the one who has to like the guy.
I completely agree with that.
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I have to agree with you all, but it's hard. She is my office manager, but a good friend too. Our office is a two girl office, so I have to work with her on a daily basis. I would love to tell her what i think,but I dont' want to cause tension between us.........
Once, someone to tell me about this kind of things:
"you must to keep your mouth close" let it be....
Good luck with your choice Susie!
Good luck with your choice Susie!
Friend or not - best not to say anything. If they break up you are safe and if they stay together you are still safe. If you were to say anything to her and they stay together, it would either make the friendship awkward or end it altogether.
Yeah... I've always believed that a true friend would offer me honesty rather then spared feelings.
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i agree with wat mamacat said...words of wisdom.
oooh... rock and hard place.... I personally would be honest. I have a very hard time lying to people. I find myself saying more then I mean to all the time, and sometimes hurting others' feelings on the way. So far I've had good luck, and my friends have all gotten used to the way I am. They understand that I speak my mind, say what I think while I am thinking it... good and bad quality. I am still trying to learn to hold my tongue.
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hey yosemite pretty cat...is it a siamese?
Yeah, the working together does sort of complicate it further...I'm not sure what I would do in that situation.
The only time I have ever spoken up in a situation like this was when it was my best friend. But even that is tricky cause if she ends up falling in love with the guy (time together will do that), you end up looking like the fool.
Thank you. Yes, Bijou is a lilac-point Siamese. We also have his little sister who is a blue-point Siamese.
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really? do they really have short tempers?
I am the sort of person that will say how I feel. I would probably tell her and hopefully there would be no hard feelings.
