Remember Marcela? (Yes, the girl of the $80 christmas gift I had talked about before).
I took her to the movies yesterday, as planned. I gave her the gift... she was very happy with it, almost jumped of joy, but suffice to say she liked it an awful lot.
Everything went as normal. I did not have the chance of asking her to be my girlfriend because of not having an appropiate moment. But she was very friendly... just as all the previous dates.
Finally, I decided to do the grace of asking her once and for all to be my girlfriend, and let everything fall in its place.
I called her... normal conversation... until I started getting the subject... I decided to ask if she liked me... "Well, I see you as a friend"... but still very warm... I can at that stage listen to my gut feelings telling me "VÃ:censor:ctor, that is not a very good signal". But I decide to keep on. I talk to her of how much I like her, and so on... I finally asked her "would you like the idea of being my girlfriend"?
The girl fell into a panic attack of sorts where she was breathing like if she needed oxygen, and was gaggling on an answer and she sounded like if something had smacked her on the side of the head out of nowhere and she was still trying to figure out what hit her. After a few seconds of that she said in a very weak voice "No".
I am famous for not being good at handling any form of rejection, but somehow I was so calm and cool, I couldn't believe it that I was acting like this when someone has just said no to me in such a thing. I asked her very calmly "and why not?"
She still seemed to be in the high nerves stage, and she was like "hmm.. no, its just that.... hmmm", still with a weak voice. In the end she never completed the sentence, she cut out and said that she had to go... very friendly, I said "it isn't because of what I said, was it?" She made up some excuse of having to put up some christmas decorations, and then she bid in a friendly form bye. I calmly said bye and hanged up.
Once I hanged up I broke into laughter... Somehow I felt that was the funniest rejection I had heard. For some strange reason, I was acting like some form of Rhett Butler (from Gone with the Wind) type of guy who he can be told by a woman "I hate you to death" and find it funny. After I finally sat down to think I am now wondering... Do I take it as a final, or do I take it as she just had an involuntary attack of shyness and keep trying?
I took her to the movies yesterday, as planned. I gave her the gift... she was very happy with it, almost jumped of joy, but suffice to say she liked it an awful lot.
Everything went as normal. I did not have the chance of asking her to be my girlfriend because of not having an appropiate moment. But she was very friendly... just as all the previous dates.
Finally, I decided to do the grace of asking her once and for all to be my girlfriend, and let everything fall in its place.
I called her... normal conversation... until I started getting the subject... I decided to ask if she liked me... "Well, I see you as a friend"... but still very warm... I can at that stage listen to my gut feelings telling me "VÃ:censor:ctor, that is not a very good signal". But I decide to keep on. I talk to her of how much I like her, and so on... I finally asked her "would you like the idea of being my girlfriend"?
The girl fell into a panic attack of sorts where she was breathing like if she needed oxygen, and was gaggling on an answer and she sounded like if something had smacked her on the side of the head out of nowhere and she was still trying to figure out what hit her. After a few seconds of that she said in a very weak voice "No".
I am famous for not being good at handling any form of rejection, but somehow I was so calm and cool, I couldn't believe it that I was acting like this when someone has just said no to me in such a thing. I asked her very calmly "and why not?"
She still seemed to be in the high nerves stage, and she was like "hmm.. no, its just that.... hmmm", still with a weak voice. In the end she never completed the sentence, she cut out and said that she had to go... very friendly, I said "it isn't because of what I said, was it?" She made up some excuse of having to put up some christmas decorations, and then she bid in a friendly form bye. I calmly said bye and hanged up.
Once I hanged up I broke into laughter... Somehow I felt that was the funniest rejection I had heard. For some strange reason, I was acting like some form of Rhett Butler (from Gone with the Wind) type of guy who he can be told by a woman "I hate you to death" and find it funny. After I finally sat down to think I am now wondering... Do I take it as a final, or do I take it as she just had an involuntary attack of shyness and keep trying?
