When was I born?

OMG... today (my biological father just moved to town a couple weeks ago) My biological dad called me at work. He said 'Do you have your birth cirtificate?

I was like... 'yeah'

"What does it say?" he asked me.

"Um... that I was born on 12.22.74 at 12:18am to..."

"it's wrong" He interrupted.

I was shocked, what? My birthday isn't my birthday?? My own personal holiday was celebrated on the wrong day my whole life???? Everyone thinks I'm dumb for being shocked, or upset. So now... I wonder if he could be right? When is my brithday? I believe my mom, she always told me I was born 12.22 at 12:18am. Why would she forget, SHE had me... she HAD me... hmph.


Oh yeah... He said I was born on 12.23 at 8pm BLAH! what awful numbers. I like MY numbers better... He said he wouldn't forget, he was my dad, he couldn't forget when his daughter was born, what about my mom though? Why would she forget?

Sorry, just venting... It's like an identity crisis here...

I would tend to believe the legal document would not be wrong, but that's just me.
He didn't explain??
I need answers here!!

Originally Posted by pjk5900

I would tend to believe the legal document would not be wrong, but that's just me.
He didn't explain??
I need answers here!!

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lol... well he said they were mixed up. He said they got it wrong. I don't know how, but now I can't find my birth cirtificate... doesn't that figure? lol

Could it be they got it wrong? I GUESS -- but that seems a bit wacky to me. I don't know what you situation is with you biological father... did he recently come back into your life or something, and what provoked him to ask that question? What made him think it was wrong to begin with (enough so that he asked you about it). Seems an odd question to me.

Were you born at home? Hospitals verify the time you're born. It's one of the first things they ask as soon as a baby is delivered and that time is documented. I would think the hospital certificate would be correct.

Do you have one of those card thingys that went on the outside of the bassinet? Or an arm bracelet? They would show the date and time too.

The main thing is, you were born. And if it's true, you're younger than you thought! I think what really bugs you is that he is questioning your relationship with your mom. Don't let it get to you. Why would your mom care to change it to one day earlier? I can see two months earlier (for example, if the wedding was rushed because of pregnancy or something), but one day doesn't make logical sense. Why would she lie about that?

My thought is this... He got it mixed up, thought my birthday was a day later my whole life, and ... I don't know...

I did find out where it came from though.

my parents divorced when I was about 1. I saw him a few times through out my life. We never wrote or called each other. We love each other. (we are A LOT alike I know)

Anyway, this lady I work with and I are friends. She is also friends with my father(biodad). She knew my birthday was the 22nd. They were talking. It was brought up. Their dates didn't match. THey both asked me about it. I was like... MY MOM SAID!! (to make it short)

I don't think it's anything intending to hurt or cause any problems. It's just strange.

Oh yeah... I was born at Ft Campbell, Kentucky. My mom called me an army brat. My dad was in the Army stationed there.

Ah, well, that explains it! He did so many pushups in the Army, it affected his brain. Too many long runs in the rain. Too many peeled potatoes...

(Please know, I wasn't questioning your parentage. I was only saying that giving a one day difference date wasn't logical. It would have to be more days then just one to be logical--if she truly had wanted to change it.)

I'm glad you and your dad are having a chance to get to know one another. Now that he knows your ...he can give you a great big .

Thanks for explaining MR. I'm glad you and your bio-father have a good relationships. I hope my question didn't put you off... it just seemed odd to me for it to come up all of a sudden.

You can go contact the local county clerk's office in Kentucky for a copy of your birth certificate (if you live in the states) if you still can't find yours.

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Ah, well, that explains it! He did so many pushups in the Army, it affected his brain.

Too many long runs in the rain. Too many peeled potatoes...

(Please know, I wasn't questioning your parentage. I was only saying that giving a one day difference date wasn't logical. It would have to be more days then just one to be logical--if she truly had wanted to change it.)

I'm glad you and your dad are having a chance to get to know one another. Now that he knows your

...he can give you a great big

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I didn't think that I am shocked that he brought it up. Maybe he thought I was gunna say what he said? I don't know, maybe it does say the 23rd... suddenly I don't remember where I saw it... lol

OMG thats really messed up...but no matter whose wrong..I dont think it is malicious...if your mom is wrong maybe the birth knocked her out so bad she couldnt even tell what month it was...and maybe if your dads wrong well then maybe he was so excited he didnt know the date...in either case I think your lucky to have to parents that love you like it appears they do....My mom doesnt even know my name half the time...lol...hey the way if your dad is right what day are you gonna have your birthday???

*Thinking*

Um... that I was born on 12.22.74 at 12:18am to

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Maybe it was 12.23 at 12:18am... and because it was right after midnight, they thought it was still the 22nd???

oh Tia! You know what?? I'm just GLAD that you are on the earth. Period. I agree with MrsD and she's one smart lady, but Tia, you are so good-hearted and perceptive and you love all animals and and and and -- just can't say enough about you. I do know that this twist of events has played on your brain and emotions a LOT, but in the larger scope of things --and I know you understand this -- what impact will it have? You are a strong and beautiful woman, one day will never change THAT. 22 or 23 or heck, 31 or 35 you are larger in your life than one day. That is just my pea-brain IMO.
Love,
Elizabeth

Oh Tia - I would tend to lean towards the BC, but anyway - Hope you find out the puzzle! but like Elizabeth said, glad you were born! whether it was the 22nd or the 23rd. Plus I was born on the 23rd at 7:50 PM.

Thankyou guys. It really doesn't matter in the scheme of things. I just loved knowing the exact time, I was bummed they didn't write down the seconds... lol. I've always remembered dates with no problem. I remember birthdays of people I haven't seen in years. They are starting to fade now, I am cramming my mind with other stuff...

It was funny timing though. The manager today and I were talking, having a 'December baby' discussion (It was his birthday) I was saying that my little brother was born on December 29th a week after me, with Christmas in the middle. Then the phone rang. It was my dad... it was odd timing. l

oh damn! that must be so weird!
They actually forgot to look at the time when i was born! but they knew it was after 12.00 and before 1.00 so they put it down as 12:30 am

I was born in Ft. Campbell too, though quite a few years before you. If you need a copy of your birth certificate it can be obtained from the state's records office (Kentucky centralizes all such records, they can no longer be obtained from the individual counties.)

The birth certificate is absolutely the most likely correct date and time.

By the way, my sister in law's birthday is the 22nd (brother's wife) and my wife's is the 23rd. So both are good birthdays!

Maybe your dad brought it up because HE'S really confused now!! It may be that every year on the 23rd he's been telling everyone that it's his daughter's birthday today - when actually it was the day before LOL!. He could be in a state of disbelief - it's amazing how finding out something like that can rock your world isn't it - and of course, without the day-to-day contact throughout your life, it was a misunderstanding that just never got corrected.

Well, its true that parents can mix these things up. My birthday is May 26 and my daughter's is May 25. I was always putting down the wrong date for hers. When she was in first grade I got a call from her teacher. She said Lexie was insisting that her birthday was the 25th and that the school records were wrong. I said, yeah, she is right, I don't get it right all the time but she does. So they changed it. Becky

MyRage:

I completely understand how you feel. My mother went through a time where she insisted that I was born on Thanksgiving. Well, my birthday is November 30th, and if you look at a calendar, it is impossible for the last day of November to ever be Thanksgiving. The best justification I could ever come up with is that she went into labor on Thanksgiving night, but by the time I was born, it was 1:36 a.m. on Saturday. It does bug me that she could forget it, though. And yes, it does mess with your sense of identity to be told that your birthday is something it isn't.

Tia, I would tend to believe the birth certificate......