I'm venting- only because there is no where else to go

My sympathy, M.A.! I can't give you any advice on how to deal with the wound or Mike, but I know a good trick to work off anger. Get out some of those hideous knickknacks you've received as gifts over the years, or crockery that is just beyond everything, and break it! Away from the kitties, of course. It'll give you more storage space, too.

Wow what can I say that hasn't already been said? Do take care of you MA. Mike would be in a mess without you around. for you both.

Originally Posted by hissy

I don't need anyone to say how sorry they are in this thread......This has scared me to death!............I just want the planet to stop for a minute so i can step out in space-

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I won't say I'm sorry MA...just wanted to send some your way during this trying time. I don't know what it will take to make Mike come to his senses but I hope something does turn around in his stubborn male brain for both of your sake.

You know I've mentioned many times to you that I've worried about how YOU are doing during all these stresses. Please do find an outlet that will allow you to relieve some of this anxiety. I like jcat's Hiddeous Knicknack Breaking Therapy that she mentioned above.

Thinking of you!

I am yet to get tested for diabeties.
My dad has mild type and i will most likely get it too if i dont excerzise and keep my sugar intake down.
I only put like one teaspoon not even into my tea now days.
My dad last got checked 3 years ago in Australia... Our doctor isnt too happy with him.. but then what can we do? if he doesnt want to go then he wont.

MA -- I have no advice, just major concern for you both. You are in my prayers I like Tricia's anxiety relief exercise, too

Oh Mary Anne - Sending you some special thoughts at this hard time!

I understand what you are going through Mary Anne. My father is fighting about the same kind of problem that has a lot to do with diabetes....I also see my mother, stepfather and some relatives that take a long time to heal from wounds....

My grandmother had diabetes, so when she died of complications--I lost 30 pounds...and my blood sugar went down tremendiously. I do hope Mike does open his eyes up soon.

Maybe Mike doesn't really understand the seriousness of his situation because he is still in his own home, and he still has you taking care of him. I actually think it would be a good thing if Mike did end up in the hospital, especially if he had to be rushed there in an ambulance, because it just might scare him enough to make him change his ways and start taking better care of himself.

I'm sending lots of special vibes and prayers to both you and Mike, and I hope this situation is resolved in a way that is beneficial to Mike very soon.

I'm sorry to read this, Mary Anne. I hope that he quits being selfish and recognizes that you are hurting because of him and scared for him. I will say a prayer for him but a special one for you since you have to deal with him being stubborn right now.

Hi Hissy. I know I don't personally know you and I'm sorry if this offends you but I know what you're going through.

My father shot himself back in 1992 and went into a coma. While in the hospital he developed ARDS (Acute Respiratory Distress Syndrome-so he now has approx. 20% capacity in his lungs) among other things. Ever since he got out of the hospital he has not taken care of himself at all. He was just recently in the hospital a week or so ago with Pneumonia and is in and out of the hospital atleast 3 or 4 times a year. Two years ago my Grandmother and I went down to Florida to visit him because when he was brought into the hospital his heart had stopped beating and we weren't sure how long he would be with us. When he got out (when he had signed himself out early) he called us and we found out that he had bought cigarettes and smoked three already.

So I know what it's like to deal with a stubborn male! And this has been going on for almost 13 years. Perhaps you and some of his close loved ones can try to put things into perspective for him. He is digging his hole deeper and deeper (literally) by not caring for himself.

If someone could just knock a little sense into that male brain of his I promise things will get better!

And as everyone else said, please make time out for youself. You certainly deserve it. You will be in my thoughts and I hope things turn around for you soon.

Katie

Hi Hissy well I'm not sure of what to say I just wanted you to know that I am thinking of you and that I feel for you

I hope things improve for you soon and I think as others do you really need to make some you time happen just try and do something you enjoy for a few hours at least just to lift your spirits a bit I hope it all works out soon

Hissy,

I wanted to say that I don't know how you feel, but I can only imagine how troubling, exhausting, frustrating, anxiety-producing, depressing, etc. it must all be. I also know what it's like to deal with a man who won't change his lifestyle. My father was an alcoholic all of my life, and because of his choices, put him in an early grave (at 57 years old).

Your husband CAN change. Hopefully his illness will give him the motivation. Being diagnosed with emphysema last year (at only 41), my husband quit smoking cold-turkey after 20+ years of being a heavy smoker. I NEVER thought he would quit.

And in some ways you can help. No more junk food in the house. Refuse to go for fast food. Serve smaller portions at dinner. And tell him you love him, do NOT want to lose him, and he has to change to stay on this earth a little longer with you. Have faith in him and tell him you do.

I'm sending lots of good vibes and prayers your way...

MA - I really don't have any suggestions for you either than we are all praying for you and Mike here.

I hope he can change for not only himself but for you. Be good to yourself and take some time out for yourself as well MA.

MA - I have no advice that I can give - just good thoughts and wishes that it all gets better for you and Mike soon . I can imagine how important it is to make sure that Mike is well cared for, but don't forget youself in all this - make sure you take good care of yourself as well.

MA, just wanted to let you know you and Mike our in our thoughts.....

Just renewing the and the prayers

Sending thoughts and prayers for you and your husband at this difficult time.

Aww,hope he feals better.Does he have Diabeties?If so,is that whats causing it?I dont know much about that stuff.

My grandfather is a diabetic who refuses to take care of himself as well. Both of my grandparents are both held out of a nursing home by a prayer but neither seems to take diabetes seriously. It's terribly frustrating.

Prayers coming in from our house to yours for you and Mike. Please try to find a little time for yourself so you aren't so stressed.

I just want to suggest that you absolutely insist on taking Mike back to the doctor ASAP if there's no improvement in his condition by tomorrow.

Still sending lots of vibes and prayers to you both!