OOH Regina, I hope things go better with Ebony!!
Thanks for your kind words. My only answer to the Vet/Shelter thing is that either they have an incompetant Vet, OR, they found these things and did not want to tell me, thinking I would not want the cat, OR there was no Vet checkup at all and they lied!
Whatever the case, I feel mislead. I know you do to.
I know you feel guilty, but you had no reason to doubt the shelter. Neither did I. Especially since I volunteer there and donate money to them. I was told she had a vet visit the day before, and was healthy. I thought I was going to take her to my vet in a few weeks, to establish a relationship with my new vet, and to get her a comprehensive checkup. I wanted to Bond with her first. But when I saw her increasingly scratching her ears, and rubbing her eyes, I thought I can't wait, and took her after only having her a week and a half. Thus, my husband had not the time to bond, and I hardly had anytime either. But don't feel guilty. We were MISLEAD.
To me there is no excuse for this. I personally wrote letters of complaint about the way my adoption was handled regarding her health to the Directors and President of my shelter.
UPDATE: Last night I was able to administer the meds myself, without hubby's help. She did not like it, and cowered, but he was not involved. Then, later in the evening, she actually came within a few feet of him for a few seconds. WAHOOO!!!! I hope this signals progress. This morning I was able to do everything myself, except the pill, which I had to bring hubby in on. But it was brief, and I hope she is going to start trusting him again.
She is pacing now. We can smell the smoke wafting from Ground Zero.
Thanks Regina, and good luck to Ebony! Keep us updated!