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post #31 of 53
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Originally Posted by MyRage
just a simple question, If a person is being ignored, would they be notified? Would they know they are being ignored. I actually was on a chat that when someone used the iggy button against you, you were notified. You knew you were being ignored, and by whom. I thought that was dumb, I'd rather ignore someone w/o them knowing thanks.
i disagree, if i was being ignored ( and i hope i'm not !) then i'd like to know. otherwise i might not realsie i'd offended anyone.

and i think it would be awful if you continued pming someone and not realsing they'd put you on ignore. you'd have to figure it out for yourself.
post #32 of 53
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Originally Posted by turtlecat
LOL I'm sorry everyone!! I've opened a big old can of worms!!

LOL!!!!! this did turn into craziness didn't it......LOL...did you eventually figure it out and and add this person to your list???
post #33 of 53
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Originally Posted by Rita
You would talk/pm/e-mail Anne and she'll help resolve the problem not that I ever had one..I'm just way to sweet
Oh, ok.

I am afraid I am also too sweet.
post #34 of 53
Thread Starter 
^.^ Yes I did.. and I'm at peace now, *laughs*
post #35 of 53
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Originally Posted by maverick_kitten
i disagree, if i was being ignored ( and i hope i'm not !) then i'd like to know. otherwise i might not realsie i'd offended anyone.

and i think it would be awful if you continued pming someone and not realsing they'd put you on ignore. you'd have to figure it out for yourself.
lol, I didn't think I'd made a statement that could be agreed or disagreed with... ... I was talking from the stand point of the person wanting to ignore someone, rather then the one being ignored. The reason I think it would be dumb is simply because that person knew they were being ignored, so they could make a new user name and continue the harrassment(SP?). I have been to a site(chat) where people got abusive verbaly to others. When you'd hit the iggy button, sometimes that person would leave, and come back under a different name. Then it would be worse. They would continue where they left off, then by being ignored, it was more fuel to the flaming fire. I just stopped chatting at that site. I think all that were left were the people who flamed, and unsuspecting newbies who wondered in there looking for conversation.

I too would want to know if someone wanted to ignore me, but I don't just go off on people, and TRY to start krap, like people at that site did. That iggy notification actually seemed like it egged on the problems at that site. I've pmed people in the past when I thought I MIGHT offend them, and appologized, and told them to pm me back if they wanted my post deleted. In every case the people who I thought I might offend, weren't, and were happy that I offered. But if I do offend anyone, I would wanna know.

That site I am referring to is down now, I think. I started chatting on that site, then went to a different one. That was like 10 years ago, if I remember the name, I'll post it and see if anyone here remembers that chat site. maybe it was 8 or 9 years ago?? hmmm...............

If someone were to just ignore me maybe I woudln't wanna be notified, cuz then it would eat me up inside. I would wonder what I did, if I could fix it. I would wanna pm them to try to work it out, but I wouldn't be able to, cuz I would be ignored. Then I would want to have someone give them a messege and that could be seen as harrassing someone...

Perhaps if I do offend anyone, I would rather they pm me also, let me know, and I will happily edit, or delete a post that did offend someone. I would rather work it out.
post #36 of 53
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Originally Posted by turtlecat
LOL I'm sorry everyone!! I've opened a big old can of worms!!
It might have kinda been a can of worms, but really, we are all human. We don't always agree or see eye to eye. There was one time I really wanted to slap someone here on this site, but we talked and worked it out. It was a misunderstanding.

I too understand about someone just giving the wrong 'vibes'. I met one or two here. Some people naturally are great together, while others clash. We are human, we can't help that. A LOT of us here have feelings really close to the surface and want to know everything up front, where others here... well... they aren't so caring, and empathetic to others. TCS is like any other community, it's filled with humans. Without humans it can't be a community. Where ever there are humans, there is drama. When ever there are lots of humans, sometimes we find we just can't get along, and those times I think the best BEST thing to do IS to ignore them. Especially if we get 'that feeling' from them. Especially if we feel we may say or do something that might not be so nice. I know not ALL problems between two humans can be worked out. I suppose it is just like cats, ferrets, dogs etc. Sometimes ya get two that just WON'T learn to be friends.

Maybe some people needed to come across this thread so they could realize it's not all fluffy kittens, and smiles. Maybe we all needed to figure out that TCS is just like any other hang out... It's life.

I'm glad you posted this.

post #37 of 53
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Originally Posted by MyRage
they could make a new user name and continue the harrassment(SP?). I have been to a site(chat) where people got abusive verbaly to others. When you'd hit the iggy button, sometimes that person would leave, and come back under a different name. Then it would be worse. They would continue where they left off, then by being ignored, it was more fuel to the flaming fire. I just stopped chatting at that site. I think all that were left were the people who flamed, and unsuspecting newbies who wondered in there looking for conversation.

I too would want to know if someone wanted to ignore me, but I don't just go off on people, and TRY to start krap, like people at that site did. That iggy notification actually seemed like it egged on the problems at that site. I've pmed people in the past when I thought I MIGHT offend them, and appologized, and told them to pm me back if they wanted my post deleted. In every case the people who I thought I might offend, weren't, and were happy that I offered. But if I do offend anyone, I would wanna know.

If someone were to just ignore me maybe I woudln't wanna be notified, cuz then it would eat me up inside. I would wonder what I did, if I could fix it. I would wanna pm them to try to work it out, but I wouldn't be able to, cuz I would be ignored. Then I would want to have someone give them a messege and that could be seen as harrassing someone...

Perhaps if I do offend anyone, I would rather they pm me also, let me know, and I will happily edit, or delete a post that did offend someone. I would rather work it out.


though i'd like to think we were more mature than to re-register in order to harass people! i had enough trouble coming back after the site went down to register again!

lol- harassing someone in order to let them know you didnt mean to harass them!

i agree though that i'd rather be told i was annoying and have a chance to make it up to them than be blocked!
post #38 of 53
While I certainly can't speak for anyone else, the feeling I've gotten whenever the issue of Ignore has come up is that it wasn't one particular post that pushed someone to ask about the Ignore feature. It was almost always just the personality of the poster that just plain rubbed someone the wrong way. Like Tia said - it happens, it's life. Some people just don't get along.
post #39 of 53
I hope I didn't do something?????
post #40 of 53
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Originally Posted by valanhb
While I certainly can't speak for anyone else, the feeling I've gotten whenever the issue of Ignore has come up is that it wasn't one particular post that pushed someone to ask about the Ignore feature. It was almost always just the personality of the poster that just plain rubbed someone the wrong way. Like Tia said - it happens, it's life. Some people just don't get along.

Even so, whenever the Ignore button has been used, would you say that an attempt has been made by the user of the button to work things out? Like others have said, if I were offending someone in someway, I'd rather have someone say, hey you're being a punk, can we work this out, rather than dismissing me once and for all and blocking me.

But maybe that's just me.
post #41 of 53
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Originally Posted by pinkdaisy226
Even so, whenever the Ignore button has been used, would you say that an attempt has been made by the user of the button to work things out? Like others have said, if I were offending someone in someway, I'd rather have someone say, hey you're being a punk, can we work this out, rather than dismissing me once and for all and blocking me.

But maybe that's just me.
post #42 of 53
I agree with Sam and Ari, I'd be mortified if I thought I'd upset someone - I certainly wouldn't set out to do so. I'd rather have the chance to try and clear up any misunderstanding.

oooh I'm joining the other paranoid kitties - hope I haven't upset anybody.
post #43 of 53
Thread Starter 
Meep!! Guyyyyys!! I feel so bad, It's really just a severe diference of attitude:P
post #44 of 53
I think you have to keep in mind, on the board and even life in general, there are always people who try to attract attention to themselves. Ignoring people like that and not feeding into them is the best way to get them to stop. I considered putting a person on ignore a while back, I didn't have to though because pretty soon everyone else on the board quit giving them attention and quit arguing with them and they just went away.

If the person is doing something that bothers you personally and it truly seems unintentional I would maybe talk to that person, or pm them and try to clear things up, if it's worth it to you.... or just ignore them don't think any more about it.
post #45 of 53
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Originally Posted by turtlecat
Meep!! Guyyyyys!! I feel so bad, It's really just a severe diference of attitude:P
Why not try to understand that person instead of blocking him/her out? I would never use the iggy button. I could never be that cold to another person.
post #46 of 53
OKOKOKOKOKOK

Everyone just chill....

More than likely, if you are concerned enough about offending people to put 1/2 a thought into it, you probably haven't. Unless you're active in IMO, but that's a little different.

Personally, I would love to have an Ignore button in real life. It would make things SO much less stressful!

Regardless, sometimes if there is someone who just gets under your skin no matter what they are talking about, it really is better to just ignore them. That's sometimes hard to do on a message board, you can't just put your fingers in your ears and sing real loud when they talk. So that's why the Ignore feature is there. More than likely, it's nothing more than a conflict in personalities and as much as we would all like to think that loving cats is enough to bring us together there is still that human factor. Not all humans like each other, it isn't because they are being offensive, it's just that their personalities don't mesh. I'm sure we've all met someone in real life that has just given us bad vibes, or rubbed us the wrong way from the start. I sure know that I have! This board, with almost 8000 members, is a micro-society. It is definitely better to ignore someone than have a flame war when they get under your skin.
post #47 of 53
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Originally Posted by valanhb
OKOKOKOKOKOK

Everyone just chill....

More than likely, if you are concerned enough about offending people to put 1/2 a thought into it, you probably haven't. Unless you're active in IMO, but that's a little different.

Personally, I would love to have an Ignore button in real life. It would make things SO much less stressful!

Regardless, sometimes if there is someone who just gets under your skin no matter what they are talking about, it really is better to just ignore them. That's sometimes hard to do on a message board, you can't just put your fingers in your ears and sing real loud when they talk. So that's why the Ignore feature is there. More than likely, it's nothing more than a conflict in personalities and as much as we would all like to think that loving cats is enough to bring us together there is still that human factor. Not all humans like each other, it isn't because they are being offensive, it's just that their personalities don't mesh. I'm sure we've all met someone in real life that has just given us bad vibes, or rubbed us the wrong way from the start. I sure know that I have! This board, with almost 8000 members, is a micro-society. It is definitely better to ignore someone than have a flame war when they get under your skin.
Heidi... 8,000 members is more than a micro-society... thats the population of a small town larger than one I actually lived in when I was very little.
post #48 of 53
Sometimes you might just be tired of someone's posts if they keep bringing up a certain agenda or something. If you approach them about it - all hell will break loose. And since they're not breaking any rules, there's nothing to do about it. We sometimes get such complaints from members. That's when the Ignore feature comes in very handy. If you don't want to - don't use it. There's nothing cold about using it. You really can't and IMO shouldn't approach every person that annoys you - in the real world or here. Sometimes ignoring is a lot friendlier.
post #49 of 53
I have a question. If one were to be the ignoree, would just their post or the whole thread not be visable to the ignorer? For the record, so far, no one here has irritated me and I hope I haven't irritated anyone else. If I did, it was not intentional. (I wasn't at my computer yesterday - see what I missed)!
post #50 of 53
Thread Starter 
now that I'm experienced. the post is visible, just not what was said.. it says something like XXXX's post has been removed because this person is on ignore, and then has instructions on how to deal with taking them off ignore if that was an accident.
post #51 of 53
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Originally Posted by turtlecat
now that I'm experienced. the post is visible, just not what was said.. it says something like XXXX's post has been removed because this person is on ignore, and then has instructions on how to deal with taking them off ignore if that was an accident.

Then I would sit there and wonder what stupid things he/she posted now
post #52 of 53
Thread Starter 
I do.. :p But it's better than muttering about how idiotic she is when i actually read the posts, lol
post #53 of 53
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Originally Posted by turtlecat
I do.. :p But it's better than muttering about how idiotic she is when i actually read the posts, lol
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