I agree. I'm painfully paranoid, and it would break my heart to offend any of my friends here. If this should ever occur, I hope the person I have wronged will come to me so we can discuss the matter.
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Don't think ill of me ... but...
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OMG, I never understood that "ignore list" specially in this site where we are all catlovers! The way I understand it, we need the "buddy list" for forgetful people like me who mispells names and end up messaging the wrong person because I missed one letter. But an ignore list? We are having so many communication problems in the real world, why bring it here too?
phew - we wuv yoo tooOriginally Posted by turtlecat
Where is the ignore button? Is what I mean....
(and nope, it wasn't anyone who respondedI wuv yoo guys.)
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We have it because even though we have the common love of cats, not everyone gets along all the time and the ignore feature is much better than a flame war that drags down the whole board-
Originally Posted by dawnofsierra
I agree. I'm painfully paranoid, and it would break my heart to offend any of my friends here. If this should ever occur, I hope the person I have wronged will come to me so we can discuss the matter.
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Could I get an "ignore" button to carry around with me at work?
Because SOMETIMES I JUST CAN'T TAKE IT ANYMORE!!!
Just kidding (I think)!
Because SOMETIMES I JUST CAN'T TAKE IT ANYMORE!!!
I haven't needed the Ignore button on here but I sure would use it a lot otherwiseOriginally Posted by Emma's Friend
Could I get an "ignore" button to carry around with me at work?
Because SOMETIMES I JUST CAN'T TAKE IT ANYMORE!!!
Just kidding (I think)!
This is a question that has always nagged me wondering: What if the enormous problem is with one of the mods? Not that I have any such problems, but I have always wondered what do you do when you have a major problem with someone who is a mod.
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LOL I'm sorry everyone!! I've opened a big old can of worms!!
i disagree, if i was being ignored ( and i hope i'm notOriginally Posted by MyRage
just a simple question, If a person is being ignored, would they be notified? Would they know they are being ignored. I actually was on a chat that when someone used the iggy button against you, you were notified. You knew you were being ignored, and by whom. I thought that was dumb, I'd rather ignore someone w/o them knowingthanks.
and i think it would be awful if you continued pming someone and not realsing they'd put you on ignore. you'd have to figure it out for yourself.
LOL!!!!! this did turn into craziness didn't it......LOL...did you eventually figure it out and and add this person to your list???
Oh, ok.Originally Posted by Rita
You would talk/pm/e-mail Anne and she'll help resolve the problemnot that I ever had one..I'm just way to sweet
I am afraid I am also too sweet.
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^.^ Yes I did.. and I'm at peace now, *laughs*
lol, I didn't think I'd made a statement that could be agreed or disagreed with... ... I was talking from the stand point of the person wanting to ignore someone, rather then the one being ignored. The reason I think it would be dumb is simply because that person knew they were being ignored, so they could make a new user name and continue the harrassment(SP?). I have been to a site(chat) where people got abusive verbaly to others. When you'd hit the iggy button, sometimes that person would leave, and come back under a different name. Then it would be worse. They would continue where they left off, then by being ignored, it was more fuel to the flaming fire. I just stopped chatting at that site. I think all that were left were the people who flamed, and unsuspecting newbies who wondered in there looking for conversation.Originally Posted by maverick_kitten
i disagree, if i was being ignored ( and i hope i'm not!) then i'd like to know. otherwise i might not realsie i'd offended anyone.
and i think it would be awful if you continued pming someone and not realsing they'd put you on ignore. you'd have to figure it out for yourself.
I too would want to know if someone wanted to ignore me, but I don't just go off on people, and TRY to start krap, like people at that site did. That iggy notification actually seemed like it egged on the problems at that site. I've pmed people in the past when I thought I MIGHT offend them, and appologized, and told them to pm me back if they wanted my post deleted. In every case the people who I thought I might offend, weren't, and were happy that I offered. But if I do offend anyone, I would wanna know.
That site I am referring to is down now, I think. I started chatting on that site, then went to a different one. That was like 10 years ago, if I remember the name, I'll post it and see if anyone here remembers that chat site. maybe it was 8 or 9 years ago?? hmmm...............
If someone were to just ignore me maybe I woudln't wanna be notified, cuz then it would eat me up inside. I would wonder what I did, if I could fix it. I would wanna pm them to try to work it out, but I wouldn't be able to, cuz I would be ignored. Then I would want to have someone give them a messege and that could be seen as harrassing someone...
Perhaps if I do offend anyone, I would rather they pm me also, let me know, and I will happily edit, or delete a post that did offend someone. I would rather work it out.
It might have kinda been a can of worms, but really, we are all human. We don't always agree or see eye to eye. There was one time I really wanted to slap someone here on this site, but we talked and worked it out. It was a misunderstanding.
I too understand about someone just giving the wrong 'vibes'. I met one or two here. Some people naturally are great together, while others clash. We are human, we can't help that. A LOT of us here have feelings really close to the surface and want to know everything up front, where others here... well... they aren't so caring, and empathetic to others. TCS is like any other community, it's filled with humans. Without humans it can't be a community. Where ever there are humans, there is drama. When ever there are lots of humans, sometimes we find we just can't get along, and those times I think the best BEST thing to do IS to ignore them. Especially if we get 'that feeling' from them. Especially if we feel we may say or do something that might not be so nice. I know not ALL problems between two humans can be worked out. I suppose it is just like cats, ferrets, dogs etc. Sometimes ya get two that just WON'T learn to be friends.
Maybe some people needed to come across this thread so they could realize it's not all fluffy kittens, and smiles. Maybe we all needed to figure out that TCS is just like any other hang out... It's life.
I'm glad you posted this.
though i'd like to think we were more mature than to re-register in order to harass people! i had enough trouble coming back after the site went down to register again!
lol- harassing someone in order to let them know you didnt mean to harass them!
i agree though that i'd rather be told i was annoying and have a chance to make it up to them than be blocked!
While I certainly can't speak for anyone else, the feeling I've gotten whenever the issue of Ignore has come up is that it wasn't one particular post that pushed someone to ask about the Ignore feature. It was almost always just the personality of the poster that just plain rubbed someone the wrong way. Like Tia said - it happens, it's life. Some people just don't get along.
I hope I didn't do something?????
Even so, whenever the Ignore button has been used, would you say that an attempt has been made by the user of the button to work things out? Like others have said, if I were offending someone in someway, I'd rather have someone say, hey you're being a punk, can we work this out, rather than dismissing me once and for all and blocking me.
But maybe that's just me.
