I know that some of you don't have children either, and I wanted to put a question to you, but first a little background on what's going through my mind. Most of you know that my MIL passed away last week. I found myself surrounded by her neices, nephews, grandkids and such. It's a pretty nice-sized family, and very, very, close. I on the other hand grew up in a small family, on both sides, and neither side is really close. Now, I don't have children....when we were younger, we didn't want any, and a few years ago the decision was taken out of my hands, so that I cannot have any. I've been thinking, was I selfish in not haveing a child, to raise up in my beliefs, to pass my musical talents on to, to be around when I'm leaving this earth, even though I don't particularuly like children? When I pass on, there'll probably be more of Charlie's family there than my own, I know that there were when we married! I guess I'm just wondering ladies, do you ever get this feeling of guilt and sadness for not having kids? does it just show up sometimes out of the blue? THanks!
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12/13/04 at 12:52pm