I am just so exhausted

I am so tired, I feel like I am going to pass out. I can't concentrate on work, I don't even have the energy to eat today. Due to the pregnancy I haven't been able to get much sleep at night. Between not being able to get comfortable and increased asthma I am maybe getting two hours of sleep at night. Especially once you factor in Merlin's continually need for attention at night. I am so tired I just want to cry. My hubby and co-workers just don't understand how exhausted I am and still expect me to do everything the same. I am going to see my doctor on Thursday - maybe she will be able to help.

Thanks for letting me whine!

Aw sweetie, I know how that feels. My partner was a real swine and even expected me to walk 16 miles a day when I was pregnant. You really need to put your foot donw on this one. Try upping your iron and zinc intake again - I'm sure it's safe to assume you're taking pregnancy vitamin supplements and stuff alreay. I was really anaemic when I was pregnant and it really does drain your energy something rotten. Not being able to sleep is incredibly tough on you too - perhaps your hubby should be seeing to merlin in the nights - Either that or you're going to have to break that habit with him. In the long run, this is just your body gearing up for the lack of sleep you're going to suffer when the baby arrives. make sure that your other half pulls his weight on the night shift though sweetie, you don't want to be doing the 24 hour stint that I got stuck with. Failing that, take herbal sleeping pills (only after you've consulted the doc, of course) they're good Once you get home, put your feet up and demand that you be pampered for the evening, because you can't be expected to do it all. You neve rknow, if you get that evening just to relax, perhaps your hubby will see how difficult it is for you and perhaps start to appreciate what it's like. You could always strap a 10lb bowling ball to his stomach and see how he copes for the day doing all your laundry and work and cooking etc etc. Feel free to whine all you like, you're entitled to it - you're doing a fantastic job there.

Adrianne, Congrats for your pregnacy, I didn´t about it! awww sorry for hear how you feel right now! my best wishes for you and I´ll send you a big hug please feel better soon!

How far along are you? I remember being totally wiped out at the end of the day the first 3 1/2 months and then again the last 3 weeks. I would come home aned sit on the couch and I was done..........my husband would have to carry me to bed b/c I simply could not gather enough energy to walk. I hope all goes well for you - just take it easy for a day or two.

Aw, I'm sorry... I've never been pregnant but I can only imagine what you must be going through. Try to slow down and relax, and just ignore those that tell you otherwise - I'm sure that YOU know what is good for your body, you know?

Originally Posted by LilleKat

I'm sure it's safe to assume you're taking pregnancy vitamin supplements and stuff alreay..... Not being able to sleep is incredibly tough on you too - perhaps your hubby should be seeing to merlin in the nights - Either that or you're going to have to break that habit with him. In the long run, this is just your body gearing up for the lack of sleep you're going to suffer when the baby arrives. make sure that your other half pulls his weight on the night shift though sweetie, you don't want to be doing the 24 hour stint that I got stuck with. Failing that, take herbal sleeping pills (only after you've consulted the doc, of course) they're good

Once you get home, put your feet up and demand that you be pampered for the evening, because you can't be expected to do it all. You neve rknow, if you get that evening just to relax, perhaps your hubby will see how difficult it is for you and perhaps start to appreciate what it's like. You could always strap a 10lb bowling ball to his stomach and see how he copes for the day doing all your laundry and work and cooking etc etc.

Feel free to whine all you like, you're entitled to it - you're doing a fantastic job there.

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Thanks - I do take my vitamins everyday and John does try to stop Merlin from bugging me, but he (Merlin) is such a momma's boy that he just wants me. He (Merlin) will make himself sick if we lock him out of the room. Only 8 weeks left to my due day and at least in just 5 weeks I will be off work.

John does work all day and at least he does alot around the house (he cooks everynight and does the vacuuming) so I am lucky that way. I don't know what I would do if I had to do it all. My mom lives out of town so she can't help and my mother in law is too ill to lend a hand (even though she wants to).

I guess what doesn't kill us makes us stronger!

oh absolutely... what doesn't kill you will make you stronger.... more tired... but stronger! I'm glad to know that he's hleping out... so it's just the nights that are bothering you? I used to take a bath in lavender oil every night, and that helped a little bit. It's sods law that whenever you're awak the baby will be asleep and inevitably vice-versy. I used to feel like Alex was doing some sort of jig on my ribs while headbutting my bladder. It's not fun. But come the last four weeks or so, you'll feel fab, the nesting instinct will kick in and you'll get some energy back. I know you're feeling fed up now anyway. Heh, i think every woman is fed up by the end of the first three months of throwing up! Stick with it though, you've not long to go now. You'll finally be able to see who it is who's been keeping you up all night! Piece of advice though... when the baby arrives, it is REALLY difficult not to stand over them and watch them sleeping... but that's the time you need to get the rest you've missed out on!!! good luck

Originally Posted by LilleKat

Piece of advice though... when the baby arrives, it is REALLY difficult not to stand over them and watch them sleeping... but that's the time you need to get the rest you've missed out on!!!

good luck

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I might do that once, but if he sleeps, then I plan on sleeping. I love my sleep to much not to! Plus John will take off time (2 to 4 weeks, depending on how much help I need).

When you try to sleep, try sleeping on your left side. This insures good circulation to the baby. If you do not have a body pillow, you may want to buy one, they are fairly inexpensive. They can be very helpful to support your expanding belly and breasts. Place it in front of you when lying on your side, beneath your chest and abdomen, with the lower end between your knees. This will help keep your spine straight and decrease lower back pain. Support your head and arm with your regular pillow. This is the position for pregnancy massage, and seems to be very comfortable for long periods. If you lie on your back, use pillows for a semi-reclining position to take the pressure off your respiratory system. Place a small cushion beneath your right hip for improved circulation. My daughter is also pregnant and says this has helped her a lot. The body pillow is also good for cuddling and nursing after the baby is born. Her kitty sleps next to her on her pillow right now. I hope this helps, and that you feel better.

I do have a body pillow (shared by Merlin) and I don't think I would even get my 2 hours of sleep every night without it! I switch from side to side as my hip seems to fall asleep if I stay on one side too long. Part of my problem is that I am a stomach sleeper when I am not pregnant and it is very difficult adjusting to the new position!

Thanks for all of the advice everyone - I appreciate it!

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Part of my problem is that I am a stomach sleeper when I am not pregnant and it is very difficult adjusting to the new position

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I'm a stomach sleeper too and I always wondered how I would adjust if I were pregnant. Youch, I feel bad for you!

Well make sure this weekend you do nothing at all and just put your feet up!
My mum was lucky that she didnt have to work during her pregnacy but she cleaned up and even made the beds perfictly just before birth!.
My grandmother said she was crazy.
I dont know if they had body pillows back then but i remember her telling me that she bought 2 other pillows so she could put in between her legs as the tummy got too heavy and one under the belly.
I hope youre okay and the baby
You have to show us lots of pics when it arrives

Oops my post came through too late... because i got disconected as i was typing!

Don't worry - I will post pics of the little guy - hopefully we'll find a name for him before he is 5. Can't refer to him as "hey you" until he can pick his own name can we? We had a girl's name all picked out and we can't agree on a boy's name. Oh well, I am sure when we see him something perfect will fit him.

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Don't worry - I will post pics of the little guy - hopefully we'll find a name for him before he is 5. Can't refer to him as "hey you" until he can pick his own name can we? We had a girl's name all picked out and we can't agree on a boy's name. Oh well, I am sure when we see him something perfect will fit him.

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My parents had my name all ready to go -- until I cracked some silly facial expression that reminded Dad of my Mum's brother who had passed away the year before, so Diane became Frances. Maybe your little guy will help you that way, too. Looking forward to pics, and sending you lots of "sleep well and feel better" vibes.

THis thread brings it all back to me from 28 years ago! You seem to be doing all you can, but do use some essential oils/aromatherapy to help you sleep - once you find one that suits you it can do wonders. I know you will think it all worth it once the baby arrives.

Tell you what was really wonderful for me, was one of those stretchy maternity belts. They go under the bump and lifts the weight up, so it takes some of the strain off your lower back while you're upright. It doesn't affect the baby in any way, other than making you more comfortable! Oh and try playing soothin music to the bump too (I know it sounds ridiculous) but it means that when you've got that routine going, you'll find that baby sleeps when you play the music, giving you some respite, and not only that, but it works wonders when the baby arrives too. You can play the music at bedtime and they settle down really nicely. I'm just sorry I used to play a lot of Bryan Adams. I'm so glad I named him Alex!!!! I didn't want to know if I was having a boy or a girl... but it kinda was given away by accident. I did have to laugh at my partner announcing during the scan "Wow! He's definitely a boy then!" to which the reply was "uhm... well... yes... but that's his leg".