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post #1 of 22
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as i sit here, my heart feels funny. i dont know how to feel.
I look at my rabbit and feel like crying, i look at the fish tank and i feel like crying.
My dad confirmed to me today that they are seperated an that i have to help look for an appartment for them.
I left to go to the shops because i needed to. I met a friend and we did some shopping.
I came home to find my mum had drunken something. My dad was in a bad mood and walked out of the house.
I am packing my things, i never though this would have happened. i especially never thought that it would happen to me. I cant immagine my parents being appart and i dont want to.
I am contenplating on stealing my rabbit from my mum. But my boyfriend doesnt want the rabbit.
I would need a van to take all my stuff up, and i havent got the bloody money.
I have to wait untill friday which is tomorrow to talk to my lawyer.
I suppose from the end of next week onwards i wont be on tcs for a very long time.
post #2 of 22
Darlin' {{HUGS}} for you from me and headbutts from my kitties. You're on my mind and in my prayers during this most stressful time. If you need to talk about it, feel free to PM me, I'll listern and let you vent!
post #3 of 22
I"m sorry. My parents seperated when I was almost a year old, so I never really knew what it was like to have a mom and dad living together. I can imagine as the child of parents who are splitting up, you've got to be in a weird position. I know how I felt every time one of my relationships ended, but I honestly can't imagine the helplesness you must be feeling to have to watch, and be a part of.

Luckily though things do get better. Not that it helps, but they do. THey will. The hardest part is just looking forward and not letting it all overwhealm you.
post #4 of 22
Sorry to hear about it.
post #5 of 22
I'm sorry life has dealt you this situation. Things seem dark now, but MyRage is right, they will get better. And everyone is here to listen whenever you need us. Even if for a while you can't get to TCS, rest assured that we are thinking of you.
post #6 of 22
Awww, I'm sorry to hear that. I'm one of the lucky ones who had parents married for over 50 years. But if the relationship isn't good, sometimes it's the best avenue to take....I'm here if you need to talk.....
post #7 of 22
I'm so sorry to hear of your troubles. Where are you going to live? With your boyfriend? Why do you have to find an apartment for them?

I guess the first thing I would say is in no way should you blame yourself for any of this. Also, I would try to talk your boyfriend into letting you have the rabbit. Tell him how important it is in your life, especially now with your family breaking up and how much it would mean to you to keep that little piece of the family unit. Perhaps if you present it to him that way, he may be more understanding and let you have it.

There is no easy way out of this for you, you'll just have to be strong.

I would ask if there is a library or public place you could go to use their computer. If so, try to stay in touch with all of us so that we can encourage you and support you when you need us. We are all here for you and you may just need to vent or let your feelings out.

Good luck little one!
post #8 of 22
So sorry to hear that, I´ll send you a big hug!
post #9 of 22
Awww sweetie i've never been in your situation either, but my ex boyfriend had 2 kids when he was married and after he left home he asked them if the atmosphere was any better now that he wasn't there, and they said it was.

No one wants their parents to split but you never know, you may be suprised at how better it is now that they wont be at each others throats, plus you won't be in the middle of it all
post #10 of 22
Oh I'm so sorry it has come to this... I know the feeling of your family breaking up, but believe me it does get better, while it may take awhile you will start to see it from your parents point of veiw. Good luck sweetie!
Try to see if you can find anywhere so you can come in and say hi!
I am always here to listen, no matter what you need to say
Try talking to your boyfriend about your bunny, Yosemite gave you really good advice
post #11 of 22
I'm so sorry to hear that.
We always want to believe our parents are rock solid, but we can never see deep into their relationship, they are so good at times at hiding things from us.
But they are seperating for reasons that will make them both happier, and though it is very upsetting for you, it's best they do what is best for them or they will both be very unhappy, or even more so than they are now.

Sending love and hugs to you xxx
post #12 of 22
I am so sorry you are going through this. I have an idea how you may feel, as my parents are in the process of divorce, also. However, I am no longer living in their house, I have my own "family" of sorts, and so it isn't quite as devistating. But, it still hurts, and it's strange, because I don't quite know how to feel, either. I know the are so much better off apart, but at the same time, the idea is so alien to me.

I know it's tough, but you will be okay. I know it's like a whirlwind has come and blown through your life, but focus on the positives, and soon, you will see that there are more positives than negatives, and things aren't that bad.

Please do try to keep in touch. We are all here for you during this trying time!
post #13 of 22
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My mum doesnt want to get seperated.
My dad just told the lawyer that she did and that was it, he brought in the marrige certificate and they are splitting.
My mother doesnt want me to take the rabbit, its her rabbit after all. But it was mine at first.
the house im going to live in is very small only two room appartment. it just really sucks at the moment.
post #14 of 22
I won't add more advice, because what's already been said is as good as it gets. Just know that I'll be thinking of you, and hope you can find a way to check in whenever you need some encouragement -- we'll be here for you
post #15 of 22
Thread Starter 
Quote:
Originally Posted by Yosemite
I'm so sorry to hear of your troubles. Where are you going to live? With your boyfriend? Why do you have to find an apartment for them?

I guess the first thing I would say is in no way should you blame yourself for any of this. Also, I would try to talk your boyfriend into letting you have the rabbit. Tell him how important it is in your life, especially now with your family breaking up and how much it would mean to you to keep that little piece of the family unit. Perhaps if you present it to him that way, he may be more understanding and let you have it.

There is no easy way out of this for you, you'll just have to be strong.

I would ask if there is a library or public place you could go to use their computer. If so, try to stay in touch with all of us so that we can encourage you and support you when you need us. We are all here for you and you may just need to vent or let your feelings out.

Good luck little one!
They are deaf, but to me it looks like my dad cant do anything by him self.
My boyfriend and i have been living in this house for the past year together but now he wants to be on his own too feet and get his own appartment and things going.
I would never blame my self for what they are doing.
It was never my fault.
It was actually their fault.. you know
They met in october 1985 and i was born September 1986...
I mean talking about quick..
post #16 of 22
Oh Fran, I didn't know things were like that. I am sorry.

I won't offer advice, as I have never been affected by this, but I will say that I am ALWAYS here for you!

I would think that you could persuade your boyfriend to live with you and bunny and kitty! Plus, I live in a two bed flat (and it's not too bad! I've been here for 2.5 years!)

I understand the difficulty, but you know you have tonnes of support here and your boyfriend will be there for you!

(Seriously, you know where I am!)
post #17 of 22
Aw sweetie I'm so sorry to hear this has all happened so soon. My parents separated two years ago, and I was 20. I took it really badly and I coudln't ever imagine my parents being apart either. It does feel wierd... but think about it like this.... would you rahter have two parents who were miserable and fighting all the time, or two parents apart who were happier than they are now? I don't think I could speak for your mother because of the alcoholism, I'd never understand how that would feel. But I just want you to know that I've been through the separation and although it's hard, it will be better in the long run. I think you have to consider your options... take the bare essentials with you because other things are ultimately replaceable. It would be best I think to find your rabbit a new home - even just a temporary one would be a good start, say with a pet re-homing centre - if you explain your circumstances, someone will be able to help you somewhere - truth be told, your father really should be helping you out here. This will be really tough for you beb, but you need to get out of there while you can. The longer you leave it, the harder it will be. If you're not online for some time, at least we know where you are and that you're getting out of a bad situation. As soon as you have the chance, just nip and and get in touch. We all love you very much and we want you to be happy, so keep your chin up and know that even though you might not be able to get in touch with us, we're all behind you.
post #18 of 22
Thread Starter 
No i cant rehome my bunny.
If my mum goes into rehab im taking her and when she comes out she can have her back.
Right now i am organising my room
tomorrow i will get the photos out and start going to the store to get copies.
post #19 of 22
I'm really sorry you are going through such a hard time I hope all works out for you with your move I'm sending you lots and lots of hugs hope they help
post #20 of 22
Try to be brave and to only think about one thing at a time. I can't imagine what it would be like to have your world suddenly shaken about like this. Deep breaths. Lots of deep breaths.
post #21 of 22
Oh Fran, I am so sorry to hear about what is going on with you and your family. People have said some really insightful things today and you know you have lots of people here to listen to you so you can vent and talk about anything and everything. Try to be strong. You may not get this message for a few days...but I will be thinking about you the whole time.
post #22 of 22
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Thanx everyone
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