So am I a bad daughter!!

I need some advice. My dad's 75th birthday is Monday. I am off of work 1/2 day tomorrow and all day monday. I was orginally planning to have mom and dad come to my house (they live about 2 hrs away). However now that the cats have ringworm which I start treatment for them today I don't want them to catch it. I also have to clean my house, carpets, furniture etc. because of this. I also have to finish up shopping, get tree, got to FIL's memorial mass sunday which I was going to do with there help. The weather predicts rain/snow all weekend.
They will be coming on 12/24 for a 4-5 day stay. Many years I don't celebrate birthday with my dad as they spend winters in Las Vegas and I'm in Wisconsin.
So do I risk the weather and go for a short visit (4 hrs) which I've done in the past but due to the unpredictable weather could add on some driving time.
Or should I wait and celebrate on the 24th.
My dad and mom say its no big deal-my sister lives too far away to ever celebrate their birthdays so I always feel obligated.
Any advise would be appreciated.

I think if you celebrate iwth them on the 24th that would be fine!

I would wait till the 24th. It's so soon and if the weather is bad, your kitties have ringworm, ect it would probably be best to stay home.
I'm sure your parents will understand, and I'm sure they don't want you travelling if the weather is bad

My mom doesn't even like being in a vehicle if its raining!! I however have to sometimes go out on the road for my job so I have so choice.

Why not send a box of chocolates by internet courier, and have a long chat with your dad on the day? That will show him you care ( I am sure he knows it already)

HUMPF! You are NOT a bad daughter! Sheesh! Gail!
Just the fact that you're in the Lounge means it's first and foremost on your mind. I think Jenny's suggestion is splendid - can you do a little advance something? and the day after or a "special" day of celebration set aside just for him is very nice. Tell him this exact thing, that because you want it to be nice, you'd rather wait to make sure everyone is happy with the time and day, etc.

Originally Posted by jennyranson

Why not send a box of chocolates by internet courier, and have a long chat with your dad on the day? That will show him you care ( I am sure he knows it already)

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If it were my Dad, I know what he'd want. He'd want first and foremost that I didn't take unnecessary risks. He'd want time for celebrating when we could do it properly and nobody feel rushed or anxious. He'd want a call on the day, to mark it and hear my voice -- it wouldn't even need to be a long one.

You are not -- repeat NOT -- a bad daughter. And if anything proves it, it's your concern for doing this right.

I would be talking to him one way or another. I guess I feel so bad that Baker has ringworm otherwise I know they would like to come but I don't want to take any chances with ANYONE coming into my house until I know they won't get it. We can always find things for Dad to do here as they are retired and live in a townhouse. I'll call him tonite and make sure I have an extra special lunch for him and lots of ice cream when they arrive on Christmas Eve. Thanks for all the advise so far.

bad girl, bad girl!

Just kidding, I agree with the majority...I´ll send you a hug!

Thanks for the hug!!

Your parents sound very understanding....Celebrate it on the 24th it will be fine......You are a "Mommy"....these are the responsibilities of having children or pets....I am sure you parents understand this because they were probably put in a situation like yours when you were young and sick.......

You are also a very lucky daughter to have a father to live at 75
Im sure you can set aside another day to celebrate for his birthday?
I will just go along with the others said
too