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post #1 of 26
Thread Starter 
Not for me but for my hubbys momma. My husbands grandfather died this morning. He had Alzhimers and was in a nursing home. We recently found out that the LNAs were not keeping track of what he ate or drank and he was severely dehydrated and basically starved to death.

I worked in a nursing home for 2 years as a nurse and it sickens me that a family member suffered like this.

I just ask that you keep my mil in prayers and my grandmother in law as well through this difficult time.

Thank you.
post #2 of 26
Oh that's horrible! You definitely have some vibes being sent from me!
post #3 of 26
Many thoughts and prayers for you and all of your family~

That is most disgusting, I am also hoping that something will be done to those LNAs..
Little comfort now, I know.

Please let hubby know that we are thinking of him tonight. I will light a candle in Grandpa's honour.
Ashley
post #4 of 26
Oh, no.

Sending prayers for your in-laws.
post #5 of 26
Prayers on the way. Hugs to you and your family.
post #6 of 26
Oh how terrible. I am so sorry this happened. It always hurts to lose a loved one, but to lose someone this way is simply heartbreaking. My prayers and thoughts are with your family.
post #7 of 26
Oh Beth thats awful! I'm so sorry and you will all be in my thoughts.

Thats neglect big style!!!
post #8 of 26

atleast he lived that long to see his grandchildren
I dont meant to be rude by that. i wish i got to meet my grandparents

Nursing homes suck i would never go to one! and i will never put my parents in it either. I remember a few years ago they were putting bleach or some harsh stuff in the baths and some of these elderly people were burnt! and seriously injured
post #9 of 26
Sending Good Vibes!!!!!
post #10 of 26
How very difficult this must be for all of you. Your family is in my prayers.
post #11 of 26
Your family is in my thoughts.
post #12 of 26
Good thoughts and prayers to you from my family also.
post #13 of 26
Boy, if I found out that someone neglected or abused one of my loved ones in their care, I'd be out for blood.

God bless your inlaws......
post #14 of 26
Your hub's family is in my thoughts and prayers during this most difficult time. {{HUGS}} to all involved.
post #15 of 26
Thread Starter 
Thank you everyone. Grandpa's ashes are going to be spread on the ocean this weekend. We were going to fly to Cali but hubbys family doesn't believe in funerals so we aren't going, and its just as well. I don't want my first time meeting his grandma to be because of the death of her husband.

Thank you again for your kind thoughs. Hubby isn't too upset about the passing of his grandpa. He was shocked at first but he adjusted well. He hadn't seen his grandpa since he was 13 (he's notw 27) and grandpa was ill for a few years. He has many good memories of his grandpa and keeps him living in his heart.
post #16 of 26
Those are the things that no one can take away Beth, the memories
post #17 of 26
I'm so sorry about your husband's grandpa, and I hope immediate action is taken against those who failed to give him adequate care.
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Originally posted by fwan
Nursing homes suck i would never go to one! and i will never put my parents in it either. I remember a few years ago they were putting bleach or some harsh stuff in the baths and some of these elderly people were burnt! and seriously injured
I work in a nursing home that happens to be very well run, and yes it's true that there are some bad nursing homes, but they don't all suck. Here in the U.S. nursing homes are regulated by strict state and federal laws, and they are inspected for possible violations on a regular basis. However, the state laws do vary from state to state.
post #18 of 26
Thread Starter 
I worked in a nursing home too and I loved working there. I did my best to take the absolute best care of my patients that I possibly could. I loved my elderly. They were great companions.
post #19 of 26
Oh my gosh, that is absolutely horrible! Are they thinking of filing a lawsuit? At least let people know what is going on there. I will be thinking of your husbands family.
post #20 of 26
Thread Starter 
No, no plans of a lawsuit. It wouldn't bring him back anyway.
post #21 of 26
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Originally Posted by Ali012281
No, no plans of a lawsuit. It wouldn't bring him back anyway.

That's true... and a really good mindset to be in. That being sad, I'm sorry that this happened.
post #22 of 26
Thread Starter 
We're all still upset about it. My mother in law hasn't talked to her mother much about it. I personally feel that he should have been on hospice these last few weeks anyway. However, even with him having alzhimers the nursing home wasn't going to force feed him, that is illegal. And the family didn't want a peg tube put in him. It is sad that he went the way he did but honestly he is much better off where he is now. I don't want to sound insensitive about the situation but it was sad hearing about the steady decline in him and now that is all over. He's comfortable finally, what more could we ask for?
post #23 of 26
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Originally Posted by Ali012281
I don't want to sound insensitive about the situation but it was sad hearing about the steady decline in him and now that is all over. He's comfortable finally, what more could we ask for?
We had a teacher that was found dead here in town... my boyfriend was upset about it, mainly because he had her as a teacher. I told him exactly what you had said above - she went through a lot and even though it's horrible that she died, especially the way she did - she's in a much better place and she's happy now.
post #24 of 26
Oh Beth your husbands family is in my thoughts!
post #25 of 26
Beth I am sorry to hear about your family...my belated thoughts, prayers and good vibes are being sent your way.
post #26 of 26
I am very sorry for your family's loss. The one reason I'd pursue this to some extent, is that the LNA's either need better training, or staffing needs to be improved...you wouldn't want this to happen to anyone else's loved ones who are still in this nursing home. They were negligent, and they need to show steps to remedy this.

I worked in a nursing home as I went through nursing school, and saw some great staff, and some horrendous...the good ones establish quite a bond with the residents, and would care for them as if they were their own relatives.

My gram is currently a nursing home resident as well, but has daily visits from my Aunt who misses little, and has had to step in when things were being missed.
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