I was offered the principal's (headmistress's) position at school twice, and turned it down, because I simply didn't want to deal with the administrative hassle. Period. This isn't really a "problem", but I'm wondering if I should have a talk with the colleague/superior who eventually took the position. He's terrific at it - a very well-organized "troubleshooter" with lots of energy. The thing is, he's constantly "consulting" me about the decisions he makes, actions he takes, etc., simply because I've got seniority, and he apparently knows that I was offered the job first, although I never mentioned it at school. I really don't mind offering my point of view or suggestions, but I'm afraid he feels obligated to discuss everything with me. I've praised the way he's doing the job several times, and told him that I'm not an "administrative type", but I wonder if I should be a bit blunter, along the lines of "I'm not going to second-guess your decisions; I really didn't think I was the right person for the job, but you are". I don't want him to think that I'm not available to "bounce ideas off", or that I believe he lacks self-confidence. He's very good, but everybody needs feedback. Things kind of came to a head this afternoon when he overheard another colleague telling me about students' complaints about a new teacher. I told the colleague in question to "talk to M.," and his reply was, "You've been here for ages, and M. has only been here for three years." M. is my age, and has lots of business/management experience I lack. Should I just say, "Don't mind the 'oldtimers' using me as a filter?" My husband thinks I shouldn't say anything, but just be as supportive as I can be. However, he doesn't know M..
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12/8/04 at 12:34pm