I am in need of some advice and/or suggestions on how to address a situation I'm dealing with. I'll be as brief as possible.
Background: I volunteered for a project that would eventually produce a calendar as a fundraiser. I was one of three "heads" of the project - and had my role very well defined. I incurred approximately $1,000 in expenses that I had been told would be reimbursed once we got to selling the calendar. I probably invested something on the order of 450 hours on it, as well.
I was "fired" from the project because I caught - and confronted - one of the other heads in a huge lie, one that was not simply offensive to me but which affected the calendar project itself - it had to do with additional models being used, and coordinating the shoot for that. She demanded that I apologize for her lie, and I refused.
This incident came immediately after I traveled from my home in the Los Angeles area to Georgia, in late June, getting sick, and doing a 2 day shoot which went from about 8 am to about 11 pm one day, and not being able to sleep because of the partying which was going on. I was somewhat terse the next morning (after sleeping for about an hour on someone's floor....), and was basically abandoned when everyone left for the next morning's shoot (I didn't have a rental car.).
They cut me out of the project, and then, because of their actions, the project lawyer quit. This is not a good sign, you know? I've requested three times in writing that I be given the new lawyer's info who's working on the project, but have not been given that. (And yes, I've kept copies...) I've also heard through the grapevine what the other head has been saying about me, and it's false, utter baloney, and completely untrue. They have not communicated with me whatsoever, until yesterday...but I've heard from others who've joined the team, and the emails from them have been nasty, vile, and altogether vicious.
The email I received from the more "neutral" head wants to know if I want to be included (in a very, very minute way) on the back of the calendar, in the credits' section. She has set a deadline of December 10th to let her know, but I haven't had the time today to investigate the issues legally, and don't believe I will be able to do so before the "deadline."
So what would you do? Should I demand my $$ back, let myself get credited in the calendar, or....??? This whole fiasco has hurt me personally in a very deep way, as these other heads were friends of mine before, and the one who's caused the trouble was someone I trusted implicitly and with my heart; and now I hear the things I shared with her coming back to me from people I didn't want to know. She's a gossip, a b*&^h, and someone who I wouldn't trust a cup of coffee to.
But does anyone have any ideas how to handle this effectively, and what to do about the $$ and the credit? I just don't know what to do. I have major conflict with this.
Thanks in advance - I do appreciate your help with this! (And I'm glad TCS is back....!!!)
Best-
Michele
Background: I volunteered for a project that would eventually produce a calendar as a fundraiser. I was one of three "heads" of the project - and had my role very well defined. I incurred approximately $1,000 in expenses that I had been told would be reimbursed once we got to selling the calendar. I probably invested something on the order of 450 hours on it, as well.
I was "fired" from the project because I caught - and confronted - one of the other heads in a huge lie, one that was not simply offensive to me but which affected the calendar project itself - it had to do with additional models being used, and coordinating the shoot for that. She demanded that I apologize for her lie, and I refused.
This incident came immediately after I traveled from my home in the Los Angeles area to Georgia, in late June, getting sick, and doing a 2 day shoot which went from about 8 am to about 11 pm one day, and not being able to sleep because of the partying which was going on. I was somewhat terse the next morning (after sleeping for about an hour on someone's floor....), and was basically abandoned when everyone left for the next morning's shoot (I didn't have a rental car.).
They cut me out of the project, and then, because of their actions, the project lawyer quit. This is not a good sign, you know? I've requested three times in writing that I be given the new lawyer's info who's working on the project, but have not been given that. (And yes, I've kept copies...) I've also heard through the grapevine what the other head has been saying about me, and it's false, utter baloney, and completely untrue. They have not communicated with me whatsoever, until yesterday...but I've heard from others who've joined the team, and the emails from them have been nasty, vile, and altogether vicious.
The email I received from the more "neutral" head wants to know if I want to be included (in a very, very minute way) on the back of the calendar, in the credits' section. She has set a deadline of December 10th to let her know, but I haven't had the time today to investigate the issues legally, and don't believe I will be able to do so before the "deadline."
So what would you do? Should I demand my $$ back, let myself get credited in the calendar, or....??? This whole fiasco has hurt me personally in a very deep way, as these other heads were friends of mine before, and the one who's caused the trouble was someone I trusted implicitly and with my heart; and now I hear the things I shared with her coming back to me from people I didn't want to know. She's a gossip, a b*&^h, and someone who I wouldn't trust a cup of coffee to.
But does anyone have any ideas how to handle this effectively, and what to do about the $$ and the credit? I just don't know what to do. I have major conflict with this.
Thanks in advance - I do appreciate your help with this! (And I'm glad TCS is back....!!!)
Best-
Michele