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Ok I have one for you:

I saw Tom Wolfe, the writer, speaking about college campuses in the US. He is on a book tour for a book he did about college life that he did actual research at colleges for. Ok, he said how he found out some colleges have co-ed dorms AND co-ed bathrooms. So I talked to some of the kids here at the college I work at and they do also.
Wolfe said one college he went to didn't even have screens over showers in co-ed bathrooms. The bathrooms here have doors, but I know many of the coop living situations here don't.

I lived in a co-ed dorm BUT we have separate bathrooms. Not enough supervision though, I know we were way too wild.

Some of the kids here I have been talking to I think think I am a fuddy duddy but I think co-ed bathrooms and showers are pushing it. Now that I am older I just think bathrooms are hard enough to share with intimates, let alone an entire floor. So at LEAST keep it same sex. And kids away at school for the first time, with raging hormones, shouldn't share bathrooms and have little supervision (alcohol use is rampant according to Wolfe, but no more than usual...I know at my dorm we had a lot of parties...)

What do you think? Am I getting nerdy in my old age?

Oh and Wolfe said he observed that most parents whose kids got into big schools didn't seem too interested in what their kids did AFTER they got in. He called it the "I got in" syndrom. Does all this fit into that? And what do you think?
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Marge, if you're a fuddy duddy, then I am too. I don't have a problem with co-ed dorms, but co-ed bathrooms is really pushing it IMO. Beyond the consensual sex in the showers, which you KNOW is going to happen, what about rape? People with self-image issues now having to shed their clothes in front of members of the opposite sex? How many more kids are going to have eating disorders because there is no hiding the imperfections?

Quite frankly, I don't even want my husband watching me shower. It's not like it's attractive like in the movies. You just can't be sexy shaving your armpits! Besides, men are serious pigs in bathrooms, and these are boys who don't have their mothers to clean up after them. I wouldn't WANT to share a bathroom with them!!!
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Originally Posted by valanhb
Marge, if you're a fuddy duddy, then I am too. I don't have a problem with co-ed dorms, but co-ed bathrooms is really pushing it IMO. Beyond the consensual sex in the showers, which you KNOW is going to happen, what about rape? People with self-image issues now having to shed their clothes in front of members of the opposite sex? How many more kids are going to have eating disorders because there is no hiding the imperfections?

Quite frankly, I don't even want my husband watching me shower. It's not like it's attractive like in the movies. You just can't be sexy shaving your armpits! Besides, men are serious pigs in bathrooms, and these are boys who don't have their mothers to clean up after them. I wouldn't WANT to share a bathroom with them!!!
Thanks, I feel better about myself. I mean I cant stop thinking about it! Yes, no boundries in a bathroom sets up for problems big time!

And yes the boys are more apt to be a mess, but some boys were telling me how the girls sometimes didn't take care of their...you know. And it was gross to them too. So I was thinking yes, it's hard to share a large space like a dorm but if you At LEAST separate the baths it's somewhat manageable.

And yes, I need privacy in the shower too. I know what you mean, it's not some romantic movie thing.

I think these kids need someone to care as much about their academic achievements as their mental and personal development. I am really in shock about it. I had no idea.
post #4 of 8
I'm a fuddy duddy! Most stores, restaurants, airports, and other public places have separate Men and Women bathrooms. Even in the Women's bathroom, I'm thankful for the stall.

Some things are called private for a reason...
post #5 of 8
I also lived in a co-ed dorm (boys on one side of the hall, girls on the other) but there were separate bathrooms. It used to drive me crazy when there were men in the women's bathroom. Yuck. Not even getting into any of the sexual stuff, the bathroom were gross enough with only one sex using them. Both is way too much.
post #6 of 8
I lived in a co-ed dorm with separate bathrooms and that was enough trouble as it was!

post #7 of 8
I grew up, sharing a bathroom with three younger brothers - no way would I want to share with a bunch of slobby college boys!
post #8 of 8
I lived in a co-ed dorm for a time, too (mostly I lived off campus), but every room there (singles only) had a private bath. I don't think I'd like the idea of co-ed bathrooms, for many of the reasons Heidi cited.
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