I can't say I particularly like doctors or dentists...always trying to convince me that they need to poke me with a needle
But I've spend my share of time in the various offices, and if there's something that I know is not right with me, I go see them.
I'm due for a tetnaus shot again...so I've been holding out on going to the Dr until I have a better reason...I'm pushing my luck though, and I know it.
Dentists...I'm not so much afraid of them, I have always been somewhat exposed to the dental field, my mother worked as a dental assistant for a few years when I was a kid, way back when
I've had four cavaties, and so far managed to get through the procedures without letting the dentist stick me with a needle. But the wisdom teeth....I couldn't refuse general on that one...I knew that going in, and was just prepared for it mentally, so it was no big deal.
I suppose the best advice I can give you, is to try and get an idea of what you are looking at. Try to understand the basics of what the dentist is going to do, and understand that he's there to help you. If you can go in there relaxed, and stay relaxed, you won't have any problems.
I was always facinated with how things worked, so I usually asked the dentist questions before he did anything. Then I watched what he was doing, and managed to distract myself to watching the Dr at work, rather than focusing on what I was feeling.
To some degree, it really is mind over matter. But you have to stay calm and relaxed for it to work.
Fear isn't a stupid thing. Fear is natural. Fear makes you question what you are doing, and in effect can protect you from some things. Fear is a defense mechanism. The problem with fear, is not having it, but rather letting it control you. If you can stay calm and reason through your fears, you will be fine. I only wish that this wasn't one of those pieces of advice that's easier said than done
Hang in there, you are not alone.