i've felt sick lately

Ever since that whole incident with my mom, and now with the World Trade/Pentagon attacks, I have felt sick to my stomack. I can't explain.. it doesn't hurt, but I have been barely hungry. On the brighter side, that is the best time to lose weight :LOL: It makes me very to know that my mom or my dad haven't tried to call me yet. You don't know.... Every day when I wake up I look at my telephone to see if the caller ID is blinking, hoping they would have called; no caller ID. I check my email to see if they emailed me...... nothing. I talk about it and there are times I get mad, and then other times I talk about it, I get sad and just want to start crying. It makes me sad because Thursday is our 4th wedding anniversary. I am going to be strong though... I will not give in to their guilt trips anymore! I will just wait til they come around...... I guess I will know Thursday or even next week, because it is my mom's birthday. It's just that right now, I can't call.....
To say I have little heart just tore me up.... She has no idea about that... how much I love my cats, how I donated money to the Red Cross for the disaster in NY.

THank you for listening, again! I know there are people who I have never met in person out there who listen, and that means a lot to me. Sometimes, strangers are the best friends/listeners! My husband tells me not to let it bother me, and I try not to, but it does when I think about it.

I've been going through the same thing as well. I've been eating half of what I usually do. Saturday night we had pizza and I couldn't even finish a slice, and I was hungry! It's just after a few bites my stomach says no more. On sunday I went and got my favorite turkey sandwich and again didn't even eat half of it.

I've been just eating a little bit here and there through out the day because I can't do big meals right now.

I'm sorry to hear that you haven't heard from your parents. That sucks, it really does. You should be able to count on family through anything (IMO at least) and when that isn't the case it hurts.

Tigger, I'm sure sorry to hear you are still having problems with your parents. This is a time for families to come together in love, not be stubborn butts! I'll be thinking about you...

It is sad that you cannot go to your parents for confort. I hope that eventually everything will be all right..

In the meantime, don't forget about your husband that loves you! At least you have each other!

Be patient, tigger...

Anne-Claire

You echo what myself and others are facing right now. I think I am hungry and try to eat, but find I cannot. I have a tip for everyone, buy stock in TUMS! Our emergency room is full of people with flu-like symptoms, we even got a pamphlet about it the other day on our door! It is anxiety and nervousness and stress.......

Tigger,

I know how being upset can alter your appetite. But I'd like to offer you a bit of advice without stepping on toes. I speak it from the heart.

Life is way too short to hold grudges and it's not healthy. My brother and father did not speak for over 18 years. Then all of a sudden one day, my father was found dead in his apartment. My brother lost his chance to mend fences with my father. I don't know what the rift was about but it doesn't matter anymore. The point is, my brother now has to live with the guilt for the rest of his life. He never got to speak to him or tell him he loved him.

I had a disagreement with my 84 year old aunt (the only family I have left) years ago. After my father died, I realized that whatever it was we disagreed about didn't matter anymore. I called her (she lives in New Mexico) and said how sorry I was for whatever it was she was mad at me for. We've been close ever since. We talk to each other once a week.

What I'm trying to say is, please, don't let this create a gap between you and your parents. They will not be around forever. And God forbid something should happen to either you or one of them before you can reconcile, you'll feel even worse than you do now.

It's just a little advice from someone whose been there. I care about you and don't like to see you unhappy. I hope you will think about what I said. I mean it with the best intent.

Regards,

Donna

Donna, WELL SAID!!!!!!

Tigger....I think the world of you, I really do, you have helped me out through some really tough times....and I pray to God you don't take offense at what I say, but here goes...

Call your parents. It is obvious that they have not treated you right, and that is very sad, and you don't deserve it. You are such a kind, loving person, and I can tell that, even though I have never met you, but take the first step, be the bigger person, and call them.

Life is short, and my mother and I never got along, we fought constantly, and we never did understand each other, but one day she had a stroke, and her mind went, and for 10 years I had to watch this woman dying, and I tried to tell her that I forgave her, and that I loved her...but it was too late...her mind was gone, she did not know what I was saying to her. Then she died.
Don't let this happen to you, even though they are wrong...reach out to them...please.