4 weeks ago...

It was 4 weeks ago today that my precious Furball passed on. How can it have been 4 weeks already? It feels like just a few minutes ago I was holding him in my arms and feeling his sweet kisses. I am still so very heartbroken. I still cry every couple of days. I miss him so much. How can he have been gone for 4 weeks? Most people I try to talk to do not understand. They think I should be "over it" by now. I don't think I will ever be "over it." I will miss Furry until the day I die, when we are reunited again. I know everyone here understands.

Thanks for listening.

Oh, loverly! I know your pain all too well, as most of us here do! It will be three weeks tomorrow since I lost my loveyboy, and I have cried every single day since! Including today. I know your pain is still so fresh, your heart still wounded, your home not what it used to be. I cannot say any words to lessen your pain, but I want you to know that you are in my thoughts and prayers, and I pray that your pain will recede. Of course you will always love and miss him! Don't feel silly for your grief; you lost a very special friend, and this has left an explainable hole in your heart. Feel free to PM me if you want to just let loose ...I would love to listen and lend some kind words, and who knows, perhaps we can help each other through this!
Take care,
Jennifer

I am soo sorry. I have never lost a pet, but I have lost several people and I can imagine its much the same...especially reading your post.

Hang in there...

Loverly and Jennifer, I am so sorry for the pain you are going through. One day at a time, that's what is needed. Your furbabes are looking down at you and sending you so much love.

I'm so sorry you have such pain in your heart as you grieve for your precious baby. There is no "over it" time, and of course, Loverly and Jennifer, you will never stop loving them. As you continue to heal we will be here for you. Thank you for sharing this with us.

Thank you all so much for your kind words. It really helps to be able to talk about this with others who understand the deep pain I am feeling.

Loverly,
I am so sorry for your loss. It is totally okay to still be grieving, there is no necessary timeframe for grieve. Some people just don't understand the loss of a pet. For me, Tigger was my best friend in the world, my little boy, and when I lost my him 3 years ago, I cried for days and even took a couple days off from work. Some people thought I was nuts but I didn't care. To the day, I still tear up when I think of him...but now, they are loving memories.

What helped me move on and this may not be for everyone, is I adopted my new kitty, the Cody girl, 3 weeks after Tigger passed. I wasn't sure I was ready until I saw her and held her. You can never replace the little one you had, but adopting a new little one was the best thing I ever did. For some reason, you just can't cry when you have a 8-week old kitten climbing up your leg! She has a totally different personality, different meows...but it was so delightful raising and loving a new baby!

I don't know if that will help you but please know that you are not alone. I have been there and totally understand what you are going through. My thoughts are with you.
Susan

I saw the pictures of Furball in another thread and he was certainly a handsome fellow and well-loved by you and your husband. When you are very young and first married and have this little life to care for together, it creates a little family that you can never forget. Furball was your first "child," ya know? If people don't understand that, then ignore them. Besides, you know where to come to get the support you need We all know exactly how you feel...or at least we've been there. I lost 4 babies in 3 years and to this day I cannot look at pictures or even think of them for more than a passing glance at a memory without crying. Dang...see? I'm crying even now

In fact...about 11 years ago, while I was pregnant with my daughter, I decided to crochet a blanket for my mother to keep myself busy. My handsom Sampson kitty loved to "help" by unravelling yarn and sleeping in the warmth of the half-made blanket on my lap. Sampson's life was cut tragically short when he was just 3 years old, though, when he was hit by a car while I was visiting a friend in Utah. I was devastated. Last weekend my mom asked me over to help her clean her house in preparation for my brother's return from 2 years in Poland (he's a consular in the Embassy there) and I found that blanket in her closet. Didn't think of Sambo at first, but then I saw it - a jet black cat hair, woven right into the yarn. It hit me and I positively SOBBED...11 years later.

So cry as much as you need to, mourn him and never forget him, just don't let it consume you and you'll be fine.

So sorry. Poor Furball. You don't forget him. Every body must know it. How can they not? Your baby die! Normal you sad. But, yes he heven now. And see you some day. I pray both!

loverly7,
Give yourself permission to grieve. It was your heart that did the loving. It is your heart that hurts. Not mine, not your friends. There's nothing wrong with loving, and nothing wrong with expressing sorrow. If you had not loved him so, you would not be grieving so. If someone acts like you're crazy, tell them a great love must be mourned greatly.

You will love your new kitties in a different way. They are different cats! The love is there for them too, but your heart has to cry then heal first. It's only been a month, and that's not a lot of days in the grand scheme of time.

Blessings!
mrsd

Loverly, I see that you visited Emma's Friend's posting, Grief is like a hole...I revisit that thread every day just to remind myself that this agony, this grief, this HOLE is felt by all those who have lost a loved one. Your Furball was a special loved one, and of course you still grieve! We just need to learn how to walk carefully around that hole, always accepting that it's there, and cherishing the memories that are found inside of it at all times. Bless you AND your tears; they are real signs of what a kind and loving heart you have.

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Jennifer

Jennifer and Loverly, I am sorry that this pain and heartache is going on and on for you. All that I can promise you is that time helps you to cope with your loss. You will always love but coping with it becomes easier. We never stop missing our special furbabes but the pain eases, which is the way it has to be. The love between you will never die and you will meet again at the bridge.