I used to teach high school German and English in public school and believe me, it's not fun, even if you LOVE teaching and adore kids. Sending them to the office isn't usually an option. Detention is useless. Suspension is a free vacation. Expulsion is a life sentence. If you don't discipline the kids, you can bet no one will. And as Deb said, teachers are supposed to act in loco parentis.
When I left teaching (I haven't left for good, just until my daughter is more healthy) I was teaching 3 levels of German and senior English for the kids who failed other English classes. They called it "dumbed-down English." Nice, eh? No one ever did homework. No one tried to pass tests, or even take tests. I only did that class for one semester before I left teaching, and I was at the end of my rope. I'm a very good teacher and have been able to make a difference to a lot of "problem" kids, but this class believed they were hopeless, their parents believed they were hopeless, their peers believed it and so did everyone else. Therefore, they WERE hopeless. Many of them couldn't read and thought it was "cool." Guess what? Those kids still graduated. Isn't that lovely? America seems to just want these kids out of there hair so they let them do whatever they want and then give them a diploma. Education is not valued here like it is in other countries. Carrie - perhaps this is a cultural difference between our two countries. We seriously don't value education. Why do you think that teachers are the lowest paid professionals in the country?
|Is this what we teach children...that when you (child) get out of control you get punished, but when teacher gets out of control, she/he can do whatever she/he wants...meaning go against the rules.
The teacher wasn't out of control. That's the whole point. She took the child to the nurses office where, under the supervision and witness of a health care professional, she did what parents have been doing forever to teach their kids that if they are going to use their mouths for dirty words, they will get them washed out. Will it deter him in the future? No - because now he knows that he can do whatever the heck he wants. The moron who suspended the teacher has reinforced this. He's just learned a very valuable lesson: Do what you want, say what you want, then claim abuse and you can get away with anything. I'm sure the jury will understand when he gets off for rape because he claims that he was the victim in some way.
He verbally sexually assaulted a little girl. If he were my kid I'd have done a lot more than wash his nasty mouth out. But those of you who are not educators and/or parents can't really say what you would or wouldn't do, as it's really not something you can predict when you haven't had the experience. I'm not saying this to make flames or to offend, it's just the honest truth. Things are very different when you are responsible for 40 kids and one or two are abusing the rest and you have no means to discipline and the system and parents reinforce the child's belief that he can abuse who he wants how he wants.
As they say, walk a mile in my shoes.
P.S. This is coming from the mom of a child who has many many behavioral problems, who is often violent and uncontrollable due to her developmental disabilites, manic depression and OCD and something called ODD (Oppositional Defiance Disorder). My kid tears her face up, hits teachers - and me - and doesn't have a lot of control over it. But she is still disciplined and if her teacher didn't do it, I'd yank my kid out of her class.