Need your input....human babies or furbabies

Originally Posted by sherral46

sorry to be a party popper,but my kids and grandchildern are loved more than my cats,don't get me wrong I also love my cats,but I would die for my family,not my ctas.

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Hmmm, I love my cats so much, I would die to protect them, they are my kids. My wife has 3 children, but they are all grown up and live in New York. My wife can no longer have children and I never had nor will I ever have the desire to have kids. They are fine if they are someone elses kid, but not mine My furbabies all the way.

There was a time when I wanted kids (human). The relationship in which to have them never materialized, because by the time the guy was in my life, he had already decided that the one son he had was all he was prepared to bring into the world (great son, but Rob was dissatisfied with himself as a father -- unjustly). So he took appropriate steps (snip, snip). As a result, I have one stepson, one nephew and a whole mess of nieces and great-nieces and -nephews.

My cats really are my kids. I love them so much I choke up just thinking about it, and I approach parenting cats as I believe I would have approached parenting human kids.

I think I would have loved them just as much if I had had human kids, because of the place that critters have always had in my life/emotions, but of course, that's not something I can ever know for sure.

I knew before i married that i didn't want children and my husband was the same.

Dont get me wrong i could never harm a child, but i have more patience with cats.

And they are and always will be "my babies" and i would harm anyone who harmed them!

I don't have any human babies yet, but my husband and I would like to have our first next year, hopefully (so maybe soon you'll be hearing pregnancy-parenting updates/questions...). Until then, our furbabies will be our babies, then when really baby comes along, I'll have two! My human baby and my fur-babbies. I will love them all, just in a different perspective for each species

Sierra is my baby, my heart, my best friend and my life! I too would die for my sweet girl. I am 28 and have no human babies. I would like to have children if/when when my husband come into my life. At this time, Sierra is my family and can't imagine possibly loving anyone even one bit more than I love her.

I don't have any human kids at this time and it isn't looking too good for me as of now! I am almost 33, have had no romantic prospects for at least 5 years or longer (guess I am too independent for guys out there?!) so as of now I HIGHLY doubt I will have any human kids. I DO not want to start having kids after age 35 or so due to various reasons so I don't have much time left to have kids in!

I have mixed feelings about that. Some days, I feel about not having a family or kids BUT BUT at other times I feel about not having any kids. (I think that is strongly influenced by how I feel that day-if I'm WIPED out, etc and it also depends on the kids I see around me! IE- spoilted brats makes me GLAD I don't have kids but with CUTE babies and good kids, I wish I have kids! My family (parents/siblings/neices/nephews) aren't helping either cuz whenever I talk to them online, they ALWAYS ask if I am dating anyone and ask when I would give them grandkids/cousins to spoil! Sometimes the fact that I'm not married and have kids while everyone else in my family ARE married and have kids makes me feel like I am a big failure. (Rationally, I know that's not true but sometimes emotionally I feel that way!) They call me the crazy cat lady now!

I will do ANYTHING for my 4 furbabies. If my apt building was on fire, I'm sure I would go in and die to save my babies. I don't mean to sound so dramatic but that's how strongly I feel about my furbabies. I DID risk my life at one time to try to save one of my furbabies in my teens. My mom and I were taking Doonesbury (RB cat) to the vet when the carrier popped open so Doonesbury leapt out of the carrier and ran across a BUSY road. I was screaming my head off and running after him to try to grab him before he'd be hit by a car. I know for a fact that 2 cars swerved to avoid hitting me and one vet technican who saw the whole thing happening said he saw one guy literally standing on his brakes to make his truck stop and not hit me-luckily no one crashed into each other! (I remember the speed limit on that road was 40 MPH so it was a miracle that my actions didn't cause any car accidents!) LUCKILY, my mom was able to corner and grab him so we brought him home safely and he lived to be 17 years old!

My furbabies (present, past and future) have CARVED a HUGE place in my heart that cannot ever be removed or replaced..

Pamela, I do not think you are crazy for not wanting children and don't let anyone in your family pressure you. I remember when I was younger, I always felt that I never wanted children. I don't know if that is a common feeling with all us men out in the world or not I used to talk with my mom about it and she would always say, "it is different when they are your kids". I thought about that for a long time and realized, that was not very good advice. For, if I would have had children, they may have not been loved like they should have been. I think too many people have kids when they get married, just because they have been told that is the thing you do. Unfortunately, this may lead to a lot of broken marriages and families. You are no "crazy cat lady" because if you are, then my wife and I are the crazy cat man and woman with our 7 domestics and our crazy bobcat, who by the way, is like having a 2 year old running around here constantly

I think it a personal choice whether to have children or not, just as much as it is to have furbabes or not. If you know you do not want children, you are wise to have that knowledge. I was desparate for children. Thing is you never stop being a mother I love both furbabes and children. I could not live without children or without furbabes. I have heard a lot of young people say they don't want to ever have children, and they are told they are selfish, which I think is a ridiculous statement. I think if you know what you want you have to go and get it/do it. If you have to choose between children and furbabes go with your heart. I've come off my soap stand now.

I've never wanted children. I'm in my mid 30's and never regretted my decision. Sash is my child, my baby. I could never imagine loving anyone more. I decided long ago I would live out my life with animals and not children.

Lisa & Sash

I always remember an old neighbour of mine asking if my husband and i wanted children. When i said no she said " But thats selfish, who's going to look after you when your old?".

Not one for sitting on the fence, i said it was her that was being selfish if that's all she was having kids for!!.

Hi everyone..........here i started this thread, and haven't been able the last few days to see what everyone had to say. I have some time here at work, so let go over what you all wrote since I last posted.........

Well, Pondwader, sounds like you have the same love for your furbabies as you do your human babies.......I have to say, love is love. There are different levels of love of course, and different ways of loving someone/something, but love means caring, wanting, needing, worrying. I, like so many of you, would run back into my burning house to save Trixie, Petals or Tiggy.........they are my "kids" and I would do anything I had to do to protect their lives and care for them until God calls them home.........

Subee, your feel like we always have. I always had dogs growing up, and they were as much a part of the family as anyone. Now that I have kitties, nothing has changed. They are our kids........now only if we could claim them on our taxes...........

Purrfectcatlove, you by all means love your son, but aren't you glad you don't have as many human children as you do your furbabies? All your "children" are very lucky to have you.....

Sherral46, don't feel that your a party pooper by saying that your human kids and grandkids are more loved than your cats.........I think all of us would pretty much chose saving the life over a human child over a furchild. I mean if we were faced with that choice.......like you could only save one, a child or your cat.............let's hope none of us ever ever ever have to be in a situation like that to save anyone!

Blondiecat, You and Ken should be proud to call your 5 kitties your kids.........they are beautiful!

Momofmany, you have 5 dogs and 7 cats........???? Wow, how do they all get along? What a beautiful family you much have, human or not! Sounds like what I'd love to do, but our home just isn't big enough.

HFrodoC, I think Frodo will give you very good experience when it comes time for your human children to start coming into you lives........all babies take love, patience, nuturing and caring......whether they be human or feline!

VWVixen, Muira is so gorgeous.......i have seen her pics. Between your two sons and your furbabies, your boyfriend should be VERY proud!

AmberTheBobcat, if you don't have the desire to have children, that's ok. I am the same way. I love my neices and nephews, friends kids, etc, but I love coming home to my kitties at night.............to each his own, right?

rapunzel47, you remind me so much of my life. My husband has a son from a previous marriage and he feels he was a rotten father, so he doesn't want more kids. That was fine with me, because I didn't either. But he beats up on himself, saying he wasn't the best father, that he should have done better. He is unjust with himself too. He loves our kittie kids as much as I do. Also, when I think about what they mean to me, I can choke up too!


Rosiemac, We think alot alike too. You said you knew before you married that human babies were'nt on your agenda. Us too.

Loubelia, of course you'll love your future human baby and your furbabies in different perspectives due to thier species.......but isn't it wonderful to know that the love that you give both will allow them to grow up happy, healthy and loved?

Dawnofsierra, Sierra is so very lucky to have you, as is all of our babies. You sound like such a devoted mommy. And don't worry about if the husband comes along.......if it's meant to be, it will, as with human babies........just relax and enjoy life! That's what I did, and BOOM, in strolled my sweetheart/hubby Jerry into my life...........

Pamela, I private messaged you last weekend. Don't worry about being 33 and not having romantic prospects.....as I was just telling Dawnsofsierra, when you least expect it, those things happen. I always hated it when people asked me when I was going to get married and have kids.........I think everyone knows now that children aren't a part of my future, (although if God blessed me unexpectedly with a pregnancy, I know I'd be a wonderful mom)
and that I'm very happy with my furbabies as my kids........I'm sure people call me the crazy cat lady too! Hey, I don't mind.......I guess in a way I am.
Doonesbury was very very lucky when he jumped out of his carrier! I'd be terrified in the same situation, but we do what we have to do to protect our little loves.................

Cilla, what you say about it's a personal choice to have human kids or not.....very very very true! Feel free to get on your "soap box" any time! haha

Lisalee, Sash is a lucky little kitty...have you ever thought of getting him a silbling playmate?

Ok.......you probably all have eye strain now........but I really appreciate all your replys.........I think we can all conclude that no matter what type of children we have in our lives, whether it be human or feline, there's nothing like the love you get from them..................isn't it a great feeling?

Susie

Hmmm . . . well, I have one furbaby (Luna ) and no kids. From my perspective a major upside to having cats, not kids, is 1) no pregnancy, 2) no childbirth (the very idea scares the bejesus out of me), and 3) no diapers. But . . . then again, I'm also 20 years old and in college and working full time, so not wanting kids at the moment is a good thing, I guess.

In a few years, who knows? I DO know that I want to get married one day, though. I want someone to go travel with and have adventures with, etc. (Like I'm getting SCUBA certified right now so my boyfriend and I can go diving together.) That kind of stuff can be hard to do with kitties! I don't think Luna would enjoy going diving, given that she barely handles being bathed.

I guess I'm still "undecided" on the whole having kids thing.

Furbabes all the way! No human kids in this household, though we have furry kids getting into all sort of mischief. The furry kind of kids are the only kind of kids we ever want.