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Hi all,
I'm new here, and I'm growing increasingly concerned about my 6 year old female cat named Winter, whom I've had since she was six weeks old. She has been an "only child" for most of her life(started out with two older cats(my roommate's at the time) in the house, had no problems, and also got along fantastically with my parents' male cat when we would visit). I am often gone at night because of work, and I worried about her being lonely without me. Three years ago, I decided to adopt an adult female cat, found by a friend of a friend. I named the cat Sasha and slowly introduced them. Winter at first seemed mostly curious...and I let them out together when I was home to supervise. One day, I heard a terrible fighting noise, and I found Winter huddling in fear under my claw foot bathtub.
She was, from then on, absolutely terrified of Sasha. Sasha went to live with my parents. I think something about this encounter with Sasha did something to Winter's psyche concerning other cats.
I decided that if I adopted another cat, it would be a male kitten. I waited until this past October, and Avalanche(Avvie) came to live with us. He was about three months old at the time. Again, I kept them separated, slowly introduced them to one another(although at the time I didn't know about the fenway comfort zone and about putting vanilla extract on both cats to help them have a similar scent). Avvie was neutered as soon as he was old enough. Both kitties are current on shots and seem quite healthy.
Winter of course was pretty resentful of him at first. But for a while, I occasionally caught them both curled up on the couch or on my bed(when I wasn't around), I saw her groom him maybe once or twice. But Avvie is kind of agressive in one sense. He chases Winter(although there are a few places in the house she refuses to let him "have"), and my presence is definitely a bone of contention between the two. But recently, I find Winter's behavior very difficult to understand, although I'm very certain she is not afraid of Avvie. The vet said that it would take several months for her to adjust, but it seems as if she's finding it harder to take as time goes on. She refuses to be anywhere but underneath the couch if he is in the same room. If she is lying on my desk, contentedly purring away while I type(and licking my fingers as needed
) the minute he walks in the room, she stops and runs away. She won't even get on my bed anymore, and that has been HER place from the time she was a baby--and she won't get on my bed even if Avvie is shut out of the room.
This is a kitty that followed me around the house, and loved to play and be fussed over. Tonight, I had one cat on the toilet and one on the floor in the bathroom, and I was petting each at the same time. For the first time in her life, Winter actually snapped at me. From the time she was a tiny baby, even in the middle of play Winter would stop and lick if I touched her fur--she NEVER bit me, not once.
Avvie is a very sweet and loving kitty. I do think he wants to be dominant, but he tried very hard to cuddle up to her at first, which she won't allow. I don't worry about them when I am at work. I never see scratches on them or bite marks. I think they coexist pretty well, and I have seen them play pounce on one another from either side of my bed quilt. But what worries me is how my trying to make a fuss over Winter when Avvie is present makes things worse for her. Maybe she doesn't want to share me at all. Is she jealous? Depressed? Should I separate them again? I just bought the comfort zone plug-in yesterday to see if it would help her...but I'm guessing it will take time.
I'm sorry this is long, especially for being new, but I'm very worried and I'm just not sure what to do.
Thanks in advance for any help or advice!
I'm new here, and I'm growing increasingly concerned about my 6 year old female cat named Winter, whom I've had since she was six weeks old. She has been an "only child" for most of her life(started out with two older cats(my roommate's at the time) in the house, had no problems, and also got along fantastically with my parents' male cat when we would visit). I am often gone at night because of work, and I worried about her being lonely without me. Three years ago, I decided to adopt an adult female cat, found by a friend of a friend. I named the cat Sasha and slowly introduced them. Winter at first seemed mostly curious...and I let them out together when I was home to supervise. One day, I heard a terrible fighting noise, and I found Winter huddling in fear under my claw foot bathtub.
I decided that if I adopted another cat, it would be a male kitten. I waited until this past October, and Avalanche(Avvie) came to live with us. He was about three months old at the time. Again, I kept them separated, slowly introduced them to one another(although at the time I didn't know about the fenway comfort zone and about putting vanilla extract on both cats to help them have a similar scent). Avvie was neutered as soon as he was old enough. Both kitties are current on shots and seem quite healthy.
Winter of course was pretty resentful of him at first. But for a while, I occasionally caught them both curled up on the couch or on my bed(when I wasn't around), I saw her groom him maybe once or twice. But Avvie is kind of agressive in one sense. He chases Winter(although there are a few places in the house she refuses to let him "have"), and my presence is definitely a bone of contention between the two. But recently, I find Winter's behavior very difficult to understand, although I'm very certain she is not afraid of Avvie. The vet said that it would take several months for her to adjust, but it seems as if she's finding it harder to take as time goes on. She refuses to be anywhere but underneath the couch if he is in the same room. If she is lying on my desk, contentedly purring away while I type(and licking my fingers as needed
This is a kitty that followed me around the house, and loved to play and be fussed over. Tonight, I had one cat on the toilet and one on the floor in the bathroom, and I was petting each at the same time. For the first time in her life, Winter actually snapped at me. From the time she was a tiny baby, even in the middle of play Winter would stop and lick if I touched her fur--she NEVER bit me, not once.
Avvie is a very sweet and loving kitty. I do think he wants to be dominant, but he tried very hard to cuddle up to her at first, which she won't allow. I don't worry about them when I am at work. I never see scratches on them or bite marks. I think they coexist pretty well, and I have seen them play pounce on one another from either side of my bed quilt. But what worries me is how my trying to make a fuss over Winter when Avvie is present makes things worse for her. Maybe she doesn't want to share me at all. Is she jealous? Depressed? Should I separate them again? I just bought the comfort zone plug-in yesterday to see if it would help her...but I'm guessing it will take time.
I'm sorry this is long, especially for being new, but I'm very worried and I'm just not sure what to do.
Thanks in advance for any help or advice!