oh my gosh I'm so nervous.......

Originally Posted by katl8e

The night before Numbnuts and I got married snip:

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I just sprayed Pepsi all over my computer

jugen, Ken and I got married a year ago, and I know how you feel about everything. Anything you can worry about you will but trust me it will all be nothing once you see your husband to be at the end of the asile.

When my Dad walked me down the aisle and put my hand in Ken's there was no one in the church but me and him, even though the church was full of people. I realized that all the little things that I had worried about was nothing then and I was home. If that makes any sense to anyone.

Get one of your bridesmaids or trusted friends to watch after your purrbabies and have someone talk to the co-workers for you. This is one less thing you need to worry about right now.

As for the out-of-town realatives they just want to see you and Brad. I too was worried about what my aunt was thinking when she came to my wedding. My aunt told me later on after we got back from our HM that our wedding was one of the most beautiful she had ever seen because we did it just the way that we wanted it to be. No "Here Comes the Bride" for me. Hang in there Girl you will be fine

Oh Barb...I wish I could calm your fears...everything will be okay, it really will! I like Shell's idea of having a friend stay at the house to make sure nothing happens there with the co-workers. Jcat...I got a chuckle out of your story! Barb, I know everything will go very well for you...Brent and I got married outside in a covered bridge in Winterset, (yes, the bridge of Madison County ) and it was far less hassel than my first wedding which was all proper. I wish I could be there to see you on your big day. Just know I am thinking of you and we love you!

Originally Posted by katl8e

The night before Numbnuts and I got married, the minister had a heart attack. There I was, at 9:30 Saturday night, trying to find an officiant, for 1:30 Sunday afternoon. Meanwhile, Chip (the minister) was trying to check himself out of the hospital, so that he could do the job. Fortunately, Chip had a friend, who was willing to pinch-hit and we pulled it off.

As for decorating your house - shucks! What's a wedding night, without cowbells tied to the bedsprings?

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Barb, don't worry otherwise it's going to ruin your day.

I've got a story to hopefully give you a bit of a giggle, and i swear to god it's a true one because if i hadn't been there myself i wouldn't have believed it!.

A guy at work got married. He doesn't have much money but his hearts in the right place.

His was a civil wedding at our local council offices. The bride and i were chatting one minute, then the next thing we knew was the best man saying he had forgot the wedding rings!.

Someone gave them a loan of one wedding ring and another loaned them a 'wishbone' style ring.

She had an bouquet made of silk carnations that were so badly put together, 3 of the carnations had dropped to the ground before we went in for the ceremony!.

But to put the icing on the cake, while they were signing the register they had given the registrar at the beginning of the ceremony a tape to play when they signed it.

I know my fellow UK members will have heard of the british group 'STEPS'?, well it was them singing their version of the Bee Gees song "TRAGEDY" that they signed their marriage certificate to!!!!

As long as i live that wedding will be in my head better than my own!.

Originally Posted by rosiemac

Barb, don't worry otherwise it's going to ruin your day.

I've got a story to hopefully give you a bit of a giggle, and i swear to god it's a true one because if i hadn't been there myself i wouldn't have believed it!.

A guy at work got married. He doesn't have much money but his hearts in the right place.

His was a civil wedding at our local council offices. The bride and i were chatting one minute, then the next thing we knew was the best man saying he had forgot the wedding rings!.

Someone gave them a loan of one wedding ring and another loaned them a 'wishbone' style ring.

She had an bouquet made of silk carnations that were so badly put together, 3 of the carnations had dropped to the ground before we went in for the ceremony!.

But to put the icing on the cake, while they were signing the register they had given the registrar at the beginning of the ceremony a tape to play when they signed it.

I know my fellow UK members will have heard of the british group 'STEPS'?, well it was them singing their version of the Bee Gees song "TRAGEDY" that they signed their marriage certificate to!!!!

As long as i live that wedding will be in my head better than my own!.

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Maybe we'd better stop the "what can go wrong stories" - we might be making things worse.

I don't have any wedding horror stories but I do have some advise.

When my relatives come over, I put my cats in my bedroom. Just like your co-workers, my nephews don't listen to me when I tell them to leave the cats alone. I went to Home Depot and picked up a doorhandle that would normally be used on an outside door...the kind that locks with a key. It takes 5 minutes to change the lock. Put your cats in there along with any valuables you don't want wedding guests or your coworkers to touch and lock the door! No one gets in without a key!

As for your East Coast relatives, I'm from New Jersey and I've been to several backyard weddings here. I'm hoping to have one, myself. They have them in New York too. As a matter of fact, there are parts of upstate New York and south New Jersey that are just as small town as the rest of the US.

Sandy

When I got married, it was tradition for the grooms family to give the bride a ride in a wheelbarrel at the reception. I flat out told them if they were seriously going to try that, there would be no wedding at all. We would go to the courthouse, fly off on the honeymoon and no one would be there to share the day. Of course that made my parents about swallow their teeth since they already put out a good chunk of change on the wedding and reception, but it worked. They all backed down quickly. I still had one of my uncles checking the backs of trucks for wheelbarrels at the wedding and reception.

Maybe you could have a neighbor or someone else you trust that will not be attending keep watch over the house and even park the cars in their garage for the time.

it is your day to shine any way you want it and no can say anything about it because its what you want good luck and best wishes

Thanks everyone, the giggles were some stress relief. I don't expect the "perfect" wedding persay, i guess I'm just nervous because I haven't seen my uncle in forever and never met my aunt and the first impression is the lasting one ya know?
and as far as the cats? well I guess that one is the one that is bothering me the most, I can clean up any mess that my idiot co workers create, but to come home and find my cats gone, I'd die! these are the people who have no regard for animals, if their animals do pee on the floor, they throw them out, or they get to many animals and can't afford to take care of them, things of that sort, so my animals (yes even knowing I'd dies for my animals) wouldn't even be given a second thought if they DID do something stupid like breaking into the house. and the only place I CAN lock them up would be in my bedroom, where the stupid coworkers would want to get to... I'm so frustrated, I want to cry!

Barb isn't there someone who can look after your cats for a short while, until any danger of them being lost or hurt is gone?

Unfortunately no. they will all be at the reception. I was thinking about taking them all to my MILs house in Fulton, but is it fair to keep them in Huge dog crates from 5pm until between 10 and 12pm? I'm taking crates for Great danes, not little one, but there would be two cats in each one, I can't let them roam free, she has dogs and Isis and Luna would disappear into her rafters. Rocket would too I'm afraid. so Two cats each in two crates for about 7 hours? is that fair or do you think the stress would be bad for them???

Well, what's worse? Crate them and stress them for a little while, but they are safe, and they will recover from the stress even if it takes a day or two....or your worst case scenario of your idiot coworkers breaking into your house and the cats freak and run out and goodness only knows what could happen???

So you think that putting them in the kennels wouldn't have any bad health affects on them?? That'd make me feel better... at least I'd know they were ok.. I'm just concerned with their health but I guess that's better then risking loosing them?

First of all, your co-workers sound like a group of looney tunes! I would crate your cats and stow them somewhere that you know they will be safe. Buy a large bottle of Feliway Spray and saturate the crate, and the bedding with the spray to help keep them calm. If they are in a darkened room, that will also keep them calm and butting the crates up to each other so they can see and smell each other will also work. I would pad the bottom of the crate with disposable diapers and as soon as you can rescue them and bring them back home.

Yes Hissy, pretty much you hit the nail on the head. they ARE not very smart and that's being nice.
so you think that bringing them to my MILs for that much time and putting them in the kennels would be ok as opposed to worrying about them getting out due to the dumb a$$es I work with?

Barb, you have enough to worry about on your big day without being very worried about your cats' safety. When you take them to the vet they are kept in cages, probably much smaller than the kennels you have....and that can be for much longer than you will have them there. Sure, they will be a bit stressed - but it would be nothing compared to the stress of having idiots come trouncing through your house making lots of noise and overall being rowdy.

If you take them to your MIL's house, you KNOW they are safe and that no matter what your co-workers do it can be repaired or cleaned. For their safety and your own sanity I would suggest doing that.

ok, I'll do that, now to let Brad know in a way that he doesn't freak about my co workers trying anything on the house, he is a bit hot tempered I'm afraid when it comes to them, but can you blame him???

Could you hire a cleaning crew and send the co workers the bill? Or call for an estimate and show that to your co workers and tell them you need to be paid for this if they are going to make the mess. I'm not trying to be mean, but I think they are extremely selfish if they are insisting on "decorating" and causing you so much stress. You should be enjoying yourself and not worrying about such things. I really hope everything goes well for you and that you are able to enjoy the day as much as you should be.

Well, I told him today and he completely freaked out like I expected him to. so I'm not sure if he'll let me take the cats to me MILs or not... he's pissed that they are even planning to do anything to our house or cars... he says we are not children and there for should not be treated as such and so they shouldnt' do stuipd things like that and when I explained that I tried to talk them out of it, he said if I couldnt' get them to not do it, then he WOULD go down there and TELL them not to and if they still do it, he will freak out! so now what do I do???if I can't take the cats out of the situation how do I handle it without having Brad deal with it like HE wants to???

Barb if you know your cats are at risk you don't really have a choice. You are their protector and if anything bad happened to them can you imagine how you would feel? I'm not telling you what to do hun, but if it were me there is no way I would leave those kitties by themselves if they are in danger. I think it's hateful that your co-workers are causing you all this stress at a time when they should be joining in with your happiness, perhaps it wouldn't be a bad deal if Brad were to go and speak to them. What do you think would happen if he did?

if he went and talked to them? OH BOY! would the s**t hit the fan! see my coworkers act like a bunch of children and the sad thing is, they are adults.
I told one of them today that Brad is pissed and that if something happens to the house or cars that he's going to have a f'en fit and she told me that I was marrying an a$$hole! can you believe that?! her husband controls her every move and yet she has the gall to tell me that! so she told me that she isn't coming to the reception. well fine, that's one less thing i have to worry about. Hopefully she won't do anything stupid and try to get even with him because he made her mad. She was the one who wanted to do all the stupid things to the house and the cars. brad is pissed off. I told him that if I come home and find my cats gone, there will be hell to pay! this sucks! I also told him that I'm not going to have any fun at the reception worrying about the cats all night, wondering if they are ok and if someone is trying anything stupid to the house. mess with the outside, that's fine, just dont' screw with the inside where my cats are. The funniest thing is, everyone at my work place knows how much my cats mean to me, I've told them that I'd go into a burning building for them. I've even compared my cats to their kids. so I think it's sad that they'd even think of doing something like that to me... I'd NEVER think of doing something like that to them... I wish I could get a different job.... I hate most of my coworkers, why do they have to be so childish? and at the ages of between 25 and 45??? the kids I work with are more grown up then they are....so sad...