Sam doesn't want me near him anymore

Whenever I reach out to pet Sam or I talk to him, he jumps out of my reach or totally snubs me. I can't even pick him up and hold him anymore. I assumed that he was in one of his moods and let it go...and go...and go...over the past three weeks he has gotten less and less sociable with me. What is irritating about this all is last nite my boyfriend comes waltzing in, sits down on the couch and Sam immediately jumped into his lap purring and rubbing all over him then settled down and went to sleep. Although I shouldn't be upset, it really bothers me. Sam has always been my lovey boy and now all he wants me to do is feed him and go away.

I posted about something very similar to this a couple of months ago. My sweet little Dori was behaving the same way. She even quit sleeping with me It did really hurt me when it started occuring, so I know how you feel Things got better after a month or so. She comes to cuddle with me, but only at bedtime or 1st thing in the morning. She is also back to sleeping with me. Other than that, she doesn't want much to do with me. Things are very different with my boyfriend though. She loves him and snuggles with him constantly. It still bugs me alot, especially since I am the one who takes care of her, and he used to hate her. But I enjoy my time with her at night and in the early mornings and figure that she is just trying to be independant, as I guess most cats try to be. I know it's hard but try not to take it personally. Sam loves you and depends on you.

I hope your boyfriend isn't like mine who walks around beaming with Dori sitting proud on his shoulder because he knows it bothers me.

No, I think it made my boyfriend nervous since I was sitting there glaring at the both of them. He kept telling Sam they would have to sleep under the porch.

Sam hasnt stopped sleeping with me, but he lays at the end of the bed, well out of my reach instead of laying on my pillow.

Dori used to sleep on my head and now she sleeps down near my legs. How old is Sam? I wonder if it's some stage they go through when they reach a certain age, like kids do. Dori will be 1 and 1/2 in a week.

He just turned a year old last month..was born the day before Easter.

Maybe Sam needs a girl friend.

I just wonder WHY in the name OF GOD are we still spending our time on our boyfriends- and even our precious cats seem to be totally in love with them- AND EVEN if we know- our boyfriends do not have feelings to OUR cats and they are not sooo sensetive, it just makes them feel better- see, even YOUR cat loves me- don't give me a hard time now.... Oh..I just hate it...Fortunatly my Solomon is too small and probably I will have to face the same problem very soon, just because cats are trying to get your attention and as soon as cat insured - YOU LOVE HIM- he moves on to another person and takes a little break from you-the one who's giving him all your snoozzyyy-puzzzy loving things and feelings!!!! He is soo sure that you are gonna feed him every day, even if he wont sleep with you, or jump on your laps, or purr while you're petting him...Doesn't THIS all seem to be soooo familuar to what our boyfriends/husbands think sometimes???? AWWW that makes me soooooo mad!!! Sending you some warm vibes anyways and hope things will go better!
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LOL Nicely said! They learn to take us for granted just like our boyfriends do, I think we are just doomed

So Dori was just a little over a year when this behavior started. I keep hoping it is just a phase. Oh, and one more think I forgot to mention. During this time when Dori didn't want much to do with me, I got really upset when I would come home from work and she would continue sleeping and not get up. I would go over and pick her up and try to cuddle but she would run away. Then I read on this site that sometimes when you ignore them they will respond. So I tried it. Instead of going over to Dori to cuddle with her when I got home, I walked right past her and went into my room to change. Sure enough, a few minutes later Dori came running down the hallway to say hello.

Well, I hope it is a phase and he will outgrow it.

Sam does have a girlfriend, but she ignores everyone all the time so I'm pretty much used to it (including my cat stealing boyfriend).

I changed to a different laundry soap, could it be he thinks I smell funny?

I don't know what's going on with you ladies and your cats. I don't have that problem. When I drive up, my cats, dogs, and one goose are all waiting for me to disembark from the truck so I will give them my undivided attention. Don't ask me my secret because I don't even know that one.

Jeepers is ignoring me today, every so often she'll get all distant and snooty, then, all of a sudden she'll love me again. I can't figure it out either, my other half thought it may be the weather?!?

Abby, it's very likely that he hasn't gotten used to your new "scent". Just a switch in the soap you use changes your scent dramatically to them, and you smell unfamiliar. Give him a couple days, and hope your bf doesn't rub it in too much! )

Sam go back to your momma, like now. Lots of hugs, good vibes to you Abby. We will never understand our furbabes as much as they understand us. But don't we love them.

Today Sam was sitting on the dining room window sill (his usual post) and was chatting with me. I was talking back and kept saying to come over to me. He got up like he was going to come over and visit and instead whapped my leg and took off running to the bedroom where he sat giving me dirty looks. He OBVIOUSLY has a big issue with me right now.

Awwww Abby, I am sorry Glad you are finding humor in it. Yesterday morning after my bf left for work I tried to get Dori to come and snuggle with me. I called her and she jumped right up on the bed and attacked my arm, she wrapped around it, bit me and kicked her back feet like a bunny then ran away I just fed her, so I dunno why she was being like that. Silly kitty!

Sam does that to me too. Sally is now shredding every piece of paper she can get her lips on, I've caught her in the act 6 times now. She was after one of my books for next semester last nite, when I chased her away, I found her a bit later in my kids dresser drawer shredding one of his drawings I think they are all on a mission to drive me crazy!

Dori hasn't taken to shredding paper, but once she was so mad at me she planted her little self right inside my backpack and peed right on my books! That could have been expensive, but luckily the only book I ended up needing to replace only cost $15.00.

Trent has gone through "anti-Mommy" phases too. He would just all of a sudden decide he either wanted to be an independent kitty or that Daddy was better. And just as suddenly he would get really clingy, like "I need my Mommy!!!" But he wasn't ever real standoffish toward me, he just ignored me.

I heard two of you saying your cat did this at 1 years old. I have heard they do go through a kind of adolescence, like they feel more independent and "who needs you". Mine is kind of like that too. I get hurt too so I know how you feel! He used to be so into me, rolled around when I got him, jumped in my lap.
Now he seems more off on his own. He's stilla sweety but LOVES to go outside and run and play. Funny about them still coming to you first thing in the am, he does that. I dont feed him then either and he isn't pushy, just comes to cuddle.

Well hang in there, I am sure it's a phase. Ihave heard that cats will sometimes even go to the lap of the cat hater cause they won't mess with them. Cats so love their indepedence.

The adolescence phase makes sense..Feed me and give me what I need and want and leave me alone.

The other nite Sam jumped up on the couch next to me and I just looked at him and said hello. I didn't touch him or anything, the next minute he was up playing in my hair trying to get my attention so I talked to him but didn't touch him. He looked at me like "well Im here, pet me" so I got a few pats in and he took off. Such a male!