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post #1 of 30
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I am coming off list for a while as am struggling to cope daily at the moment with life. I have just come back from the vet without my tabby cat who has suddenly lost a lot of weight and of which the vet diagnosed total kidney collapse.
Euthanasia was the only thing for him that would give him peace. He would have died anyway. Someone please tell me we did the right thing.
I have completely had enough these days and just cannot take much more, thats the second cat I have lost as well as a relative and a dear mate in the last twelve months. Its just too much for me.
I am trying to console a distressed wife as well as a 4 year old who is devastated and cant stop crying. How do you explain to a child what has happened?
Say a prayer for him please - we have had him for 8 years and has not enjoyed the best of health at all. We gave him the best. Somewhere there is a photo of him on TCS - say hi for me and let him know we always loved him, always will.
Take care everyone
1132647790 - UK
post #2 of 30
I will be sending prayers to your family.

I know how hard it is to lose what seems like everything in such a short time. You did the best thing for your kitty, he most likely would have suffered. My dog had liver cancer and toward the end, it was just best to put him down and let him rest. He was my baby for 11 years, so I can completly relate. Especially when it feels like it will never stop, but rest assured it will. Things will slow down and life will get back on track. This is just a big speed bump you need to slow down for.

I think your best bet is to tell your son the truth. Let him know that your kitty was in a lot of pain and the only way to ease the pain was to put him to rest. You'd be amazed at how much children understand and how consoling they are. Allow your son time to maybe talk about how he's feeling about everything and talk to him about it. I'm sure that will help him understand more.

My prayers going out to you. Hang in there!
post #3 of 30
OMG! I am sorry! Kev you are such a wonderful person, you don't deserve the bad things happening to you. Take some time and regroup, we will still be here waiting for you when you come back!
post #4 of 30
Oh, Kev, I'm so sorry! You had no alternative but to have him put to sleep. May he rest in peace. I think kids can to some extent comprehend death, so your best bet is just telling your son the truth - that the cat was just too sick to live. You've had a really rough time lately, and I hope you find the strength to get through this rough patch.
post #5 of 30
Oh Kev, I am so sorry. You certainly have had your share this past year.

I know it's hard for you to believe right now, but you did do the right thing. You allowed your baby to pass on to the Bridge with dignity, and without the pain he would have had, had you not done the compassionate thing for him.

You are such a warm and caring human being, and I pray that things will start turning around in your life very soon.
post #6 of 30
Kev I am so sorry for your loss.
post #7 of 30
I'm so sorry. It must be hard to console your wife and child when you, yourself are grieving. My thoughts and prayers are with you. You did the right thing, letting him go instead of living on to suffer.
post #8 of 30
Kev, I'm so sorry for your loss. You abosolutely did the right thing, and try to remember that he knew love the entire time he shared with you. Kids are often smarter than we give them credit for. Tell him the truth. If he doesn't understand something, let him ask questions, and let him know that you and Mom are very sad too...
post #9 of 30
What wonderful parents you were! Your baby is at peace, he is no longer in pain. Such a wonderful blessing you gave him, of course you did the right thing. Don't berate yourselves for doing a kindness in a time of need. Take some rest and enjoy the wonderful memories that you have. You are truely loving and kind.
post #10 of 30
Words are not enough... God bless.
post #11 of 30
I am so sorry to hear about your kitty. Of course you did the only thing you could do. I wish I had the words to make you feel better. Best to you and your family.
post #12 of 30
I am so sorry to hear about your kitty. Of course you did the only thing you could do. I wish I had the words to make you feel better. Best to you and your family.
post #13 of 30
Kev I am so sorry. You gave him a life filled with love and helped him to die in a peaceful way, you have done everything that is right. God Bless and I will be praying for you all.
post #14 of 30
Kev, I'm so sorry! Your little sweetie is in my thoughts along with you and your family. Many hugs to you my friend!
((((((((((((((((((((((((( HUGS ))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
post #15 of 30
THis Is Charlie WE are so sorry
I Know How You Feel I lost my Dad in March 1997 We had the service on Sunday
on Monday we get up the cat is sick took her to the vet She has congestive heart
failure the same thing that Dad had. I Gave her a Lasix every day until Oct.31 1997
We had to put her down,on Feb 20, 1996 we lost the store to a fire could not find a
cause I was questioned for Arson was cleared So I know a little bit of how it fells
hang in there it gets better just Keep 'Looking Ahead".
Kev would you PM or E_mail me your Address PLease.
post #16 of 30
Ohhh Kev I am so sorry to read this and my heart is going out to you
Kev you did the right thing and sometimes it is not easy to do the right thing and it hurts deep insite of you . I sure will be praying for all of you

May your sweet boy RIP
post #17 of 30
I am so sorry for your loss - you are all in my thoughts
post #18 of 30

Sometimes the right thing is the hardest to do. And you did the right thing.

Your entire family will be in my thoughts. Take the time to grieve for all your losses. When you are ready, we will be here.

post #19 of 30
Kev -

I am so very sorry for your loss and everything else you are going through. You did the right thing, it shows how very much you loved your kitty. It's the hardest decision pet owners have to make. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

Jill and Candy
post #20 of 30
Oh Kev, I am so sorry about your loss. He is now at peace and at the rainbow bridge with his buddy - they are both waiting for you, with Clive.

I wish I could be there for you, but you are in my thoughts

post #21 of 30
Kev, you spared your tabby from further suffering and allowed him to pass away quickly and peacefully, I truly believe what you did for him is the greatest act of kindness of them all.

Others have given you exellent advice on how to help your son cope with his grief. I think it would also help comfort your son if you read the Rainbow Bridge poem to him, because none of us ever really know what we will find in the afterlife.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family, and I hope things start going better for you soon.
post #22 of 30
Kev - I'm so sorry. Many to you and your family as you all go through this sad time.

What you did was the kindest thing possible for your sweet loving kitty.

He's now at the bridge free of all his health problems awaiting you all there.

Take time to grieve with your family. Our thoughts are with you now.

Take care. *hugs*
post #23 of 30
Kev, I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I too, have lost 2 of my babies during the course of a year. They were much older, but it is never easy. But one thing is for sure, you did the right thing. You cared and loved your cat so much, that you freed him from his pain and suffering. Take care of yourself and take time to grieve the loss of your kitty. Your baby is now at the bridge in Gods loving arms free of pain, along with my sweet "Bea" and "Tabby Girl" and all the others.
post #24 of 30
Oh god Kev i'm so sorry!. As if you havent been through enough.

Im sure you did the right thing, because you couldn't see your baby suffer.

Sending and head butts from myself , Rosie and Baby Sophie
post #25 of 30

Difficult as it was you did the right thing.
You put your baby before yourself and let him go peacefully.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Kids are really pretty good with losses such as this.
My kids are grown now and we always had brother and sister pets as they were growing up.
My youngest daughter is 31 now and she said that it was really good to have learned about death at an early age. She says it has helped her in her older age to deal with life.(That is what she said"In her older years".) And she learned early to appreciate life and to live life to the fullest.
You take care and I will be thinking of you.
Love and Life,
post #26 of 30
im sorry for your loss you did what you could for her she will always be in your heart and thoughts now she will watch over you until you meet agian
post #27 of 30
I am so sorry for your loss You did the right thing for your baby. It takes a very strong person with a lot of love to let something go. My boy Nemo will watch over him until you meet again at the bridge. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.
post #28 of 30
Thread Starter 
Just wanted to say thanks to you all for your kind words. It has been and remains a hard week having lost my tabby, a cat that is extremely missed in and outside of the house. In every way we have found that we have a huge void in the house that is not fillable at all. I am going outside a lot where Brandy used to curl up under the hedge and sleep in the sun and the ground there is still flattened. We have decided that we are to get a stone cast cat from the garden centre if we can find one and then place it in this area that will remain forever his.
Four deaths in a space of nine months has been a little too much these days as I think people can appreciate, however, the line that life goes on is true and it does. Whether we will get another in time, who knows? Time will tell.
However, we all go through this at a time - its the fact that our animals, irrespective of size, age, color etc are given the best and are given a gift of love that only a cat lover can give, even to the end, is the best part of it all.
May your god bless you all for your kind words and thoughts and, well, when words are not enough, you remain in my thoughts.
post #29 of 30
That's a fitting idea with the garden statue.

Best wishes and my sincerest condolonces.

Life does indeed go on, be well Kev.

post #30 of 30
Kev - the biggest hugs possible. Your love shines through all your posts . . . you are a good man and those that have your love are lucky indeed.

Your losses have been harsh and I sincerely hope that you have the inner strength to carry on . . . there are those that love and need you and that love and need will I hope and pray carry you through to better times.

Look after yourself and please be there for those that care for you in mind, body and spirit.

Loads of love
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