I'm not mad at my son at all now. I'm a pretty forgiving person and I refuse to hold a grudge against my children especially. I very seldom show any anger towards my kids. Every once in awhile, right before I sit in the corner to drool and eat my own hair, I will "ARRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGGG", they always tell one another "now you done drove mom crazy, way to go". I always tell them, I am angry with what choice you just made and I go to another room to choose my words carefully so they get the message of what Im saying instead of just hearing mom's mad. Ive found it to be a good strategy because they never know what the outcome may be and they have time to think about what they did.
He offered up his birthday money to pay for his part of the vet bill. I told him it wasn't about the money, it was about learning consequences of a poor choice he made. (I don't use the word "bad")
Sam seems to be forgiving too, since he laid next to him all evening on the couch purring up a storm and loving a 2 hour belly rub. We also agreed that this whole incident stays with us (and Grandma since she was here)
I think enough was said and enough was done, and no one else needs to say anything to him about it. I hate when my kids do something then have to hear about it for 3 weeks from different people. My phliosphy is: its done, over, fixed, we've learned, lets move on. I think this will take some time, since he's got quite a debt, but he's already worked off $3 of it from taking out the bathroom trash, rinsing dishes and helping fold laundry tonite. He's a very very smart boy, he catches on fast.