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Brad decided that he wanted to do our invitations for the wedding so I told him that was fine and dandy but he needed to have them done by April 15. He said it'd be no problem. Well this day has some and gone and no invitations. Now am I being unreasonable or should I be starting to worry? I mean don't you usually have them at LEAST one month (ok maybe a week or two) before you send tham out? We have less then two weeks before they should be sent out and now he's all mad because I just asked him when he is going to finish then and that I needed a date not " I'll get them done". So he told me to do them myself, knowing that I can't because I am not good with computers.
What am I going to do? do you think that there is ANY way that if I try and order invitations professionally they'd be ready in less then two weeks???
I know he's just spitting crap, but darnit, I'm sick of wondering when he's going to be done procrastinating and just finish them. I had to nag him to get him to order the rings so they'd be here on time. he thought that they'd take two or three days, finally I convinced him that they take longer then that, he believed me when the place called him and verified the information, and then told him that the rings would be ready at the end of the month or the beginning of May. He hasn't ordered his suit and that is irritating me also.
Yes I do know he wants to get married, he like I said, just puts things off until the last minute and that drives me crazy!
I like to know things are done and ready to go so that there won't be and surprises, I have my lists and I make sure that I check to see that things I need are done and ready well in advance!
Someone help!!!!!!!
 

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Argh! Poor you! I can sympathise - my hubby is a procrastinator and it irritates me to no end!

Is there any way you can take over what he is procrastinating? I would rather do a lot of things myself, that way I know I have peace of mind.

But I am sure things will come together in the end and all that frustration will be gone.

Good luck! *hugs*
 

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I can also sympathise with this. I got married just over 12 months ago and went through similar things like this.

I did our invitations myself without any help from Chris (which didnt bother me one bit!!) and I remember my mother and I up until past midnight one sunday getting them all finished as I wanted them in the post on the monday.
I dont think it matters if you have them finished 2 weeks or 1 day before you need to send them out - as long as they go out when you need them too then thats all that matters.

Their are so many things to do for a wedding and so many frustrations - my advice is just to take a deep breath and know that everything will work out fine and the frustrations will be worth it the day that you say "I do"

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You are going to have to accept him for who he is, and know that as much as you believe he needs to change, he probably won't. Instead of getting angry make the venture a joint one. Sit down with him and ask him to show you how he is going to design the invitations, make it seem like it is his idea to do this, and it will get done a lot quicker. You are getting a taste of what spending the rest of your life with him is liable to be like, and if you can't handle it now, then please don't walk down the aisle with him. And if you can handle it, then more power to you. Most procrastinators are actually deep thinkers at heart.
 

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Barb, I SO understand! That's why I did everything for our wedding myself.


Do you have the envelopes already? That's the part that takes the longest with the invitations is addressing the envelopes. Maybe if you could start doing that part yourself, he would see that he's slowing down the process.

Maybe you could work out a deal with him to do just a few at a time so it doesn't seem like it would take up so much time? If Brad is anything like Earl, then anything that interferes with his fun time on the computer gets put off forever. If he thinks printing the invitations will take a couple of hours out of gaming time, especially after work, he won't do it. But 5-10 minutes might be easier to swallow. And you can combine it with you addressing the envelopes so you are BOTH working on it (that works with Earl too....if I'm not working on the same thing, he doesn't want to do it, even if I'm really working on something else).
 
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Thanks everyone, it's nice to know I don't have to only procrastinator in the world! LOL! Hissy, I know that this is a taste of forever, believe me I've actually been putting up with his procrastinating for close to 10 years!
It just makes me nuts sometimes and I need someone to whine to! I really do love him with all my heart and want to spend the rest of my life with him, I promise! I just needed a little vent! I'm better now and actually I think I might have gotten some of the invitations done, I just need some help wording my reception invitations.
I have to wedding ones done( it's going to be family only at the wedding that's why I need two different invitations) pretty much, like i said, I just need help wording the reception ones. and then hopefully I can take them to Kinkos and get them printed up and they will be done!!!!!
 

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Should not the wedding coordinator be responsible for sending out the invitations. Just give the person the list and they would do it. Or if not the wedding planner, then the hotel doing the reception would also send out the invitations.
 
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I wish I had a wedding planner or someone to do it all for me. but alas, I'm poor and have to do 99% of it myself. I'll be lucky to scrape by getting things I need for this, the day before the wedding, some friends and I are going to the reception hall and decorating it, my maid of honor is making my veil and all the flowers because real ones are a fortune! My dress was a steal at $200.00 for the dress and $135.00 for the alterations! We still have to pay for the cake, the catering, his suit, small things like that. I have to darn much to do! UGH!!!!!
 

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Yeah i've been there with my husband as well!.

Theres a saying goes "If you want a job doing, do it yourself!". I also sorted everything when i got married. I know it's hard, but don't stress yourself otherwise it's going to ruin your big day.

You'll laugh about it afterwards
 

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Originally Posted by jugen

I wish I had a wedding planner or someone to do it all for me. but alas, I'm poor and have to do 99% of it myself. I'll be lucky to scrape by getting things I need for this, the day before the wedding, some friends and I are going to the reception hall and decorating it, my maid of honor is making my veil and all the flowers because real ones are a fortune! My dress was a steal at $200.00 for the dress and $135.00 for the alterations! We still have to pay for the cake, the catering, his suit, small things like that. I have to darn much to do! UGH!!!!!
Oh wow this sounds EXACTLY like my sisters wedding! right down to the dress and the alterations
She only got the reception place 2 weeks before the wedding as she was not happy with the original one! If you are hiring a suit - this needs to be at least a couple of weeks before as they might not have his size etc. She did her own hair and stuff (1/2 hour before the wedding). Nice but cheap invites from Woolworths which they filled out together - good idea. My sis did it on just under 2 grand in the end which was a miracle but it was a terrific day and would have been no better had she spent twice as much. It did stress her out a bit but on the day she was calm and beautiful as will you be.
 

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Barb, I agree with the excellent advice Hissy gave you. Maybe Brad's procrastination is getting to you more than usual right now because you're under pressure while you plan your wedding,
and you want everything to be just perfect for your big day!!!!
 
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