Please help my friend

Today my friend Amanda (she's 25 years old) told me her Mom is going to die. It might be in a few days or a few months, they aren't sure. Her mom has had health problems in the past but it looks like this might be the "time". I don't know what to say since I have never been in this situation before, so I was hoping to get some stories for her to read from other forum members. Any stories (happy or sad) will help. She's trying to keep her hopes up, but she's also preparing for the worst and she doesn't have much of a support system right now. Thanks in advance for everyone's help

I don't have any stories to share, but I wanted to send Amanda some positive vibes to help her get through this difficult time.

When I was in 4th grade my mom got really sick. She spent 3 weeks in the hospital. They released her to go home and said she had about 6 months if she was lucky..harsh as that may sound..When she came home, she shared my clothes because all her clothes were too big for her to wear. I remember my knee socks came up over her knees. She spent a year laying around on the couch. I remember coming home from school and laying on the couch with her watching tv. Anyways, I am 27 years old and she is still here, happy and loving life as it comes. I dont know if this would help any, but I remember quite well how it feels to think you are losing your mom.


My thoughts and prayers are with you, your friend and her family

Buy her..."a short guide to a happy life"..by Anna Quindlen...Anna lost her mom in college. The book/movie "One True Thing" is about the experience of losing her mom.

Katie

You be there for her!

When my dad died i was about 24 years old. My next door neighbour had forgot her house keys and was waiting for her husband.

When she saw me pull up, she said she panicked as she didn't know what to say to me and hid around the back of her house.

That was the worst thing she could have done, and if anything it really hurt me!.

If your friend wants to cry, let her.

If she wants to talk, let her, you don't even need to say anything.

If she hasn't rang you, ring her.

As long as your there for her your helping her!.

Your friend and her mum are in my thoughts.

No stories I'm afraid as everyone acts differently at such times.Just be there for her and as Rosiemac says if she doesnt call you - call her. She may feel bad about leaning on you so may hold back - dont let her.
You are in my thoughts
Alexis

Unfortunatley I know what you mean - my dad is dying and may only have a week or so. The friends that know don't push - they send little e-mails during the day saying things like - it's little quite over there, you ok? - just knowing they are our there for me is the best thing. Tell her you are there for her day or night, that is the best gift you can give her now along with your unwavering support!

I lost my mother when I was 23, so unfortunately I have an idea of what she's going through. I don't know exactly because it's different for everyone.

I'd say to let her lead the way. A lot of times when I would talk to my friends, we would talk about silly stuff, what was gong on in their lives or whatever. I couldn't always talk about my mother - it was just too....much, I guess.

Don't ask if there's anything you can do... just think of something appropriate and do it. My next-door neighbor just going ahead and mowing our lawn meant so much more to us than the hoards of people saying, "If you need anything, let us know."

Your friend is lucky to have you as support in a time like this!