Heidi, you aren't insulting me at all. You are right that it is very different when it is your own family going through something like this.
I just went back and re-read the e-amil from my sister (yes, I found out by e-mail....that's just like my family!). The news doesn't sound as bad as I initially thought it did. Apparently, the surgeon found the "tiny" tumors completely by accident. They were checking out several calcifications and simply stumbled across these small tumors. They are going to do a mastectomy only because they are concerned that since the mammogram, ultrasound, and initial needle biopsy didn't find these little tumors, that there might be more of them in there. They will biopsy her lymph nodes next week to see whether it has spread, but they feel hopeful because the tumors were so small.
But...I'm still a puddle of emotions. I just cried in front of my secretary and am truly sick to my stomach.
Everyone, I am so glad you all are here to support me while my sister and the family goes through this. Having you here with me means a lot to me.